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Another day, another clown show - Epping asylum seeker and rapist released from Prison ‘by mistake’

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WildLimePoet · 24/10/2025 18:12

You literally couldn’t make this shit up.

This country is broken.

Reform should send David Lamey a big thankyou note for this gift.

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VanillaBerthaCake · 25/10/2025 00:28

You couldn’t make this story up to be honest. When I first saw it on social media before I thought it was some AI generated shite, because it surely couldn’t have been real. More fool me.

This man is arguably the most high-profile small boat migrant in the country at the moment (even before the prison release), other than the one who stabbed the young mother to death with a screwdriver. He has been the catalyst for protests and political discourse for weeks. How in the everliving f*ck has he been allowed to just go walkabout? He’s played the system like a fiddle. When he is found and sent home all of his friends and relatives will be crying with laughter hearing about his experience in the UK.

I can’t imagine how his poor victim is feeling right now.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 25/10/2025 00:32

CorneliaCupp · 24/10/2025 23:39

As I've said, the only acceptable number is zero. Why would I find any number of rapes acceptable?
Asylum seekers and refugees are more likely to be victims of crime than to commit crime. Vastly so.

Can you back up that claim?

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VanillaBerthaCake · 25/10/2025 00:34

TheNinny · 25/10/2025 00:14

I remember years ago watching a news story interviewing immigrants in norway from Eritrea about their reactions to new ‘anti-rape classes’ ‘ they had to attend as part of asylum process.

It always stuck out to me the views of one young man saying “how different it was than back home, where if you liked a girl you could just take her”. He accepted most things though about consent however he still did not understand how a man could be punished for raping his own wife 🤷‍♀️

I’ve encountered medical students from this country who refused to have women help with training, and treated them with utter contempt. Anyway, I digress. These are the attitudes we are importing from these 3rd world countries like this one.

I used to walk around Glasgow with my friends aged 14-15, but there is no way on earth I’d let my DD do that once she’s that age, thank fuck she’s only 5. It is changing our society and culture here, and not for the better. Women have enough abuse from home grown men - and yes we are becoming more vocal about it - sarah everidge springs to mind- but we don’t need to add to it. In Falkirk, sexual assault of teens has greatly increased due to these asylum hotels, it’s not people being racist or something to be ignored since local men do it to.

Yes I’ve worked with male nurses from that country in a unit dealing with very vulnerable neurodiverse patients. I heard the most horrendous things being said about the patients, mainly along the lines of how “people like that” are dealt with in their country.

If I went for an interview for a position at an autism specialised mental health unit and mentioned in the interview that I didn’t think autism existed and that I think they are just a bunch of lunatics, I’d be marched out of the door and have my practicing license taken off me, and rightly so. But if someone comes over from a 3rd world country to do that same job with the same attitude, it’s okay because they are cheaper to employ and oh it’s not their fault their country is backwards, bless their cotton socks. Sod any affect it has on patient care - said affect being bullying of patients, refusing to make any effort to build a rapport with them, eye rolling, making fun of them and poking them, trying to ban animal therapy sessions that patients enjoy because in their country said animal is considered to be unclean etc. I could go on

Lifesd · 25/10/2025 01:09

I think the problems we are seeing now are the tip of a very big iceberg. Dark times for the UK and Europe more widely as the backlash will lead to an explosion of more extreme right and left wing ideology.

AmateurDad · 25/10/2025 01:09

MissKitty0 · 24/10/2025 19:04

It’s kids I feel sorry for. They’re going to grow up in an unsafe third world hellhole because our politicians and civil servants get some sort of social status from virtue signalling. When I was growing up it was perfectly safe for me to walk to primary school. Now that absolutely wouldn’t be the case in any kind of big city.

Bollocks.
Civil servants work anonymously, so don't get to "virtue-signal" even if they wanted to.
Oh, and we live in urban north London, and our daughter was travelling across town to school and back daily from the age of 11.

twilightermummy · 25/10/2025 01:26

How the hell did a prison officer mistake such a high profile offender?! Every man and his dog knows this story!

My first thought was that this was a Reform set-up because it really does beggar belief that this could happen accidentally.

Willyoujustbequiet · 25/10/2025 01:42

Noodledog · 24/10/2025 19:12

Reading the details of what was done to the young mother has made me cry this evening. An ordinary woman, just working a minimum wage job to pay the rent and bills, having to use public transport to get home from her shift late at night. Stabbed in the head over twenty times with a screwdriver. Five year old left behind.

And getting upset about unvetted young men being put up in communities with no oversight is apparently racist. So many concerns about the rights of these men, zero concern about the safety of women and girls. It makes me despair. You just know that this won't change anything.

This

I'm so angry.

Women and children are being sacrificed by virtue signallers. Nothing is being done and we are the absolute laughing stock.

I hate Farage..I'm left wing...I'm probably going to vote Reform as I'm so sick of this shit.

WildLimePoet · 25/10/2025 02:22

CorneliaCupp · 24/10/2025 22:42

That's not the argument I made though.
There is no evidence that refugees and asylum seekers commit more crime than anyone else, therefore I don't think that we should refuse to accept all asylum seekers because of this crime.

Why the constant lying?

There is evidence of that. In Germany, Sweden, Denmark and other European countries, where the collect and publish data, there is clear evidence that asylum seekers and migrants from certain countries and way over represented in crime stats, especially sexual violence.

This country covers up this crime data and actively tries to hide it. The Tories covered up lots of scandals over the years and Starmer is well known for all his attempts to cover up lots of things. The grooming gang point is still attempting to be covered up, even today.

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WildLimePoet · 25/10/2025 02:29

matresense · 24/10/2025 22:46

@CorneliaCupp

So if we could prove that asylum seekers committed more crime and in particular more violent crime, then you’d be happy to agree that we should vet more carefully or perhaps not accept at all?

It has been proven. In country after country after country in Europe.

The far left are too hell bent on preserving their woke credentials to even acknowledge it. Ask them what they think of the crime stats from Germany. Why won’t they acknowledge it.

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WildLimePoet · 25/10/2025 02:32

ninjahamster · 24/10/2025 23:37

I think we need proper, legal routes into this country.

oh the naivety. You think that would stop illegal immigration.

The fact that ‘one in, one out, another one back in’, scheme shows that the illegal migrants just come straight back in tells you that no amount of safe routes will help.

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WildLimePoet · 25/10/2025 02:37

TheNinny · 25/10/2025 00:14

I remember years ago watching a news story interviewing immigrants in norway from Eritrea about their reactions to new ‘anti-rape classes’ ‘ they had to attend as part of asylum process.

It always stuck out to me the views of one young man saying “how different it was than back home, where if you liked a girl you could just take her”. He accepted most things though about consent however he still did not understand how a man could be punished for raping his own wife 🤷‍♀️

I’ve encountered medical students from this country who refused to have women help with training, and treated them with utter contempt. Anyway, I digress. These are the attitudes we are importing from these 3rd world countries like this one.

I used to walk around Glasgow with my friends aged 14-15, but there is no way on earth I’d let my DD do that once she’s that age, thank fuck she’s only 5. It is changing our society and culture here, and not for the better. Women have enough abuse from home grown men - and yes we are becoming more vocal about it - sarah everidge springs to mind- but we don’t need to add to it. In Falkirk, sexual assault of teens has greatly increased due to these asylum hotels, it’s not people being racist or something to be ignored since local men do it to.

Any man who has to be taught not to rape shouldn’t be here. Can the woke luvvies explain why they are advocating for bringing people here to teach them not to rape?

This is total madness.

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WildLimePoet · 25/10/2025 02:38

Kendodd · 24/10/2025 23:07

I've also taken asylum seekers in and feel somewhat the same.

The number of asylum seekers going on ‘holiday’ to their home countries tell you everything you need to know.

Honestly, this country is a joke and everyone is laughing at us.

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FancyLimePoet · 25/10/2025 03:50

AmyDudley · 24/10/2025 18:23

They were men who committed crimes, the BBC doesn't actually have to say they are asylum seekers. Far more men who are not asylum seekers commit crimes against women every day. They aren't reported as 'man who a born and bred in UK commits crime'. why not ?

And David Lammy is hardly personally responsible for a mistale by a prison ( a prison system the tories had more than enough time to reform but did nothing about.)

You can’t use that line anymore. Labour have been in power now for plenty of time, if they wanted to reform they could.

I feel bad for the prison officer, they are probably understaffed running on empty and used as a fall guy for a broken system.. I blame the Government, it’s their fault. Keir is for too soft and there is far too much virtue signalling it’s like he can’t be his authentic self because he doesn’t have the confidence ( see I turn on benefits overhaul). You just can’t please everyone so why not please the majority rather than the minority ?

briq · 25/10/2025 03:51

The argument that women and children are most often murdered by men they know/relative/spouses is often trotted out in these threads. As so many have countered, that's no reason to allow more dangerous men into the country (or men from countries where there is a higher incidence of violence against women). But also, I was fortunate enough to be born into a family free of violent men, and I've taken great pains not to form relationships with violent men. If I am ever harmed by a man, I'd guess that it would almost certainly have to be a random act of violence by a stranger, so no, I don't want more men around who think nothing of attacking some random girl or woman on the street. Every person killed or harmed by a person who shouldn't even have been in the country to begin with is an utterly senseless tragedy that could have been avoided. It's sickening that anyone tries to use 'home-grown' criminals to minimise that tragedy.

As for why they do these crimes, like all criminals, most of them are not exactly the brightest individuals. Some of them lack impulse control. Some of them are just a bit nuts. And when you're importing them from certain cultures, some of them have been raised to think that they can do what they like to women (especially women who aren't of the 'correct' faith).

spoonbillstretford · 25/10/2025 04:16

FancyLimePoet · 25/10/2025 03:50

You can’t use that line anymore. Labour have been in power now for plenty of time, if they wanted to reform they could.

I feel bad for the prison officer, they are probably understaffed running on empty and used as a fall guy for a broken system.. I blame the Government, it’s their fault. Keir is for too soft and there is far too much virtue signalling it’s like he can’t be his authentic self because he doesn’t have the confidence ( see I turn on benefits overhaul). You just can’t please everyone so why not please the majority rather than the minority ?

I blame the previous government who left all public services far worse off than when they came into power.

There is no magic money tree to deal with 14 years of ideological destruction of public services, and when Reeves suggest raising taxes, everyone shits a brick over it.

spoonbillstretford · 25/10/2025 04:20

And the Conservatives were still blaming Labour for their own failings just before they lost the election. So 14 years in, not just over a year.

sunshinestar1986 · 25/10/2025 06:32

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So its an exception for the men in this country but its the norm for everyone.else eh
Let me tell you, you see what you wanna see
Stats show that a ridiculous amount of girls are abused by their own dads, step dads, older brothers, uncles or a family friend, in this country
I would start opening my eyes 🙄

sunshinestar1986 · 25/10/2025 06:33

Fluffyholeysocks · 24/10/2025 22:36

I blame an asylum seeker for Rhiannon"s murder. Am I wrong??

Why not blame a man?

Lifesd · 25/10/2025 06:34

lifeonmars100 · 24/10/2025 22:27

Thank you for this. The community I live in is very mixed and the males from some backgrounds are verbally misogynistic and intimidating. A friend of mine no longer uses her local corner shop due to the crowds of men who gather outside drinking and blocking the pavement. When she politely asked them to move so she could walk on the pavement to get into the shop she was told "go fuck yourself bitch cunt" and I have had foul things said to me when asking my non-English speaking neighbours to stop shouting in the street. They are very good at swearing despite claiming they cannot speak English. It was not like this a few years ago. I do not go out after dark, too many aggressive drunk males out on the street, two friends of mine have sold up and moved as the area has gone down hill, I cannot afford to move. I have complained about the things that go on next door to me and it transpired that some of the people there were in the country illegally, the only thing that happened was that they cleared off and another lot have taken their place.

You will find a lot of the supporters will never encounter this sort of experience because they are tucked away in their leafy enclaves shouting about racism without having to deal of any of these lived realities.

sunshinestar1986 · 25/10/2025 06:36

EasternStandard · 24/10/2025 22:27

It’s not worth it to have what happened to Rhiannon.

So the girls who get abused by their dads
Who should we blame?
All dads?
Let's not let girls live with their Dad's?
Or how about men?
Should women and girls live in a seperate world to men and older boys?
That's the only way that all girls will be safe right?
I mean you can't even rely on the police
We've seen what happened to Sarah

TheaBrandt1 · 25/10/2025 06:45

The stats show the rate of offending from those communities is higher. Their cultures view women negatively. So the risk of girls and women being attacked (which unarguably already exists in the risk of being attacked by native men) increases with immigration.

One camp (left) thinks local women should accept this risk (be kind) and suck it up for the good of the blameless immigrants.

The other camp (right) would rather prejudice blameless immigrants to protect local women.

Boomer55 · 25/10/2025 06:53

IkeaJesusChrist · 24/10/2025 19:05

I'm in Chelmsford and the local gammons are livid.

So, younger people in Chelmsford are quite happy about this, and only older people are bothered?

How odd. 🤷‍♀️

EasternStandard · 25/10/2025 06:57

spoonbillstretford · 25/10/2025 04:16

I blame the previous government who left all public services far worse off than when they came into power.

There is no magic money tree to deal with 14 years of ideological destruction of public services, and when Reeves suggest raising taxes, everyone shits a brick over it.

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Of course you do. Labour rely on a few but there’s not much support left.

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