Should I just try to escape? Visiting friend abroad.

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I am currently on a long weekend to visit an old friend I haven’t seen in 13 years. It’s a Scandinavian country, far away from towns and I am from / living in UK. Things were going well - her partner is a bit of a monologuer but we had a fun time yesterday in the daytime. For context this is a friend I had in our 20s - she was in a straight relationship back in the day (we had a friendship group and they were the couple ‘hub’ iyswim) but is now married to a woman.
In the evening the schnapps was flowing and they got really drunk. Talking about gender (never easy!) her partner snaps and says ‘a couple of straight women talking about gender issues!’ In a sort of dismissive way - my friend got really upset about this.
But then her partner snaps back about an affair my friend had with a man while said partner was in hospital for months on end. My friend is like ‘don’t spoil it please!’ I am just trying to keep the peace - and failing - and suggesting we go to bed. Queue hours of arguments and shouting and crying. All to the backdrop of breaking down about world events (friends partner is obsessed).
Somehow everything is suddenly fine and we all hug and go to bed.
Friend’s partner then shows up next to my bed and starts singing a really long spontaneously created song… like on my face and at me, and about me.
I feel like they have lost the plot here in the middle of nowhere - it’s all rather ‘who’s afraid of Virginia wolf’. Almost funny but wtf.
I am seriously tempted to just get a hotel room at the airport - but they are so remote I would have to ask my friend to drive me to the nearest station…
I have had like 4 hrs sleep - the house stinks of cigarettes as they have been chain smoking. I just miss my family.
An I being dramatic? Will I make everything worse again?
We are meant to all be working on a creative thing today and I just can’t imagine it going well.

I'd walk the 7 miles!!!

I'd pay whatever I had to to get a taxi. Would it be easier to book one directly to the airport as that might be more worthwhile for a driver to take it on? Search for airport taxis. Say to them you think it'll be better to do the creative thing another better time never and you'll rearrange it 🤞 but you're going now.

I would pretend everything is great then get an urgent call from home about lunchtime and say you have to go!

Holy moly! I would be out of there asap, but I get your kind of trapped unless one of them drives you. I’ve no idea how you out up with her crazy ass partner singing in your face! WTH drunk or not that’s ridiculous. She has issues, major ones, started ranting about jealous and their past relationship issues and then ranting about gender and world issues 😱 how embarrassing for your friend too. If it were me I’d of seen the opportunity to escape / bring it up bcus when the partner lost it I would of said something I wouldn’t of put up with it. Even if you said….well I think it’s best you get me a taxi I think you two are better left to it, I would rather get a hotel. Im still stuck on the weird singing in your face attack, I would of got in her face too and said ENOUGH NOW, go to bed n hive it a rest your making a fool of yourself and stop taking your issues out on me. She saw you as a threat too, probably thinks you both had a thing in the past would be my bet. Poor friend she needs to get rid of her and move on. But TBH I haven’t seen it this bad but have had gay friends that are all psycho jealous more so than hetero friends. I bet you can’t wait to get home, lol at least you can give people a laugh when they ask how you’re break was

Oh, c'mon! It's one weekend and an experience you'll never get again, go with the flow!
And if there's another song tonight don't forget to record it for the rest of us 😅

Reads like a horror leasbian story leading to rape. Get he fuck out of all these fake friendships

Honestly part of me wants you to stay just so you can report back on their antics, but really I think you’d be better off leaving. Is the walk to the station 7 miles on paved, lit roads, or cross country? If the former then I’d probably go for it.

Seconding a previous poster that requested examples of the song lyrics - can you remember any snippets? It will help to ascertain if the vibe was creepy or perhaps just supportive/apologetic. Also, ngl, for my own amusement (not wishing to make light of your quandary but I'm so curious!).

I hope you get out ok, it really does sound like a Netflix Halloween spook film.

Which Scandinavian country are you in? I love them all! So beautiful, but this time of year will be dark and many places are probably snowing already so not sure walking 2 hrs is possible and in remote places, that sounds scary too. Taxi would be the only option. They must have transport even in remote areas?

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This!

if you’re a creative yourself it’s an absolute goldmine of material!

Get out before you end up trapped as their pet, locked in a basement.
The singing part would have done it for me.
Have you watched any scandi horror series?? Things happen in the wilds.

what the actual fuck?
they might be a bit weird (exacerbated by drink), that doesn't automatically lead to rape!

Get out of there, it sounds like you are staying in a David Lynch film and whilst I love DL, I dont want it to be my reality!

Good grief, leave these two weirdos to it and go find somewhere else to stay where you can relax.

Sounds like the plot of a Jo Nesbo book.
Run like the wind and look out for snowmen.

She might have a massive suitcase.

I'd be off like a shot. Tell your friend she has to drive you - on the way to the airport tell her she'll always be welcome in your home but her partner won't be.

I'd tough it out for one more day or even a night, just to be able to leave on good terms for your friend's sake.

Plus, the logistics of traversing the steppe or tundra or whatever they have over there in place of a hospitable landscape on a Sunday sounds rather difficult.

I'd love to know the nature of this, "Creative thing" they have lined up for you.

I’d book a taxi and leave. You can get a same day flight to the uk quite easily from most scandi countries. The partner coming into my room would be a dealbreaker for me.

Tell them you’ve just realised you’re non binary and need some time alone to process this. They’ll understand

This is like an episode of Black Mirror. Who are these people?

As someone who knows well, rural Scandinavia well, public transport is low to non-existent on a Sunday, and taxis are not easy come-by. There will most likely be someone who offers such a service, but not on a Sunday and you may have to wait a long time for them to come.

I would just sit it out until tomorrow. It will be easier to leave on a Monday and if you are there just for a weekend, maybe you are meant to be going then anyway?

Sounds like the plot of a horror movie..

‘a couple of straight women talking about gender issues!’

What am I missing? Your friend is a woman married to a women, yes? So not straight.

Are you in Sweden? When you said remote, I assumed Karesuando or similar but if there’s a station 7 miles away it’s quite densely populated for my standards. Check the trains timetable on sj.se and just walk. For any train delays go to sj.se/trafikinfo - both are available in English. Depending on where you are, a good page to book a taxi online can be taxikurir.se Good luck 🍀

Yeah I’d walk if your friend won’t drive you.