Good morning all - I leave this morning! sorry not to have had much chance to reply to people properly but I have really appreciated the concern, thoughts and laughs!
Last night was fine - the partner lurked upstairs most of the time but did emerge to watch Bridesmaids and try and get my friend to drive to the shop for crisps.
The posts on lesbian drama made me chuckle a bit - maybe that’s true and this is all relatively normal. My friend has been there for me in some dramatic situations in our twenties too even when we were both ostensibly straight.
I also really wish I had recorded the song in retrospect though in the early hours in the smoke filled house with all the drama it was a strange form of torture 😅
I do have some feeling in my bones about the partner though - like the song was rounded off with a heavy pat on my face (drunken clumsiness?), she talked a lot about herself, my friend seems to do 100% of the cooking, driving, adulting. Earlier in the day we had ended up buying a large musical instrument which she had made us all carry into the house, just pre argument, despite us saying it could be done in the morning. Partner is the dominant one - and it sort of reflects her previous straight relationship. In that one the man was physically abusive to her several times (it has caused friendship drama because I have cut him off and none of the others know why) - and even friend was like ‘do you still see ex’ and was shocked and saddened when I was like ‘he hurt you several times and I didn’t want to be around a man like that any more’ - she just said ‘I am a difficult person to be with’….and didn’t really react when I said it was never ok to hit, punch and bite someone as he did.
I think I had this fantasy that she had this fantastic new life and to some degree she still has someone dominating her.
So I do have a feeling of wtf tinged with sadness. And I am worried about her.
Anyway hopefully we can have some coffee and I can be on my way. And I will try and stay in better touch with her.