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Boyfriend sent me a video

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sillyme1234 · 31/10/2025 00:02

I've started to date a new guy (he's not my boyfriend) and he sent me a video which was supposed to be taken at 6am in the morning (he sent it late afternoon).

It was taken when he was in bed (no not sexual) and what caught my eye is that it was light outaide. The light was shining on the TV screen in his room. He has those office type blinds vertical style.

The video was black and white in style, so it wasn't bright in the room, I just find it bizarre the winwod were so bright.

He stated his son woke him up at 6am and he took a video of him singing. I just found it weird the windows looked so bright.

Is it really bright at 6am? I thought it wasn't bright until 7ish.

(He is staying he's tired from being up early etc and can't meet, which is fine but it looks so bright outside that I instantly thought the video wasnt taken at night. I've just got a feeling it's not quite right)

Anyone up at 6am and van confirm on the room brightness

OP posts:

SleeplessInWherever · 31/10/2025 13:55

Was there an argument about sunlight and toddlers before the blocking, or just a singing video and then immediately blocked?

Bet he’s absolutely baffled if it’s the latter.

Cinnamon77 · 31/10/2025 13:57

MyFlabbersAreGasted · 31/10/2025 13:54

a bit rich to ask PP if they can read when in your title you say boyfriend but later on say he's not..

edited to tag OP as I tagged wrong person!

Edited

She also edited the original post several times

Ally886 · 31/10/2025 14:07

This morning it was light at 6am. The clocks changed at the weekend so it took me by surprise on Monday.

Personally if you're interrogating a video from someone you've not been seeing long I would suggest you don't have the maturity for an adult relationship. Sorry

Ally886 · 31/10/2025 14:09

unreasonablyso · 31/10/2025 09:08

Sunrise tomorrow is at 7:07 so yes at 6am, it’d still be dark outside. However if the video was taken a week ago before the clocks went back, at 6am it’d probably have been lighter outside.

I think you've got that the wrong way round....

HedwigEliza · 31/10/2025 14:32

I’m glad for him! He’s dodged a bullet.

Digdongdoo · 31/10/2025 14:55

sillyme1234 · 31/10/2025 13:15

No. If you read previous posts it all makes sense

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Does it?

Catpuss66 · 31/10/2025 18:38

I think as others have said to trust your gut. There have been other red flag warnings with this man think you have done the right thing.

Jackiepumpkinhead · 31/10/2025 19:33

Moonlightfrog · 31/10/2025 12:58

OP, ignore the stupid replies. I think your post was hard to understand for some. Basically he sent you a video saying he was woken by his son singing at 6am? It was light outside so I clearly wasn’t 6am as it’s dark at 6am. He’s using his son waling him up early as an excuse not to see you?

Your gut is telling you he is lying and making up excuses. Your gut is probably right…..it usually is. He doesn’t want to see you today.

People understand what OP is implying, they just think it’s utterly ridiculous.

I’m pleased this man has escaped.

notatinydancer · 31/10/2025 21:22

minishiteboard · 31/10/2025 00:08

He sends wank videos ?

It was his son singing ???

Zempy · 31/10/2025 21:26

Do people really live like this?

gasert · 31/10/2025 21:34

Videos pick up even the tiniest bit of light from outside. I once took a video when it was dark outside, and it looked much much lighter than it was.

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