Unsolicited rude video

[ThatJollyGreySquid]

AIBU to feel annoyed at being sent a masturbation video by a man I’ve been dating for about 5 weeks? It happened last night after I got home from a date with him. To put it into context, we have slept together and were engaging in some sexual “flanter” over WhatsApp, but it was more playful, complimentary and sexy than downright dirty. He’s been lovely to me, and I was feeling quite positive over the way things were developing. I had told him previously I am not interested in the sharing of intimate photos. This has made me feel weird. Does any woman actually like receiving dick pics or wanking videos?

That would bean immediately delete and block from me.

Definitely not wrong to be annoyed about it when you had previously told him you're not interested in that. Complete breach of a boundary.

Gross.

This is copied from the OP's original post

I had told him previously I am not interested in the sharing of intimate photos.

Absolutely clear.

Yes and then in a LATER post she says exactly what she said to him. Which was “I didn’t think you were that kind of man” when reacting a photo that took too long to down load.

READ THE WHOLE THREAD NOT JUST THE OP!!!

@BMW6 here is the exact quote from OP

A couple of weeks before intimacy he sent me a message saying “photo incoming” and it was a photo of a castle-I said, “ thats a relief, I was worried that you were sending a dick pic which would have been disappointing as you don’t seem like that type of guy.” Maybe that wasn’t clear enough.

What part of that sentence is making it unclear??

Is it the words ‘that’s a RELIEF’…or maybe ‘I was WORRIED’…or perhaps the (very clear!) ‘that would have been DISAPPOINTING’?

Because sure, those (precise, clear, negative positioning) words obviously indicate that the OP was really looking forward to receiving a wanking video! 👌🏻

FoxRedPuppy

Barking - apt username

Maybe you need to read the full thread?

This is a crime.

Being a pick me doesn't change that.

WTF is a pick me? I didn’t say it was completely ok either, more that he made a mistake and it might be worth a chat and a proper, clear, setting out of boundaries.

If my DP sent me a dick pic this afternoon without me asking, it might technically be a crime, but I’m not going to call the police.

I have though reported men on dating apps for doing similar to me.

I am not saying it is acceptable, but also stating that I don’t think what the OP said, before they’d had sex, was very clear. And that he made a mistake as they were sexting. There have been some really extreme responses on this thread.

She literally said to him "thats a relief, I was worried that you were sending a dick pic which would have been disappointing as you don’t seem like that type of guy"

There is NOTHING not clear about that.

Ugh. Why do men still think
that this is ok?

If you like him, and you've slept with him, then you either need to up front tell him no, you didn't like it, you're not into it at all. He can do with that information what he likes - but hopefully he apologises, says he severely misjudged the situation and hopes it can be forgotten about as he's embarrassed. If he doesn't, then I'd bin him off.

The other option is to just bin him off. Only you know if his other qualities can redeem him enough.

Please don’t insult dogs.