To have done this to his clothes?

[Dockerty]

Bloke im seeing - first time he stayed at my house he had a shower and then left all his clothes (work uniform etc) folded (in a fashion) and piled up on the toilet. I went in to use the toilet, picked up his clothes and moved them into the bedroom.

Second time he stayed, he did the same thing so I went in to use the toilet, picked up his clothes and shouted of him to come and move them which he did.

3rd time - same thing - this time I didn’t pick them up, I just shouted of him to come and move them and asked him to stop doing this as I don’t want to be moving his clothes everytime I use the bathroom. He made a sarky “ooo ok boss” comment but moved them. I was pissed off and told him it’s a bit ridiculous that a grown man would leave his clothes like that for someone else to sort out! He said I was making a mountain out of a molehill.

So last night he stayed over again - same thing happened so this time I simply swiped the lot onto the floor, used the toilet and then got a shower myself. Accidentally on purpose stood on his clothes as I got out of the shower so they were wet.

An hour or so later he went to use the toilet and came back asking how his clothes got wet. I said they were on the floor. He said no they weren’t, they were on the toilet so I said yeah but then I needed to use the toilet so they ended up on the floor”.

He went in a full on mood about it saying it was petty and disrespectful and maybe he should treat my clothes the same way. I said he could - but he’d have to take them out of the drawer or wardrobe to do it which would be a bit weird.

so, who is BU, me or him?

You aren’t compatible

@Dockerty he is untidy, you are anal/petty. Not a compatible combination.

YOU are being unreasonable for still being in a relationship with him! What a joke

Just ask yourself what’s the point of carrying on the he relationship

I expect he's changing in the bathroom because it's not his house, and the toilet seat is the only place to put them. He should be moving them afterwards, as asked.
That said, I'd dump you, if you did that to my clothes.

YANBU as you had told him several times.

Why on earth are you still seeing him? You clearly aren't compatible.

Surely you just end this relationship now?
He's totally arrogant and not worth the effort.

So the scenario is shag, shower, clothes and repeat. Why are you still shagging him?

YABU

You obviously don’t like him and so I don’t get why you’re with him.

I always put my clothes on the toilet and sometimes forget to move them until I need the toilet.

Pushing them on the floor and standing on them when you’re wet seems way too excessive.
You need to chill out.

Basic training. Don’t be a twat new man, I won’t be a twat either. You’d asked, he’d ignored.

Good for you OP, I’d have done the same.

Is he rich and phenomenal in bed?

Even if he is, is it worth trading your self respect for if he is also a cunt?

Oh Christ get rid of him. Apart from the disrespect, he's lazy, lives with his mum and he's a lousy shag.

He'll end up one of those husbands who say 'you should've asked me '.

Wise words and very true.

I never accepted twatish behaviour, I’d rather be single.

Surely if you're staying over at somebody else's house and you've taken a change of clothes, you put your old clothes in the bag you brought your clean clothes in!

YANBU. 1) it's weird that he doesn't see anything gross about leaving clothes on the toilet, 2) You've asked him not to do it and he's both belittled your request and deliberately done the same thing again, and 3) it sounds like the sex is bad - for goodness sake why haven't you ditched him already?

Of course the toilet seat isn't the only place to put them! How about in whatever vessel you brought the clean clothes over in, and then said vessel put somewhere that isn't in your host's way?

How about anywhere that isn't where your host has asked you not to leave it?

Listen to @MrsTerryPratchett, you go out with a twat, you tolerate a twat, you marry a twat, don't be surprised you end up with a twat.

Dump his ass and stop allowing him into your home.
He's lazy, lives with his mother and is a shit shag....
Do you really not realise he needs to be dumped.

Just sticking them on the floor - fine. Trampling them with wet feet - pathetic.

You sound like you're extremely hard work, I think he's probably better off without you.

Dumps his clothes at yours and is useless in bed. Why string it out?

He would annoy to the point of not wanting to see him again but you came off worse.

This is only the fourth time he's stayed over at hers. It's barely a fling let alone a relationship. They're not sexually compatible, and they don't seem to either respect or even like each other. Not sure why she needed to ask the internet anything but there's only one answer.

I don't think dumping is OTT - it's a mature recognition of incompatibility. OTT is passive-aggressively ramping up the pettiness until they both find themselves a decade deep into a relationship where they both hate each other.

Extremely hard work? For protesting at a guys disrespect in her own home? You need to get out more.

Get rid. It won’t get any better. I’ve been married to DH for 27 years and he still does shite like this! (Not leaving stuff on the toilet).
He kept leaving his backpack on the dining room table and his coat hanging in the back of a chair. I’ve just spent a fortune decorating and on new furniture so warned him if he carried on I’d throw his stuff in the garden. He did, so I did. And it rained. 😂. He hasn’t done it since, proving he’s more than capable of putting his shit away.

neither my dh or myself expect to be disturbed while showering, i bring the clothing i intend to wear as does my dh into the bathroom and change in there,

dh likes putting his clothing on the back of the toilet, i put mine on the sink counter top.

do you not have a second bathroom to allow privacy while showering?

do you not have a second bathroom to allow privacy while showering?

The most 'mumsnet' comment of the day!😂

Why how dirty is your toilet lid you would keave clothes on it 🤢