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To wonder where the left has gone?

299 replies

KenAdams · 28/10/2025 17:54

Ironically, this is somewhat of a rant.

Is everyone too scared to stand up to the constant hate filled rants for fear of being called "woke"?

Is the constant inference that VAWG is only perpetrated by brown men not worth standing up to?

Is the rhetoric that all of our problems are caused only by small boats and not legal migration or billionaires not problematic? For the record, I believe it is a problem, but not the only problem and not even the biggest problem. I believe the system is the problem.

The increasingly hostile movement against anyone that is non white is making people fearful of going about their every day lives and people seem to just want to sit on the sidelines and refuse to call it out.

Where is everyone?

I feel like this post might turn into a gaslighting shit show, but fuck it, I've had enough.

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Mosaiccat · 28/10/2025 18:55

Also, I'm a immigrant and have felt very welcome in this country - only one incident I can think of and it was from someone very left wing!

GasPanic · 28/10/2025 18:55

They seem to be posting enough repeat threads here on a regular basis.

Anyway ...

Labour have had to shift to the right to try and head off reform. The Tories have been stuck in the middle ground and look like a deer in headlights. Funnily enough this was pretty much the way Tory Blair won the 1997 election, by moving the party to the right to capture the middle and Conservative ground.

Labour moving to the right has left a vacuum to the left. I guess this could be filled by the Greens or Lib Dems. But the Lib Dems don't seem to want to make that shift, and the Greens don't seem to be that popular or to be able to get it together. There is Corbyns party of course. If they can actually decide what they are called and stop arguing with each other. Corbyn is maybe the one strong person on the left who could rally the left behind him, in the same way Farage has rallied the right.

FOJN · 28/10/2025 18:56

KenAdams · 28/10/2025 18:44

I listened and I understand. But again why specifically just migrants? What has he done generally about VAWG? He seems surprised that teenagers get harassed by men?

I think you are being disingenuous.

When have you seen large groups of men hanging around children's play areas filming the children? Do you often see groups of 30 or 40 men hanging around in the street in residential areas?

We can't deport home grown predatory men, I'm, sure there would be strong support for it if we could, but we can vet and reject anyone unsuitable who is attempting to claim asylum and immediately deport any who are unable to obey the law.

JHound · 28/10/2025 18:57

Winter2020 · 28/10/2025 18:23

How do you feel when your values are in conflict - like you want to advocate for people that do not believe women have the right to live freely/dress as they like/ people that do not believe it's OK to be Gay?

The Liberal paradox I believe it's called.

It’s not a paradox.

People simply advocate for beliefs and against beliefs. The holder of the belief is irrelevant.

ShieldsStation · 28/10/2025 18:57

I’m centre left btw. My first job involved working with asylum seekers so I know the reality and that there are a lot of myths around immigration but there are also some very real problems and the refusal to allow people to discuss them is pushing people like me away. Likewise the abuse over women like me not wanting men in women’s spaces and roles. And no Reform are definitely not the answer but the Left’s refusal to allow people to raise very real issues without calling them racist/ transphobic or indulging in whataboutery in means that they are losing a lot of their traditional supporters.

CrimsonStoat · 28/10/2025 18:57

FOJN · 28/10/2025 18:41

It's a shame you didn't watch to the end.

Well I went back and did watch to the end. The last few minutes was a word salad of nothingness.

godlikeAI · 28/10/2025 18:59

HedwigEliza · 28/10/2025 18:28

People are so tired of events like this happening day after day, and no meaningful action ever being taken. Another day, another tragedy.

https://www.thetimes.com/uk/crime/article/uxbridge-stabbing-afghan-22-arrested-after-fatal-attack-mj35wxmb0

Britain needs to get over the idea that we can protect the world from itself. A man like this won't be sent back to Afghanistan because we consider the country dangerous - but Britain is now dangerous, and British lives at risk, because of men like this. How is this sustainable?

Do we genuinely expect immigrants to commit zero crime, though? And why aren’t we questioning the agenda that keep spotlighting these incidents, to the point that crime committed by white British people seems almost to have disappeared, when in reality it is by far the greater amount?

sleepwouldbenice · 28/10/2025 19:00

arethereanyleftatall · 28/10/2025 18:55

An echo chamber is essentially a lot of people agreeing with each other.

believe me, from someone who has moved frim the left to the centre over the years, tiktok is far far worse for removing comments that aren’t woke.

Well yes... and when lots of people left twitter when the owner changed and allowed more right leaning ( at best..) accounts etc to be reinstated that echo chamber intensified

PeonyPatch · 28/10/2025 19:02

FOJN · 28/10/2025 18:11

This might help OP. A privileged left leaning man explains how his experience of living 200m from a migrant hotel changed his perspective from one aligned with yours to him becoming a single issue voter. I don't live near a migrant hotel but I'm not arrogant enough to smear and insult the people who do when they raise legitimate concerns. Perhaps you could start listening.

I watched this video and it lacked a lot of substance - it was a lot of rambling to be perfectly honest. The men hanging around the play park was concerning and very weird.

FOJN · 28/10/2025 19:03

Mosaiccat · 28/10/2025 18:54

I was a Labour voter for years. As many have mentioned above - they lost me when they stopped listening and I saw for myself what was actually happening. I remember thinking how unfortunate for Gordon Brown when he got caught calling that woman a bigot. Then, I worked in a working class community and saw for them that the impact of migration was very different than it was for me.

I struggle to believe that the left think what they are doing is working, rather they think it's the nicer option. See women's rights. Or frankly - benefits. We all know people aren't getting off benefits, but instead I'll be shouted down. I've seen it in my DHs family, or neighbours I've had. I can't see myself voting left again as I just don't think it works.

Then, I worked in a working class community and saw for them that the impact of migration was very different than it was for me.

This is the crux of the matter for me. I worked for the NHS for years, the NHS makes the UN look like it's lacking in diversity, I had many amazing colleagues from all over the world. It's only in recent years I've come to appreciate how privileged that made me. Not everyone's experience of immigration is the same or always positive. Whateve ideology it is that's masquerading as left wing politics these days usually loves "lived experience" until it's inconvenient and then they just want the "chavs" to shut up. It's so arrogant and disrespectful.

JHound · 28/10/2025 19:03

ShieldsStation · 28/10/2025 18:57

I’m centre left btw. My first job involved working with asylum seekers so I know the reality and that there are a lot of myths around immigration but there are also some very real problems and the refusal to allow people to discuss them is pushing people like me away. Likewise the abuse over women like me not wanting men in women’s spaces and roles. And no Reform are definitely not the answer but the Left’s refusal to allow people to raise very real issues without calling them racist/ transphobic or indulging in whataboutery in means that they are losing a lot of their traditional supporters.

Who is “refusing to allow people to discuss” immigration issues?

FOJN · 28/10/2025 19:05

PeonyPatch · 28/10/2025 19:02

I watched this video and it lacked a lot of substance - it was a lot of rambling to be perfectly honest. The men hanging around the play park was concerning and very weird.

He's telling you about his experience and sharing his perspective that is all. It only seems to be invalid for people who would rather not hear it, they are part of the problem.

Sterlingrose · 28/10/2025 19:06

Too busy trying to survive to be honest.

Swiftasthewind · 28/10/2025 19:06

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Unexpectedlysinglemum · 28/10/2025 19:06

Gingernessy · 28/10/2025 18:01

I live in a very multicultural city - some not well integrated.
I don't see any fearful non whites - haven't seen any white racists either. A few non white ones.
The press are doing a great job of whipping this up tho....

I agree with this, but I imaging things are very different outside the big cities. I remember being shocked just before Brexit when I went to the countryside outside London and saw all the pro Brexit posters

youalright · 28/10/2025 19:06

Bambamhoohoo · 28/10/2025 18:55

I honestly think an average life in 2025 is people having to put up with parents regurgitating bollocks from GB news and talking about how great trump is.

what did Tim waltz say? Arguing with your weird uncle at thanksgiving.

Never ever talk to family about politics it won't end well.

GasPanic · 28/10/2025 19:08

I think also there is constant movement in the balance point in societies between left and right.

When things are going well, people tend to be more socially minded, more willing to be taxed harder and have their money spent on things for the "collective" and also help out people poorer than themselves.

When things are going badly, the economy goes tits up, taxes are high, services bad they tend to want to keep more of their own resources and look to their own wants and needs rather than consider helping other people.

I think the balance point between left and right politics with probably the right dominating at the moment is a reflection on how the majority feel.

There is probably some technical name for this.

sleepwouldbenice · 28/10/2025 19:08

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Yep

ShieldsStation · 28/10/2025 19:08

JHound · 28/10/2025 19:03

Who is “refusing to allow people to discuss” immigration issues?

People are constantly shut down on MN, Reddit and various other sites. And any discussion of real problems is always met with “But white British men do it too” No shit Sherlock. It was/is the same when women objected to having men in their bathrooms/hospital wards and other spaces “But you have a toilet at home that’s uni sex” “You’re more likely to be harmed by a cis man”, “You’re transphobic” etc. It’s a struggle to get any real nuanced discussion where both sides are listening though at least MN is somewhat of an improvement on Reddit in that respect.

sussexman · 28/10/2025 19:08

ShieldsStation · 28/10/2025 18:57

I’m centre left btw. My first job involved working with asylum seekers so I know the reality and that there are a lot of myths around immigration but there are also some very real problems and the refusal to allow people to discuss them is pushing people like me away. Likewise the abuse over women like me not wanting men in women’s spaces and roles. And no Reform are definitely not the answer but the Left’s refusal to allow people to raise very real issues without calling them racist/ transphobic or indulging in whataboutery in means that they are losing a lot of their traditional supporters.

Quoting @ShieldsStation but lots of posters here and elsewhere with the same argument that we are "not allowed" to discuss "real issues/legitimate concerns" etc., so this is not a personal argument.

Of course, we are. What "real issues" are we not allowed to discuss?

  • The level of migration. This is discussed here and elsewhere every day for at least the last 3 years.
  • "Britain is full". Again, discussed ad-nauseum.
  • "Some immigrants commit serious crimes". We have a criminal justice system (badly underfunded) for that.
JHound · 28/10/2025 19:09

Also why do people keep advancing this trope that everybody who does not have immigration as their biggest issue is “middle class” or lives in an area with no immigrants.

I spent most of my life living in immigrant dominated working class neighbourhoods and still it’s not something that ranks in my list of top issues (for me - obviously different people have different thoughts).

It’s just all the people whining about being labelled are more than happy to engage in it themselves.

Winter2020 · 28/10/2025 19:09

5128gap · 28/10/2025 18:50

As far as I'm aware we are not holding up signs saying "bring us your homophobes" are we? We are carrying out our obligations towards people seeking asylum, some of whom may come from countries where homphobia is rife. Some of whom may themselves be homophobes. Some of whom may be gay. Whether we believe our country should have these obligations is a different matter. At present we do.
This doesn't in any way need to change our own stance on homophobia. I would be quite comfortable standing up for gay rights against a very religious person from any religion that was anti gay rights. I could manage to do this without making negative generalisations about people based on their ethnicity, which is racist.

But if I have sat down with someone and they tell me that if their kids were gay they would kick them out it's not a negative generalisation is it? It's cold hard fact. And it's cold hard fact that this is the majority view in some countries. (Nigeria in this case)

Why should gay people in the UK have their lives made harder by us welcoming hundreds of thousands of people from anti gay countries and cultures?

Why should women have their lives made harder/less free by welcoming hundreds of thousands of people that think western dress is justifucation for sexual assault?

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-4936754/amp/Wives-men-jailed-rape-blame-victims-too.html

Edit to say this is not just views held by asylum seekers but people working and on visas.

Wives of Muslim men jailed for rape reveal why they blame the victims

It is a rainy day in June and I am in a terraced house in Manchester. It belongs to an acquaintance Mrs Soni, a retired Asian school teacher, writes YASMIN ALIBHAI-BROWN.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-4936754/amp/Wives-men-jailed-rape-blame-victims-too.html

BurntBroccoli · 28/10/2025 19:10

I’m fed up of pile-ons whenever I comment from a leftist viewpoint.

JHound · 28/10/2025 19:12

ShieldsStation · 28/10/2025 19:08

People are constantly shut down on MN, Reddit and various other sites. And any discussion of real problems is always met with “But white British men do it too” No shit Sherlock. It was/is the same when women objected to having men in their bathrooms/hospital wards and other spaces “But you have a toilet at home that’s uni sex” “You’re more likely to be harmed by a cis man”, “You’re transphobic” etc. It’s a struggle to get any real nuanced discussion where both sides are listening though at least MN is somewhat of an improvement on Reddit in that respect.

No they aren’t shut down. You are literally discussing it now. There are countless threads on Reddit and MN discussing immigration.

I genuinely am curious what “not being shut down” would like to you if you think countless immigration threads on this board is not evidence that discussion is not being shut down?

Are you confusing / conflating people disagreeing with your stance as you being “shut down”?

How is, for example, somebody saying “white British men commit crime too” “shutting down discussion?”

PeonyPatch · 28/10/2025 19:14

FOJN · 28/10/2025 19:05

He's telling you about his experience and sharing his perspective that is all. It only seems to be invalid for people who would rather not hear it, they are part of the problem.

I didn’t say it was invalid and that I’d rather not hear it… I’m just saying that it lacked a lot of substance and real points.

I am also concerned by immigration but that video was waffley