To date a man with four kids by two women?

[Carlott4]

I’ve met someone I really like, but he has four kids by two women. Both were long term relationships. Would you go there?

Put it this way - my late husband had two adult children when we got married and that was challenging enough.

No. I'd expect, if he's a decent guy, him to put his kids first, and wouldn't want to be left behind. "(Really sorry about our weekend away, but Claire can't look after them that weekend so I'll have to cancel our trip.")

No, too much baggage & potential drama. How old is he?

No. Would definitely not go there.

🤣🤣🤣
(I 100% agree. There are not enough barge poles in the world )

I know someone who has 10 children between 2 women. I think women would be bat shit crazy to get involved with him the 3rd time around.

Exactly what I was thinking.

It depends. If I already had children myself and I didn’t want any more then yes I don’t see why not. If I was looking to start a family with him then no.

Me too

Nope

Nooooooooooooooooo way in hell

Ok for a bit of casual fun but not to set up home with. Put your foot down early on, tell him there will be no talk of living together until his youngest is 18 and you definitely don't want to meet any of them for at least another 2 years. If he's looking for a nanny with a fanny he will drop you to look for the next candidate.

Absolutely not. Not even if they were with the same woman

Well this is the most unanimous set of responses I’ve ever seen to a post!

And I am not going to buck that trend.
Absolutely no way, op.
Assuming he’s a half-decent Dad then I’d be expecting him to be seeing those 4 kids on a regular basis, and contributing significantly financially.
If he isn’t doing the above, then I’d judge him. And wouldn’t want to date him anyway.

But if he is, then he isn’t really going to have time, or maybe not as much time as you’d like, for a relationship. And you can’t really complain about that, cos the kids obviously should come first.

Then what if you also want kids. How on earth does that even begin to play out.

So I’m adding my agreement to the others. It’s too bloody complicated. There will be other men out there with easier personal lives.

Oh this is why need the 😂 back!

Absolutely not

Smart women don't even have to ask!

Recipe for disaster.

If he was a decent man, surely one of them would have wanted to keep him!

He must be an absolute charmer looking for the next nanny with a fanny...

I was about to link the exact same thread 😂

Run, don’t walk away. And no - don’t have “casual fun” with him as some people have said.

That’s exactly how it starts, then a
woman gets hooked emotionally and/or falls pregnant accidentally and ends up feeling trapped.

Sad but true lol

Nope not a chance!

..... there are a lot of desperate women out there.

Same 😂

Run away. How can it possibly end well??