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Rude people in the theatre

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Katrinawaves · 02/11/2025 08:34

What goes through people’s heads when they behave poorly in the theatre? We go quite regularly but it’s becoming more and more common to have people chat through the performance or arrive late or leave early.

Last night we went to see Punch at the Apollo which is a really emotionally challenging play which relies heavily on the audience investing in the main characters. There was a woman in the row behind us who had dropped her phone just as the play was starting and was loudly asking everyone around her if they had seen it over the top of the actors performing and moving around and craning in her seat. When she finally found her phone she didn’t bother switching it off, so of course mid way through the first act, it rang loudly and then she couldn’t find it again to silence it quickly so she swore loudly and huffed and puffed until she could! After the interval when she got back to her seat, she again chatted loudly to her companion for the first few minutes of the performance.

it’s so rude and disrespectful both to the performers but also to other theatre goers who have paid £150+ for a seat to watch the play not to listen to somebody’s mundane life dramas!

There was even a spoken announcement at the beginning of the show asking people not to talk or eat noisy food and to switch their phone off so in the unlikely event she didn’t know what normal social etiquette requires she was actually told seconds before she started to act like a toddler.

AIBU to think the theatre staff should ask anyone who makes such a disturbance in the first half of a play to leave at the interval as a deterrent to others and to ensure that they don’t spoil the whole play for others.

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LaurieFairyCake · 07/03/2026 15:42

Last month I was at the ballet. There are particular seats I love in the front row. You can see every one of the musicians in the orchestra pit, it’s next to the conductor but they’re not blocking your view, you’ve greater leg space than the rows behind, and obviously the best view of the stage.

Just seconds before the performance started this really horrid woman behind me said her daughter couldn’t see over me. For about a second I didn’t quite know what to say Confused as I’m 4 foot 10.

So I literally said that 😂 ‘what do you expect me to do, I’m 4 foot 10, I reckon I’m the shortest person in here apart from her’. (Kid was about 10 and maybe only an inch shorter than me).

Anyway the performance then immediately started (not a kids ballet, not in half term or anything, literally hardly any children there, I think I only saw a couple in a huge venue)

At the interval DH went to get ice cream and heard her on the phone complaining to someone that she hadn’t been able to buy front row seats and she couldn’t persuade the woman in front of her to move. Hmm

He came back laughing and told me. When she returned she deliberately kicked the back of my seat hard and I turned round and gave her the biggest maniacal grin I could manage 😂 (I would have told her to fuck off but her kid came back) Frankly she looked quite unnerved at me grinning at her.

bendmeoverbackwards · 07/03/2026 17:36

@LaurieFairyCake I love watching the orchestra.

tommyhoundmum · 07/03/2026 18:25

I went to see The Rolling Stones in a small theatre in Manchester when they first started.

I was up in the balcony and as they began singing, the girl in the row in front jumped over the balcony and crashed down into the stalls. At which point everyone in the stalls ran for the stage.

Holidaytimeyay · 07/03/2026 18:43

regular theatre goer here. Behaviour is normally ok but on occasion I have experienced, a parent put a wriggling child on her lap who was almost lying over me and kicking as well for most of the performance, a man at the end of the row who kept checking his phone, a woman in front who kept her bobble hat on during the performance (making it hard to see) and then she kept putting her head on her partners shoulder (making it even harder to see as no gap to see through), audience members standing up and clapping before the end of the performance. Generally though behaviour has been fairly good.

Holidaytimeyay · 07/03/2026 18:48

SusiQ18472638 · 03/11/2025 22:24

I go to the theatre very regularly and every time there are people talking through it, eating noisily, drinking too much and being obnoxious, letting their children talk loudly and/or move around, singing along to musicals, arriving late and then making a fuss getting to seats when the show is in progress….I could go on! I find it absolutely ridiculous that people can’t just sit still and shut up for a couple of hours to watch the thing everyone has paid lots of money to see!!

Ahh yes, I forgot about that, the latecomers. I don’t think they should be let in if they arrive after the performance has started. It’s so disruptive and disrespectful and theatre seats cost so much money,

Handeyethingyowl · 07/03/2026 23:41

I attended a youth production of Les Mis today. A woman sitting behind me sang all the solos and talked to her toddler in her normal voice throughout. The toddler was only little and it was a long performance, but the mum had no excuse. She managed to shush the toddler only when she was busy singing!

TheRoseBear · 08/03/2026 01:40

We went to see the Bodyguard in Manchester recently. It was just awful.The bits we heard of the show were good, but we couldn't hear whole sections of the performance due to the noise and disruption throughout. Sadly, it felt like stressful waste of money and I'll think twice about going again. One group sat in front of us talking and unwrapping sweets (one was holding up opal fruits, some of which appeared to be double wrapped, then she thoroughly scrunched up the wrappers and put them back in the bag, then dug around for the next sweet...), then some of the group got up and went to stand at the back of the room talking, people chatting next to the bar door waiting for it to open, sooooo many toilet visits, then people getting lost on the way back and having to ask other members of the audience for help, multiple phones going off, balcony floor and stairs creaked loudly every time someone took a step... it went on and on and on and on)

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