Should I just try to escape? Visiting friend abroad.

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I am currently on a long weekend to visit an old friend I haven’t seen in 13 years. It’s a Scandinavian country, far away from towns and I am from / living in UK. Things were going well - her partner is a bit of a monologuer but we had a fun time yesterday in the daytime. For context this is a friend I had in our 20s - she was in a straight relationship back in the day (we had a friendship group and they were the couple ‘hub’ iyswim) but is now married to a woman.
In the evening the schnapps was flowing and they got really drunk. Talking about gender (never easy!) her partner snaps and says ‘a couple of straight women talking about gender issues!’ In a sort of dismissive way - my friend got really upset about this.
But then her partner snaps back about an affair my friend had with a man while said partner was in hospital for months on end. My friend is like ‘don’t spoil it please!’ I am just trying to keep the peace - and failing - and suggesting we go to bed. Queue hours of arguments and shouting and crying. All to the backdrop of breaking down about world events (friends partner is obsessed).
Somehow everything is suddenly fine and we all hug and go to bed.
Friend’s partner then shows up next to my bed and starts singing a really long spontaneously created song… like on my face and at me, and about me.
I feel like they have lost the plot here in the middle of nowhere - it’s all rather ‘who’s afraid of Virginia wolf’. Almost funny but wtf.
I am seriously tempted to just get a hotel room at the airport - but they are so remote I would have to ask my friend to drive me to the nearest station…
I have had like 4 hrs sleep - the house stinks of cigarettes as they have been chain smoking. I just miss my family.
An I being dramatic? Will I make everything worse again?
We are meant to all be working on a creative thing today and I just can’t imagine it going well.

I have no suggestions but I’d want to get the fuck away too.

It all sounds very odd. Can't you book a taxi? I wouldn't stay.

Is there any way of getting out at all? Bus station or taxi or train? I'd be leaving ASAP, sounds absolutely horrendous.

I would say to your friend that you would appreciate a lift to the nearest town, pack your stuff and go. Don't explain, don't defend as both would give them the chance to argue with you. But make sure you have a room booked at a hotel!

Maybe a creative day will help calm things?
You could also say last night left you feeling hugely uncomfortable so can they take you to a hotel - it’ll be awkward but then you’ll have the relief once dropped off
Or can you try and enjoy it? Sounds batshit crazy but potentially amusing

I have a fairly high tolerance for odd behaviour from friends but in this situation I would not stay there. It sounds like an incredibly dysfunctional relationship to be honest, and her partner sounds abusive and domineering.
I would feel bad about leaving my friend behind but I would put myself first.
And at an appropriate time I would tell my friend the truth about why I left.

That sounds absolutely awful. I’d want to leave. If you can’t do a taxi then I’d ask for a lift.

I guess it depends how much you like the original friend. Surely they are going to be absolutely mortified today and will be very sorry??

If so, I'd let them apologise further, perhaps today will be ok if you do purely non alcoholic related things, they will probably be hungover to hell and not want to drink anyway.

If no further apology is forthcoming, I'd probably ask your friend to drive you to the station!

It’s so rural I don’t think uber is a thing but I will check it out. Maybe if I catch my friend alone I can ask her to drive me - as long as she isn’t still over the limit. It’s a 2 hr walk… 7 miles to the station

When were you due to leave originally, and what was the plan for getting to the station or airport? If it’s a matter of hours then I’d stick it out but another overnight would be daunting. If you have to stay, don’t drink any alcohol and go to bed early. Do you have a room to yourself? The being sung at after going to bed sounds like the weirdest bit of an altogether very odd evening!

I would ask your friend for a lift to the airport. Get her on her own and explain that you cannot cope with her wifes behaviour and youve booked a early flight.

Ask for a lift. Her partner sounds quite mad. I'd put money on this being an abusive relationship.
Either partner could be the abusive one.
It might have helped if you'd removed yourself and gone to bed, when the arguing started.
I wouldn't be sleeping there tonight.

Why can't you get an Uber or local Taxi?

What did your friend do when her partner was singing so weirdly at you???

Are drugs being taken?

I'd start walking tbh. Disturbing and very, very weird.

Yeah I'd walk 2 hours to get out of that Lunatic Asylum!

Ubers and taxis very often just don't exist in more remote places, whatever the country. Taxi drivers want a regular, reliable income.

Try and get yourself out of there anyway you can ,you say it's seven miles to the airport, but does it become less remote at some point, so you can book a taxi/ uber ?

Eek - sounds like the first chapter in a scary book, that will make it to Netflix -
fake an illness- you don’t wanna offend them, and plan your escape asap !

I'd be out of there like a bat out of hell. Good luck, OP!

Maybe it was just the drink. I'd see how today goes and not go out with them again.

I wouldn't be risking another night like last night. I'd have to cobfront the partner about kerping me awake and tbh, it would mean burning bridges. I'd just go and keep in messege/email contact with your friend. She had no business inviting you and getting so drunk, knowing the issues in her relationship and how isolated the area is.

Ask your friend for a lift - if she's any sort of friend she'll understand! If she refuses, I'd do the 2 hour walk and she would no longer be a friend!

Can you remember any of the song lyrics?

I’d be on booking right now looking for the closest hotel and get out of there! You can book taxi’s on there as well.

Sounds bonkers! I'd be calling out the coming into your room/ singing when you all meet up in the morning and say you don't feel up for creatuve collaboration due to lacknof sleep and the unhelathy dynamic you witnessed last night.

Offer a choice, either they keep off the alcohol (and drama) for the rest of your stay or drop you at a town/ hotel once they are sober enough to drive so you aren't dragged into their toxic shit show!