To share tips on how I went from 12 and a half stone - to 7 and a half stone in 9 months?

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I’m a female in my 30s.

Thus year I’ve gone down 5 stone from 12.5 stone to 7.5 stone (skinny minny!!)

The way I’ve sing this stick to 1300 calories a day and do one form of exercise a day e.g running for half hour or swimming for half hour or aerobics class.

I’ve also had a crush on a bloke in work and one thing definitely kept me on track with the diet/ exercise plan was saying to myself
“ if I stick to this plan today, I’ll be a bit lighter/fitter when I see John.” / this way of thinking has REALLY helped!! If you haven’t got a ‘John’ as it were, pretend that you do in a figurative sense.

how I stop myself from cheating in the evening is looking at TV programmes I want to watch or magazines/ newspapers I like. And any treats - going to spa at local leisure centre etc - anything that takes my mind away from eating!

Hope this helps at least one person in some way!

UPFs were not invented 25 years ago, don’t be bloody ridiculous. Have you heard of vesta curries and findus crispy pancakes??? Fray Bentos pies?? Come on. Bless you!

Well done on your weight loss, you must feel fantastic.
I’m losing weight and have a “Joan” rather than a “John” to motivate me.
The thing is though, I really struggle with the idea of somebody who only wants me at a specific size. It feels very superficial.

Well done OP! It can’t have been easy for you so congratulations. It’s a good age to lose it too - I hope you can maintain (I’m sure you will) because it does get harder the older we get, and the skin doesn’t shrink back quite as well either!

Keep it off for YOU and your overall health, not John or anyone else. You deserve the body you’re happy and healthy with.

You've lost all that weight, John only fancies "slim pretty girls", but he still hasn't shagged you?

John is so going to turn up with his boyfriend one day. 😯🤣

And announce that hes bi and that he likes his women curvy

It sounds incredibly unhealthy and I think the posters coming on to congratulate her need to think how women with vulnerable MH and body issues might take some of this applause,

Or cheat with the chubby girl in the office.

So that'd be 28 and a half minutes longer than normal then...lol !

I don't believe you.

You averaged four pounds a week loss over 9 months. That's really hard to do, unless you have an eating disorder, weight loss jabs or a disease like cancer where you are losing a lot of weight quickly.

Either you starved yourself which is incredibly unhealthy or you used laxatives and vomiting. Both of these are eating disorders.

Or you're lying.

In any case 7.5 stone is incredibly low weight, even for your height. You've probably lost muscle as well as fat and you're not well. You say you're a size 8 but I'm a size 10 and my BMI is in the overweight area. (I'm aware that the sizing has changed from years ago, so while it might be a size 8 from the 80s, you'd be a 6 or a 4 these days.). Your BMI is underweight.

I don't think you can maintain that weight for more than a year and only by starving or purging.

What you are advocating is actually quite dangerous and if it's true, I suggest you seek help for disordered eating.

And what has John done to make himself more attractive?

I miscalculated as it's 2lb a week, but it's still a crash diet and I'm surprised the OP didn't plateau. It's an eating disorder or weight loss jabs.

Even the headline is click bait "to share tips".

I have reported the thread for misinformation because I'm concerned that other women will try and copy this and end up with an eating disorder.

Well done op.

Ok a wee bit negative but now the really hard work starts in my experience.

Maintaining is harder than taking weight off imo.

Good luck

“John wouldn’t fancy me if I was heavier he goes for slim pretty girls !”

A man who values women for their looks, rather you than me 🚩🚩🚩🚩

The wording of the OP is making me think of a mature student I was at university with in the 1990s who used to wear a badge that said “Lose weight now. Ask me how.” on her coat. I’m not sure what she was selling because I never did ask her how.

🤣🤣🤣

Was John worth it…

Honestly, if my DP was 5.5 stone heavier when we met, I wouldn’t fancy him and wouldn’t have gone out with him and I bet most people would be the same.

Firstly you overestimate how big that is and underestimate how much a lot of men like boobs and softer women. I've been bigger and smaller and at no point have I struggled to find a partner. I'm married now to someone I've been with for 19 years and my weight has varied by 5 stone, ups and downs, across our relationship. It's never been a problem. And he's an attractive, educated, high earning man if you're wondering as well, not some cretin taking up space. Your level of body fat is not a predictor of your ability to find love. Lack of self esteem to the point in the op might be.

I wouldn't have gone out with my now husband if he made sexist jokes, had bigoted right wing views, was a mysogynist, had no chat, wasn't able to make me laugh, seemed uncaring, had children he didn't see, complained in a red flag way about a toxic ex etc etc etc, if he was heavier than he is I wouldn't have blinked at that at all. So I guess we all value different things

I was brought up in the 70s on angel delight and Smash. Have remained slim all my life. People need to get a sense of perspective with UPFs.

It would put some people off though. The bmi is well into the obese category. It's not even to do with looks.It's to do with health

You can't be that obese and still be healthy. I'm quite an outdoorsy person and I like to go hiking and for long walks. One of my friends couldn't manage this at all because of her weight which is a similar bmi to what she was. So if you meet somebody who's an outdoorsy person or he has outdoor hobbies it's a nogo. I wouldn't go out with an obese man because of that

Even my bmi is twenty seven so i'm in the overweight category.

Why does so many women assess their looks and weight on what the men find attractive. Some men like fat women, soft bodies and soft boobs well do they - who cares?! Why should that matter? It's about your body and what you want. Why does so many women factor in what men find attractive.

Her BMI is not underweight. It’s 19.2 ish which is at the low end of the healthy range. I have been that build all my life and am 55. I look absolutely fine and even have boobs. I even discussed it with my GP recently after a bone scan. He was not concerned about my weight and neither am I. Some of us are simply built differently. It’s not an underweight BMI so please stop spreading misinformation about that.

Basically you’re skinny fat. Skinny on outside fat on inside - which is not good. You’re earning lots of convenience and packets which are insulin raising full of junk not nutrient dense whole foods. If you’re not strength training you’ll likely also have poor bone density so a candidate for osteoporosis

youre thin but don’t sound particularly healthy and I bet you’re not getting anywhere near enough good protein

I'm 5 foot 4 (I have PCOS which at the time of this story was unmedicated) and at my heaviest, 15 stone, I was running 30km a week. 3x10k runs and 3 nights a week at the gym doing strength training as well as following an NHS eating plan. Lost nothing. Now I'm on Metformin for my PCOS and normal diet and exercise changes change my weight in a predictabke way but you can be heavy and exercise and be outdoorsy. At that time I had a dog I walked an hour a day and played roller derby (hence the training)