I really do not like DH new look after having cosmetic surgery!

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I’ve been married to DH for 22 yrs. We have a pretty good marriage overall I think.
3 years ago he lost a significant amount of weight (215lbs) and he looks absolutely fantastic and is in great health now. He has been approved for skin removal surgery on the NHS but they are only doing chest and arms (which is fair I think) as it’s not considered cosmetic.
He wanted to also have an upper and lower blepharoplasty on his eyes. He said it bothered him and made him look older than he was. I said I understand and wanted him to feel better about himself as he’s worked tremendously hard living a ketogenic lifestyle and I’m proud of him for this.

Last month he went abroad to have the procedure done and now it’s about 4 weeks later I have to say I hate the way it’s changed his whole eye look! He looks like he’s always staring so intensely now and it stresses me out as they just are not the same eyes I’ve loved since we were 20yrs old. The surgery itself was done perfectly and the lower blepharoplasty does look good as he has no bags under eyes anymore but the eyelid just so startling to me now. I don’t say much about it as I know he’s happy with the results but it’s so hard to get used to him looking different!
I honestly do not know whether to ever say I don’t like it or not?

To give you an idea, Bradley Cooper has recently had this done to his eyes and he gives the same kind of wide eyed look now too. Many people are commenting on this I’ve seen online and fear people may be also thinking this about him or talking behind his back about it.

AIBU to raise my thoughts about it or should I keep my thoughts about his new look to myself?

I googled Bradley Cooper, his entire face looks different and unattractive compared to before imo.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-15195205/amp/Why-does-Bradley-Cooper-look-different-Plastic-surgeon-gives-verdict-Oscar-winning-stars-taut-visage.html

mentally well people don't mind aging 😂
brilliant

Stay away from hairdressers, teeth whitening, beauty salons and any beauty treatment if you like, it does not make you the only one mentally well, quite the opposite.

because the (HORRIBLE) pressure on others to meet ridiculous beauty standands
It was always obvious THIS was your issue. You are jealous and bitter, and staying "natural" is not making you look good in comparison with everybody else. How sad for you.

Meanwhile, people cannot help but comment how much better does Kate Middleton look after all the recent and less recent cosmetic surgeries she's having.

If she's the one proving how to do it right, keep it light and natural, but how much better and younger does she look.

@CoolFineDoneWicked, I'd imagine it's got more to do with the brief to the surgeon. As PPs have noted, freshly bug-eyed celebs seem happy enough so they probably asked to have their eyes 'opened up' or to look 'wide awake'.

That’s not what informed choice is my love xxxx

It’s a bit dark but he looks like family members of mine in the chapel of rest now.

Definition of informed choice
(of a decision or judgement) based on an understanding of the facts of the situation.

Are you saying that he was fully informed about the possibility that his partner would find him deeply weird looking or unattractive after surgery, and that some people see evidence of cosmetic surgery as a depressing reminder of vanity or mental illness in the victim of predatory cosmetic surgeons?

He looks like a cross between Simon Cowell and Rasputin!

I completely understand. I felt the same when DH injured his face resulting a big, permanent scar - I absolutely hated it & it took absolutely AGES for me to be able to look at him without feeling intense rage!

Not seen anything about her having cosmetic procedures- how would we know? Apart from her hair I havent noticed her looking any different or better. What are the rumours?

His decision was never just going to be based on what OP though so - my reply still stands. He made an informed choice based on facts. OPs reaction is not a fact & she hasn’t even given survey time to settle.