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Another day, another clown show - Epping asylum seeker and rapist released from Prison ‘by mistake’

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WildLimePoet · 24/10/2025 18:12

You literally couldn’t make this shit up.

This country is broken.

Reform should send David Lamey a big thankyou note for this gift.

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Spooky2000 · 24/10/2025 20:43

PreciousTatas · 24/10/2025 18:31

Because these crimes would not have happened if the UK asylum system was working. Those little girls and women would not have been raped or killed if these men were not in the country.

Some nationalities commit some crimes at disproportionate rates to the native British, that should not be ignored or swept under the rug. It helps no one.

I'm far from a reform supporter as an immigrant myself, but this is just stupid. Unvetted criminal men should not be given an opportunity to be freely roaming the UK committing crime.

Errr, not true, sadly. When someone comes to the UK claiming asylum, checks are done to see if there are any criminal records in the originating country and those travelled through. You won't be surprised to hear that since Brexit, the UK doesn't have access to certain systems any longer that would give this information. The asylum form asks this, but they're not going to tick yes, are they. The other issue is cultural: some have been told stories about UK women, or their observation ties in with what they've been told, so they think we're 'fair game'.

It's not the HO - it's Brexit. Ask your MP to get the UK back into Interpol et al which allowed the relevant criminal checks to be done. There is also criteria to be met to meet the definition of asylum seeker, but some obviously go off grid. I'm for tagging all asylum seekers.

EasternStandard · 24/10/2025 20:44

Zanzara · 24/10/2025 20:41

Any number I imagine. Throwing other women under a hellish bus is as naught in the quest for virtue signalling Nirvana.

Horrendous isn’t it.

Zanzara · 24/10/2025 20:45

PeonyPatch · 24/10/2025 20:38

True though, right? Just because you want to hate every single male asylum seeker, doesn’t mean I have to as well. I am weary of all men, because they all pose a threat to me to be honest.

You have no idea who I hate or I do not. I just like a certain logical sequence to my arguments. Call me fussy.

EasternStandard · 24/10/2025 20:45

Spooky2000 · 24/10/2025 20:43

Errr, not true, sadly. When someone comes to the UK claiming asylum, checks are done to see if there are any criminal records in the originating country and those travelled through. You won't be surprised to hear that since Brexit, the UK doesn't have access to certain systems any longer that would give this information. The asylum form asks this, but they're not going to tick yes, are they. The other issue is cultural: some have been told stories about UK women, or their observation ties in with what they've been told, so they think we're 'fair game'.

It's not the HO - it's Brexit. Ask your MP to get the UK back into Interpol et al which allowed the relevant criminal checks to be done. There is also criteria to be met to meet the definition of asylum seeker, but some obviously go off grid. I'm for tagging all asylum seekers.

How can they check crimes in Afghanistan under the Taliban and why do Germany and ROI also have similar issues with similar male crimes on this level?

EasternStandard · 24/10/2025 20:45

Spooky2000 · 24/10/2025 20:43

Errr, not true, sadly. When someone comes to the UK claiming asylum, checks are done to see if there are any criminal records in the originating country and those travelled through. You won't be surprised to hear that since Brexit, the UK doesn't have access to certain systems any longer that would give this information. The asylum form asks this, but they're not going to tick yes, are they. The other issue is cultural: some have been told stories about UK women, or their observation ties in with what they've been told, so they think we're 'fair game'.

It's not the HO - it's Brexit. Ask your MP to get the UK back into Interpol et al which allowed the relevant criminal checks to be done. There is also criteria to be met to meet the definition of asylum seeker, but some obviously go off grid. I'm for tagging all asylum seekers.

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PeonyPatch · 24/10/2025 20:45

LoveSundays · 24/10/2025 20:40

I mean I can only speak for myself but I'm happy to tell you you're wrong regarding your comment on xenophobia.

I'm white passing and half of 'my people' don't come from the UK. My concerns about what we're seeing now in this country are certainly not rooted in me being racist or xenophobic.

Don't you see how simplistic this point of view is? Stamping your feet & shouting racist at anyone who doesn't agree with your naive view of the world?
It's so dangerous and this is why Reform will get in at the first chance I reckon.

I am not shouting racist at anyone who doesn’t agree with my worldview. Which isn’t naive by the way. That’s your opinion.

You know nothing about me. You don’t know my age. My ethnicity. My profession or education level. You just continue to make assumptions about me and attack me by calling me naive. We are on a discussion forum and I am making points and yet I’m being attacked for my opinions. None of my posts back to you have included any insults - usually a sign of weak argument by the way.

I am highlighting risks in the male population as a whole. Asylum seekers pose unique risks and threats, that doesn’t mean they are all violent sexual offenders, lol. There are many individuals who have sought asylum in this country that are doctors, engineers and other skilled professions.
We also have many, many, many British men who are a risk to us women and girls but I don’t see anyone talking about this or creating discussion boards about this?

HedwigEliza · 24/10/2025 20:45

BoredZelda · 24/10/2025 20:40

Hit me with your “verifiable facts”

FWIW, I’m not trying to appear anything. I’m just interested in why a group of people are so hell bent on protecting women, they are targeting a group who are only responsible for a very small percentage of violence against women. I’m trying to understand why the other 95% of violence against women isn’t leading to the same outpouring of rage, venom, anger, insistence that something must be done? It’s like trying to stop your roof leaking by replacing a single tile, when the massive hole in the roof remains uncovered. What is it about this one group that is causing so many people to act to protect women from them?

Because to use your analogy, you’re focusing on a few old tiles you’re not allowed to replace, and not the vast majority in the worst condition causing the biggest problem which you can remove.

Mamalasira · 24/10/2025 20:46

Why is Brexit to blame for these men thinking that British women are "fair game", @Spooky2000 ? Perhaps you didn't mean it in that way?
I agree with you about the tagging, though. Good idea.

BoredZelda · 24/10/2025 20:46

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 24/10/2025 20:07

I live in the town where it happened. It is very relevant. Women no longer walk their dogs or run in the forest. Secondary school children have to be collected from school. This is a massive logistical issue for parents. He did not need to be here, and he did not need to be housed in a hotel, slap bang next to the local high school, in the town. There are houses which are currently unsellable due to being near this facility. How dare anyone sit at their keyboard and say it’s not relevant. It’s an imported threat which has been landed on a small town, and for this poor girl, the threat was realised. It has massively affected her and her family. As has the home office fighting the local people to overturn the decision to close the hotel. I can’t think of many other ways the government could have made it clear the victim does not matter.

Firstly, my comment was about the victim of the assault.

But, are you suggesting you wouldn’t all be doing these things is the attacker had been white, living in that hotel with a bunch of other white men?

CoffeeCantata · 24/10/2025 20:48

IDontHateRainbows · 24/10/2025 20:28

But the system attracts criminals. If you were a wanted criminal in a foreign country and you could leave and start a new life in another country without any documentation, why wouldn't you?

This is the problem in a nutshell. Were told these young, fit men (because that’s very largely the demographic) are keen to commit to a new country and make a positive contribution to. It would be great to see hard evidence of this but this horrible creep and the psychopathic monster who randomly stabbed the young Welsh mother 23 times with a screwdriver and then went off to dance in the car park are not filling me with confidence. How could anyone think this is how you show you’re fit to be a UK citizen?

I wouldn’t be surprised if these 2 already had a criminal past in their home countries. Very alarming.

MyLimeGuide · 24/10/2025 20:48

Julen7 · 24/10/2025 20:42

God no, in a moment we will get the A-Z of “not illegals” thrown at us.

😂😅yep!

BoredZelda · 24/10/2025 20:48

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 24/10/2025 20:15

Your ignorance is shining, tbh. It’s well known that the Epping protests have been massively driven by women each week. They are still ongoing, btw.

Sorry if this doesn’t fit your worldly, liberal viewpoint.

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Only a tiny percentage of men attending these protests then?

PeonyPatch · 24/10/2025 20:48

It’s funny how so many posters on here who are so passionate about anti violence towards women and girls ONLY want to discuss asylum seekers and not the other demographics of men that pose a risk to us… why is that hmmm?

Mamalasira · 24/10/2025 20:49

PeonyPatch · 24/10/2025 20:45

I am not shouting racist at anyone who doesn’t agree with my worldview. Which isn’t naive by the way. That’s your opinion.

You know nothing about me. You don’t know my age. My ethnicity. My profession or education level. You just continue to make assumptions about me and attack me by calling me naive. We are on a discussion forum and I am making points and yet I’m being attacked for my opinions. None of my posts back to you have included any insults - usually a sign of weak argument by the way.

I am highlighting risks in the male population as a whole. Asylum seekers pose unique risks and threats, that doesn’t mean they are all violent sexual offenders, lol. There are many individuals who have sought asylum in this country that are doctors, engineers and other skilled professions.
We also have many, many, many British men who are a risk to us women and girls but I don’t see anyone talking about this or creating discussion boards about this?

Obviously, it's right that you are making your points and explaining your opinion in this debate. However, can I just ask why you have put lol after your point about them not all being "violent sexual offenders"?
Seriously, maybe just don't add that.

Netcurtainnelly · 24/10/2025 20:50

Labour Out.

EasternStandard · 24/10/2025 20:51

PeonyPatch · 24/10/2025 20:48

It’s funny how so many posters on here who are so passionate about anti violence towards women and girls ONLY want to discuss asylum seekers and not the other demographics of men that pose a risk to us… why is that hmmm?

What do you hope to gain from this type of post?

PeonyPatch · 24/10/2025 20:51

Mamalasira · 24/10/2025 20:49

Obviously, it's right that you are making your points and explaining your opinion in this debate. However, can I just ask why you have put lol after your point about them not all being "violent sexual offenders"?
Seriously, maybe just don't add that.

Maybe I can express myself however I wish to? Don’t police me or tell me how to write.

Julen7 · 24/10/2025 20:51

PeonyPatch · 24/10/2025 20:48

It’s funny how so many posters on here who are so passionate about anti violence towards women and girls ONLY want to discuss asylum seekers and not the other demographics of men that pose a risk to us… why is that hmmm?

Possibly because the title of the thread concerns a missing asylum seeker who has been convicted of a sexual assault.

PeonyPatch · 24/10/2025 20:52

EasternStandard · 24/10/2025 20:51

What do you hope to gain from this type of post?

Exactly what I posted @EasternStandard

Honestly this thread is whipping up hatred instead of any productive or meaningful discussion. It is a waste of my time now, so I am out. There’s no arguing with stupid.

Fluffyholeysocks · 24/10/2025 20:52

BoredZelda · 24/10/2025 20:40

Hit me with your “verifiable facts”

FWIW, I’m not trying to appear anything. I’m just interested in why a group of people are so hell bent on protecting women, they are targeting a group who are only responsible for a very small percentage of violence against women. I’m trying to understand why the other 95% of violence against women isn’t leading to the same outpouring of rage, venom, anger, insistence that something must be done? It’s like trying to stop your roof leaking by replacing a single tile, when the massive hole in the roof remains uncovered. What is it about this one group that is causing so many people to act to protect women from them?

Because the 5% is 5% too many. It may be a faction of the 95% but its 5% we shouldn't have to tolerate

TheGander · 24/10/2025 20:53

EasternStandard · 24/10/2025 20:45

How can they check crimes in Afghanistan under the Taliban and why do Germany and ROI also have similar issues with similar male crimes on this level?

It’s laughable. In Muslim countries rapes are probably even more under reported than they are here, because to admit to a bunch of male policemen that you have been raped is social suicide- if not actual suicide.

EasternStandard · 24/10/2025 20:54

PeonyPatch · 24/10/2025 20:52

Exactly what I posted @EasternStandard

Honestly this thread is whipping up hatred instead of any productive or meaningful discussion. It is a waste of my time now, so I am out. There’s no arguing with stupid.

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Well probably for the best. Perhaps you just can’t argue as women are speaking up.

Mamalasira · 24/10/2025 20:55

PeonyPatch · 24/10/2025 20:51

Maybe I can express myself however I wish to? Don’t police me or tell me how to write.

You haven't read my comment. I never "policed" you, nor did I tell you what to write. I advised you, because - in my opinion - it was a strange thing to add after that sentence.
I asked why you used the lol at that point.
No matter. I found it curious, 'tis all.
Of course - your choice.

PeonyPatch · 24/10/2025 20:55

EasternStandard · 24/10/2025 20:54

Well probably for the best. Perhaps you just can’t argue as women are speaking up.

As my last line says @EasternStandard - there is no arguing with stupid.

BoredZelda · 24/10/2025 20:55

PreciousTatas · 24/10/2025 20:07

Some nationalities are convicted of some crimes at a disproportionate rate. You cannot extrapolate they are more likely to commit the crime without looking at everything that happens up to that point. You first need to take into account the institutional racism of the police

With all due respect. Bollocks.

Perhaps you don't understand, as someone who had to flee a country where women have no value, let me enlighten you.

Unaccompanied women and children are there to be raped. If their men don't look after their possessions then they are considered a worthless whore. If a woman is raped and admits it she will most likely be killed, if she survived the attack in the first place. If her husband and family are very kind she will just be shunned and outcast. Women have no rights. Children are disposable.

My father fled with us because he didn't want that life for his wife and daughters. I am beyond grateful to have been able to grow up safely here and given opportunities I would never have been. My elderly mother in increasingly worried that our homelands problems are being imported wholesale to the UK.

If you genuinely believe that men come from countries where women are seen as nothing, and suddenly start acting like women are equal, you are incredibly naive, and stupid.

But your dad was ok, yes? Your dad wasn’t like them. He could have been in a hotel and been perfectly safe with local women?

In today’s climate he would be hounded out and branded as a rapist just because of where you came from. Or, was he one of the good immigrants (who people like Farage also want to send back, even if they’ve been given indefinite leave to remain)

Nobody is denying there are cultural issues about how women are treated in certain countries around the world, but the current weaponisation of violence against women for an entirely different aim isn’t to the benefit of anyone woman in the U.K.

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