Parent messaged me to complain about DH

[Yogaretreat23]

This is a strange one. DS had his friend round on Tuesday, they were mainly just playing video games upstairs. They came downstairs and DS started to moan that the Wi-Fi was down.

DH said he’d need to ‘go for the old school approach and grab a top shelf magazine from the corner shop’ and DS just laughed it off.

The next day, his friends mum has messaged me to say she doesn’t appreciate DH making inappropriate comments in front of her son.

I’ve ignored it…but am now overthinking whether I should have replied to clarify nothing was said to her son?

Edited to add both 17yo

At 17 id just block her. How ridiculous

She overreacted but your husband is a dick.

Not sure why the mum was complaining as her son is 17, I would have let it go.
But agree that they are unlikely to have understood the reference. I used to teach secondary (social science subjects) and had to explain to the class what page 3 was when discussing feminism as they had never heard of it. This was a few years ago so I doubt they boys would had got it and probably just smiled and though DH a bit weird.

This is a bigger exaggeration than the mum complaining!

What might get out at school?? That the OP’s husband knows about top shelf magazines??

what do you think @Yogaretreat23?

Your husband's "lads banter" is classic mysogyny, don't you think?

Expect neither of the teens batted an eyelid though

Your husband is weird.

Pretty horrible comment by your DH, but at their age no need to make a big deal of it.
i think if I was a bit friendly with the other parent I would reply just saying yeah I don’t know what he was thinking. But if you don’t really know her then maybe just leave it.

What an embarrassing man. No harm done though but it is a grim comment.

Hate to tell you @Autumngirl5 but at 15, he absolutely would!

Not a great thing to say to your offspring at any age tbh

But less of a big deal with them being 17.

More an incredibly cringey attempt to be cool than anything I imagine.

This feels a bit like one of those "the world's gone mad" moments.

Would I say that someone (of any age) - no: not my sense of humour.

But it's a joke, it's clearly a joke, and I'm not even sure what's inappropriate about the situation? The comment was from a father to his son, in the presence of (NOT to) another boy who is over the age of consent.

If the two lads were gay at 17 they could actually have sex with each other, and that wouldn't be inappropriate. A joke about porn magazines is pretty tame in comparison.

I’d like to think I’m broad minded but your husband needs a good kick up the arse using language like that in front of any child. Grim.

I'd message her back and tell her to fuck off.

Your DH is allowed to make comments of any kind in his own house.

Who the fuck does she think she is? The vocabulary police?

Your husband is basic and vulgar.

Yeah that was a grim comment but at 17 the mum is being absolutely ridiculous to ring up about it. That boy will leave home soon does she think he will never hear anyone make lewd jokes?
She should have encouraged him to bring it up with your son if he was uncomfortable, then your son should have brought it up with DH and asked DH not to make those types of jokes round his mate.
The mum ringing was demented nannying behaviour. That poor boy. How's he gonna cope in the real world?

Yes, it will have been this. No way was the friend hoping his mum would contact OP.

It's really creepy for him to be initiating boys into the patriarchy.

😂😂

Yuk. Is this normal to you? I don’t think at 17 I’d be messaging like she was but privately I’d think ‘poor family living with a knobend like that’.

OP do you think the comment was appropriate?

Pass on your DH’s number to her and remind her that you are not his mother and she should speak with him directly.

Ooh I wouldn't be very comfortable him saying this, it's like pushing them to grow up. Let them enjoy their video games without needing to involve any innuendos of a sexual nature. It's a bit inappropriate in front of your son and even more so with a mate but I know it was his attempt at being funny.
Honestly it doesn't show your DH in a good light if this is the first thing that comes to his head.
I think I would reply apologising on behalf of his comment. At least it would keep the friendship at bay as well.

@Canicule a 15yo might know about porn, but teenagers are much more likely to be seeing that on the internet not from some grubby top shelf magazine. I doubt many teens have these magazines hidden away in their bedrooms like teenagers of old used to.

It was a grim comment from DH

Nah i think its a good thing. At this level we should speak up, not wait till its so bad and then try to cancel ppl or go all woke. Just tell it how it is there and then.

Your DH does sound like a bit of a knob though but still not your place to apologise on his behalf