Parent messaged me to complain about DH

[Yogaretreat23]

This is a strange one. DS had his friend round on Tuesday, they were mainly just playing video games upstairs. They came downstairs and DS started to moan that the Wi-Fi was down.

DH said he’d need to ‘go for the old school approach and grab a top shelf magazine from the corner shop’ and DS just laughed it off.

The next day, his friends mum has messaged me to say she doesn’t appreciate DH making inappropriate comments in front of her son.

I’ve ignored it…but am now overthinking whether I should have replied to clarify nothing was said to her son?

Edited to add both 17yo

Urgh. I may not have text you, but I certainly would think your husband is a creep.

Maybe the friends mum messaged to make a point to her son, that casual misogyny should be called out.

Sorry but this made me actually laugh out loud 🤣

OP, if I was the other parent I wouldn’t have texted you - they are 17! but it’s interesting the ds went back to his mum and told her. I would think your dh is a bit creepy and feel sad that he made my ds feel uncomfortable (if he did) I hope your dh wouldn’t make any comments like that to any girlfriends (or boyfriends) your ds bring home

She can't control when and if anyone makes reference to potential availability of pictures of naked women to a seventeen year old.

Gawd I feel sorry for the lad. How chronically embarrassing. But then again why did he tell his mum? Maybe it's cringe but it's not age inappropriate. He's not seven! And it was clearly a joke.

I guess to keep the peace just say 'sorry, it does sound a bit vulgar.' And leave it at that. If you tell your DH he'll probably laugh and mock her. As would your son. Not to her face obviously.

I think it's far more likely that he wasn't at all uncomfortable. "Haha, guess what friend's dad said".

Exactly. How odd that his first comment about the Wi-Fi going down was that?

Ugh. Your DH is a creep.

Just ignore her. Doesn’t warrant a response. I can’t believe a 17 year old would even mention that to his mum.

Another man whose brains are stuck in his dick. I am so tired of reading about these gross, inappropriate ‘geezers’.

How are you responsible for what your DH said? Send her his number and say tell him yourself

Yes, quite innappropriate, and very typical for some middle aged men sadly.

I used to know a man in his mid 50s, (in my place of work at the time, some 12 years ago,) who always had to make stupid, rude, suggestive innuendo, often to the younger women. He thought he was hilarious, as the younger women just used to sort of half laugh.

They did this because they were embarrassed, not because they thought he was funny, and this one time one of them complained to HR about him, and he got a written warning. His wife was so incensed that he had had a warning for making suggestive remarks to young women, that she ended up leaving him. He left the workplace only a couple of months after, as he felt so embarrassed. Thought he was so funny and popular, but most people just thought he was a rude, repulsive, sex pest, and found him repugnant.

Your husband needs to grow up @Yogaretreat23 and you need to stop being his apologist. With him saying weird shit like this to teenage boys, fuck knows what he's saying to women when you're not there. He sounds grim.

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Why is she complaining to you? Are you the boss of him? Give her his number, he can be accountable for his actions.

Or D.-.he thought it was funny so relayed the joke to his mum.
I would completely ignore. They're 17, soon to be down the pub.

Exactly. All these cool girls banging on about how prudish the mum is are totally missing the point. Who wants to be married to someone who associates any mention of the internet with porn?

I would respond, as much as something is very wrong here that a 17 year old would run home and tell mummy this and she’d complain, it is their dynamic and you both need to be aware there is issues here with this lad. He clearly told his mother for a reason. Maybe as he felt uncomfortable.

personally I’d apologise, it is a crass thing to say anyway, and I’d simply text back and say no problem, no offence meant, just a silly joke, hope all is ok.

Deeply inappropriate. The dad sounds a sleaze. Embarrassing for the young lads 🤮

I think that's funny. They need to get a sense of humour. I'd ignore them and leave them to their clenching.

THIS 👆

unlikely given she did message

this is one where two things can simultaneously be true - the mother probably given the ages is overreacting but also it is an inappropriate comment by the DH as well and could have made him feel uncomfortable particularly given the implication they were watching it together

Yeah this. You never get middle aged/older women saying shit like this do you?

(Awaits someone coming along to post about all the potty mouth sex pest women they know/have known.) 🙄

she would only know if her son told her so clearly there was an issue. its off colour especially in front of company. shows a massive lack of discernment on your DHs part

And encouraging his teenage son (and possibly the friend) to buy magazines with naked women in them, no doubt legs akimbo purely for their delectation?

Is that the kind of man you married because I’d be disgusted.

It was a joke.

You may not find it funny but it doesn't mean OP's DH is some kind of disgusting, porn-obsessed sleaze

MN can be SO uptight at times.

You don't call your son's mum when he is 17. Son's must be mortified. And why didnt she contact the dad if she is so annoyed? It is putting OP in an embarrassing position. Utterly ridiculous.

So he's talking about the fact that he can't masturbate to the computer, instead he'll have to buy page 3? In front of his son??

Complete over reaction just ignore.