Trigger warning -To have told my friend her racist Facebook posts could cost her her new job

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And I was told to mind my own business.

to be honest rethinking the friendship as our values are obviously completely different

she has just started a new job in a solicitors which I am guessing would cater to all different people from all different cultures, religions, believes etc. recently she has been posting some really well racist stuff such as “sink the boats” and “ban the burka” and “fuck off home” “Britain for the British” “Immigrants are pedos” “our children need to be protected not shot in their own school”
things like that.
tonight she has also posted a post saying “only nonces encourage children to believe they are in the wrong body”.

that last one I don’t believe the nonces part but I do have some options about children being transgender but I don’t post them all over Facebook.

if I were a boss of an organisation that deals with the public I would not be at all happy.

I even have another friend who is not as close to this person threatening to send her company the screen shots as she is so disgusted. I have said that is up to her and to leave me out of that one.

the thing is she has been done before in the her last job for writing horrible things about a colleague and was so close to the sack.

I just don’t think I can be in the same company as this friend now. It’s fair enough having different ideas and beliefs but it just goes too far

She could be in big trouble if the employee feels she could bring them into disrepute.

youve done the right thing from withdrawing from the friendship.

current climate is bringing all sorts of hatred out of the woodwork.

Is there anything on her Facebook profile that identifies her as an employee of the company that she works for? If yes, then she could lose her job. If no, then not their business, it’s nothing to do with her employment, and she won’t lose her job.

Clearly you don’t understand the issue! Employers generally have SM policies which clearly lay out what is acceptable to post, her comments would fall into the unacceptable category and potentially bring her employers into disrepute! I’m glad someone has seen fit to send them to her employer and she deserves everything she gets!

Know of a woman that worked for HR and posted that shite, without considering who she had in her friends list, a senior manager, who is also mixed race, she got a written warning. She left shortly afterwards. I also see a lot of others posting but they don't have employment details on their posts and aren't in jobs with any responsibility so nobody cares. Scroll on and just clock them as idiots.
I did get blocked by a relative who posted Australian versions of the same stuff. On one about 'send them back' I asked when they are coming back to the UK then, as they are British born, having gone to Aus in the 70s, and I agree that Australia should be for original Australians. Funny that I got blocked for agreeing...🤔😉😂

You'd be sacked from my place for posting stuff like this without a doubt.

Solicitor here. If these screenshots do get back to your ‘friend’s’ firm I’d be very surprised if they didn’t at the very least want to discuss this with her. If she’s on probation still they’ll find it very easy to let her go. No doubt they (the firm) will be very worried about clients and the SRA finding out and bringing the profession ‘into disrepute’.

More importantly really is that posts like these are reported to Facebook and tried to be cut off at source. Hate speech and the spread of it on social media is so dangerous. Though I’ve reported lots of things to Facebook in the past when Britain First used to circulate very racist posts and they’ve always said that it doesn’t contravene their values. Meanwhile I can’t sell certain Ikea furniture on marketplace because that is a contravention 🙄

Why does this need a trigger warning? YABU just for that.

Yes, i work in law and my firm would sack me so fast my feet wouldn't touch if I posted stuff like that. Your "friend" is an idiot and from how long you say you've been friends, she should be old enough to know better

Leave her to it, play stupid games win stupid prizes. You anbu for re-evaluating the friendship.

Why would you suggest that? The woman has form in a previous job for posting nasty comments about a colleague so why does this suggest her Facebook has been hacked?

She sounds awful, and I wouldn’t be friends with her. I would flag it to a manager. Posts like this would get me fired.

Why are you friends with her? She sounds vile and I wouldn't want to employ her or work with her.

Ditto. At my firm it would be a matter of 'get TF out of here, now, you utter fool, and we'll sort the details later'.

Plus, I never understand why people come on this sort of thread to say 'Ah, but freedom of speech/freedom to offend/right to hold an opinion'. Yes the friend may have the right to hold those views and to let everybody else know about them. But her employer also has the right to hold the opinion that she's an unpleasant moron that they don't want anywhere near their firm. As usual the self-appointed defenders of free speech are really advocating freedom from consequences or responsibility. And before they say 'Well the friend can take them to an employment tribunal', a) good luck with that, b) even if she wins she'll have a payout of a few grand but no job and much diminished future employability. Which isn't really winning.

I even have another friend who is not as close to this person threatening to send her company the screen shots as she is so disgusted.

What is the goal of this on the reporting friend's part, seriously? It won't change the friend's views. If anything it will entrench them. Convincing and persuading with argument is what changes people's minds

100% agree with this.

Only issue is, that since you mentioned it to her, WHEN (not if) she gets sacked over it, she'll think you're the one who reported her.

Sorry but anyone who uses the word nonce and writes sentences like that (assuming you have repeated what she’s said verbatim) sounds really thick.

Proving to her that her racist and gender critical views are 1) Not mainstream and 2) Inappropriate in ANY workplace.

At some point, she's got to grow up. She'd be better taking it from a well meaning friend than after being sacked.

Let's hope she's on Mumsnet and reads this thread, ay?

Why would anyone use LinkedIn as if it were personal social media? You're not a 'poor woman' if you can't work out that basis. Regardless of the perspective. I'm pro-Palestine. I NEVER mention it on LinkedIn.

It's about your job and work. No more, no less.

Enjoy having a Reform government. You are the reason for it. Thanks for that!

Jesus. You are the company you keep OP! Not good!

Think what you like about anything or anyone, but it gives us all no right to speak out loud or broadcast those thoughts openly on social media. Especially if it causes offence. Your friend is disgusting.

I reported someone for Racists posts … they were a Police Officer in The Met, I feel no guilt. I also have a friend in the Fire Service who reported Racist Posts in a work WhatsApp group … good for them.

Free Speech does not mean “no consequences” … I work for the Civil Service, there’s lots I can’t mention on my Social Media, I can’t talk/comment on Gov Policy.. so I don’t do it

I’m ex Big 4. People were fired for this type of behavior. And that includes v senior people. The SRA might also be interested (less likely if she’s not a solicitor).

I would and the friendship.

I don’t blame other friend for reporting her to her employer, this would be against our social media policy and I imagine many other organisations have similar.

She nearly got sacked for her vile behaviour in her previous work place and it sounds like she’s not learned her lesson so she was a ticking time bomb anyway. Other friend has probably just saved some poor soul at this woman’s new work from the same treatment in the future.

The only people who can make that decision are her employers.