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Another day, another clown show - Epping asylum seeker and rapist released from Prison ‘by mistake’

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WildLimePoet · 24/10/2025 18:12

You literally couldn’t make this shit up.

This country is broken.

Reform should send David Lamey a big thankyou note for this gift.

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OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 24/10/2025 21:33

Bringemout · 24/10/2025 21:29

In recent weeks it’s become really clear to me that there are a lot of women on these boards who prioritise men over female safety.

The argument I see over and over again is that the UK has loads of perverts why worry about a few more. Every single victim of sexual crime is someone who is going to be permanently altered by the experience, anxiety, ptsd, fear. It can blight someones life permanently.

The number of people I see on here who are more worried about not being “racist” than the actual wellbeing of girls and women actually astounds me. It is not racist to suggest that men (and we all agree that men are the problem here) who we cannot vet may possibly be a risk. Especially when I hear the “I didn’t know it was wrong to rape a teenager” over and over again. No-one starts out the life of criminality by stabbing someone 23 times, thats more like an end point. If you come to the Uk legally I assume we expect you to provide information from your home country on your criminal record. We cannot do that in most of these cases.

From conversations I’ve had in real life, it’s also because some left-leaning people have been waiting years and years for Labour to get back in, and now they’re finally in, they don’t want anything to derail, so if Labour have nailed their colours to the asylum mast, then they’ll find a way to denigrate anyone who fights against this, as their socialist, liberal, ‘progressive’ beliefs outweigh anything, so for the greater good, people need to be quiet, as it may well be a problem, but 14 years of Tory austerity, blah blah means we just need to be pragmatic, and ‘anything but the tories’, GTTO etc, means suck it up, we’ve got bigger problems to sort first and we’ll come back to this.

No.

Kendodd · 24/10/2025 21:34

Zanzara · 24/10/2025 21:17

After due consideration, I decided @Kendodd was being sarcastic. ??

Only partially.
The treatment of women in these source countries makes me so angry. They have been quite literally trampled underfoot by these men while they leave. And the argument that its not safe for women to make these journeys, they'll get beaten, raped etc. Yes, true. But why isn't it safe? Who exactly is raping and abusing them on the journey?

CalmShaker · 24/10/2025 21:35

JustSawJohnny · 24/10/2025 21:24

When was the last time a prisoner was released by mistake?

Surely that's a fairly rare occurrence?

Funnily enough 2 days ago. I was queuing alongside a young gentleman in a branch of Sainsbury's when I heard the rattle of metal. Before I could get my Nectar out the man was wearing a pair of 'cuffs and being escorted to the managers office. According to the lady on the till it's a daily occurrence, the supermarket being a place of 'essential visit', is used as a pickup point for escaped wrong 'uns

PandoraSocks · 24/10/2025 21:36

JustSawJohnny · 24/10/2025 21:24

When was the last time a prisoner was released by mistake?

Surely that's a fairly rare occurrence?

It happens more often than one would hope:

www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/prisoners-ministry-of-justice-government-wales-labour-b2851866.html

Spooky2000 · 24/10/2025 21:37

EasternStandard · 24/10/2025 21:30

Why do Germany, France and ROI suffer similar male violence if they have access to those systems?

You might be aware of recent crimes. Can you say why they have the same and still within the EU?

I can't make sense of your qtn, tbh.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 24/10/2025 21:39

Bringemout · 24/10/2025 21:29

In recent weeks it’s become really clear to me that there are a lot of women on these boards who prioritise men over female safety.

The argument I see over and over again is that the UK has loads of perverts why worry about a few more. Every single victim of sexual crime is someone who is going to be permanently altered by the experience, anxiety, ptsd, fear. It can blight someones life permanently.

The number of people I see on here who are more worried about not being “racist” than the actual wellbeing of girls and women actually astounds me. It is not racist to suggest that men (and we all agree that men are the problem here) who we cannot vet may possibly be a risk. Especially when I hear the “I didn’t know it was wrong to rape a teenager” over and over again. No-one starts out the life of criminality by stabbing someone 23 times, thats more like an end point. If you come to the Uk legally I assume we expect you to provide information from your home country on your criminal record. We cannot do that in most of these cases.

Dip your toes into FWR! There are many women who prioritise men’s feelings over women’s. Quite depressing really.

Yes males as a sex class are a problem. Yes we have too many of our own ‘white’ home grown rapists etc etc. No one is ignoring this.

However of course it’s relevant when men from cultures and countries that have completely different views and attitudes that do not align with ours when it comes to women, commit crimes in this country.

Whether they are ‘legal’ asylum seekers (seekers being the word, a new better life is being sought), migrants, doctors or straight off a dingy with no checks into their background whatsoever, whataboutery and ‘you’re oh so racist for even mentioning asylum seekers’ helps absolutely no one.

Spooky2000 · 24/10/2025 21:39

EasternStandard · 24/10/2025 21:32

I voted Remain and I don’t care what they said. I’m asking you to specify as I’m interested in what those systems are and why other countries still suffer from similar male violence.

And I told you: it's privileged information. I won't be drawn further into that.

Bringemout · 24/10/2025 21:40

I really don’t want to make it about race but I always thought culture definitely has an impact. I heard a theory once that because porn primarily involves white women men from more conservative cultures believe that white women are basically all up for it all the time. I call bullshit on that though, you would have to be really stupid to think that having to hold down a woman while she’s terrified or crying is normal or in anyway consent. A few weeks ago I would have said it’s a cultural lack of respect for women, but being on these boards showed me that we have a lack of respect for girls and women's safety too. It has been really eye opening and quite terrifying.

I get really pissed off when I see some of the court statements saying “oh I didn’t realise it was illegal”. In which country is grabbing a girl or woman off the street and raping her legal? It’s the sheer fucking male entitlement to think that whatever they do doesn’t matter.

I think the UK not deporting rapists and murders is exactly why we have this problem. The gulf countries have massive migrant populations and are generally law abiding because anyone who commits a crime knows they are well and truly fucked when the police catch up with them. Here we can’t deport people to places like Afghanistan, pakistan flat refuses to take back it’s criminals. It’s a bloody joke.

EasternStandard · 24/10/2025 21:41

Spooky2000 · 24/10/2025 21:39

And I told you: it's privileged information. I won't be drawn further into that.

Yes it’s very hush hush but I asked another question. Why do Germany, France and ROI have similarly horrendous male crime? presumably they still have access

Poobs2022 · 24/10/2025 21:43

WildLimePoet · 24/10/2025 18:48

Like PP said, the ‘one in, one out, one back again’ scheme seems to be falling apart. Net result being we are actually bringing more asylum seekers in.

And now sexual offending asylum seekers just walk out or prison.

What this tells you is that this is a regular occurrence, we’re only hearing about it because this guy was the cause of Epping protests.

This country is run by clowns. Both government and authorities.

I have a painting of No10 being run by monkeys. It's called welcome to the circus 🤡 it's very appropriate for the current (and past) state of government.

Spooky2000 · 24/10/2025 21:45

EasternStandard · 24/10/2025 21:41

Yes it’s very hush hush but I asked another question. Why do Germany, France and ROI have similarly horrendous male crime? presumably they still have access

I don't know as I don't work for those countries. Check their policies :)

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 24/10/2025 21:45

Spooky2000 · 24/10/2025 21:39

And I told you: it's privileged information. I won't be drawn further into that.

Dr Evil Whatever GIF

‘Privileged information’

suburburban · 24/10/2025 21:45

WildLimePoet · 24/10/2025 19:49

It’s a way to bring in more people. Thats what successive governments have wanted. This government is just openly brazen about.

They want open borders and unlimited immigration. That’s why they they are now spending taxpayer cash to bring in people.

so not listening to what its citizens want. Wasting more money

why do they want to ruin the UK

EasternStandard · 24/10/2025 21:45

Spooky2000 · 24/10/2025 21:45

I don't know as I don't work for those countries. Check their policies :)

So being in the EU doesn’t help them. Ok…

Spooky2000 · 24/10/2025 21:45

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 24/10/2025 21:45

‘Privileged information’

It is; but I'm amused.

LizzieSiddal · 24/10/2025 21:46

I agree the country is broken but to blame it on a Labour government is ridiculous. They didn’t start governing with all trains/NHS/police/justice system actually working. Whoever was in charge was going to take time to sort things out! Austerity fucked this country and its people and Brexit and Covid just added to it.

Spooky2000 · 24/10/2025 21:46

EasternStandard · 24/10/2025 21:45

So being in the EU doesn’t help them. Ok…

Whatever you think I'm sure is right :)

EasternStandard · 24/10/2025 21:47

LizzieSiddal · 24/10/2025 21:46

I agree the country is broken but to blame it on a Labour government is ridiculous. They didn’t start governing with all trains/NHS/police/justice system actually working. Whoever was in charge was going to take time to sort things out! Austerity fucked this country and its people and Brexit and Covid just added to it.

Labour really need a new line on this.

Whatsmyusername94 · 24/10/2025 21:48

ninjahamster · 24/10/2025 18:33

The fact he was an asylum seeker is irrelevant.
The issue here is that a prisoner was released incorrectly.

It’s not irrelevant

Ritasueandbobtoo9 · 24/10/2025 21:48

David Lamy looked angry just now. I wonder if the civil service is there to take successive governments down.

EasternStandard · 24/10/2025 21:49

Spooky2000 · 24/10/2025 21:46

Whatever you think I'm sure is right :)

Ok good.

ninjahamster · 24/10/2025 21:49

Whatsmyusername94 · 24/10/2025 21:48

It’s not irrelevant

It is to me.

Im just concerned somebody was released incorrectly.

Bringemout · 24/10/2025 21:50

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 24/10/2025 21:39

Dip your toes into FWR! There are many women who prioritise men’s feelings over women’s. Quite depressing really.

Yes males as a sex class are a problem. Yes we have too many of our own ‘white’ home grown rapists etc etc. No one is ignoring this.

However of course it’s relevant when men from cultures and countries that have completely different views and attitudes that do not align with ours when it comes to women, commit crimes in this country.

Whether they are ‘legal’ asylum seekers (seekers being the word, a new better life is being sought), migrants, doctors or straight off a dingy with no checks into their background whatsoever, whataboutery and ‘you’re oh so racist for even mentioning asylum seekers’ helps absolutely no one.

I’m an ethnic minority myself and I really couldn’t give a shit about peoples need to virtue signal. I, my DD, my sisters, my nieces my friends all have to walk the same streets as the rest of the women in the UK. I want them to be safe, I want crimes against girls and women to be treated with some seriousness.

Do I give a shit if someone may be tortured by their government if they are deported for a sexual assualt. Not really. Most normal people who choose to move to a country tend to do so because they want to build a better life for themselves and their families. If you arrive and start assaulting people then I’m going to doubt your sincerity.

God knows if I genuinely needed asylum I’d be grateful to anyone who would have me and do my damn best to not be a burden. The weird thing about that is I fine see white british people saying things like “people shouldn’t feel the need to be greatful”. Yet people who have often come with a genuine wish to become a part of British society often talk with great fondness for Britain. I know my parents did, they were grateful to have been accepted and given the opportunity to build their lives in a country which was significantly less corrupt and sectarian from the one they came from. I’ve seen people who were genuinely being persecuted expressing their gratitude to be given safe harbour. It is a normal human emotion to feel warmly towards people who have helped you.

What you don’t do is start stabbing people.

Bringemout · 24/10/2025 21:51

EasternStandard · 24/10/2025 21:47

Labour really need a new line on this.

Yes it’s getting a bit tired. They have the opposite of the midas touch, whatever they come into contact with turns to shit.

BundleBoogie · 24/10/2025 21:51

CorneliaCupp · 24/10/2025 21:22

What is the point of this post op? You're not engaging in discussion, dismissing any post that doesn't agree with your point of view, giving no evidence to back up anything you say.
What are you hoping to achieve? I can't see how anything can change at all until you actually engage in facts, not hyperbole.

OP has put forward a view and is clear about that view. Other people are welcome to put forward and defend their points for discussion. Ideally they will be proper points, not just denial, justification or deflection.

What is your point?

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