To have done this to his clothes?

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Bloke im seeing - first time he stayed at my house he had a shower and then left all his clothes (work uniform etc) folded (in a fashion) and piled up on the toilet. I went in to use the toilet, picked up his clothes and moved them into the bedroom.

Second time he stayed, he did the same thing so I went in to use the toilet, picked up his clothes and shouted of him to come and move them which he did.

3rd time - same thing - this time I didn’t pick them up, I just shouted of him to come and move them and asked him to stop doing this as I don’t want to be moving his clothes everytime I use the bathroom. He made a sarky “ooo ok boss” comment but moved them. I was pissed off and told him it’s a bit ridiculous that a grown man would leave his clothes like that for someone else to sort out! He said I was making a mountain out of a molehill.

So last night he stayed over again - same thing happened so this time I simply swiped the lot onto the floor, used the toilet and then got a shower myself. Accidentally on purpose stood on his clothes as I got out of the shower so they were wet.

An hour or so later he went to use the toilet and came back asking how his clothes got wet. I said they were on the floor. He said no they weren’t, they were on the toilet so I said yeah but then I needed to use the toilet so they ended up on the floor”.

He went in a full on mood about it saying it was petty and disrespectful and maybe he should treat my clothes the same way. I said he could - but he’d have to take them out of the drawer or wardrobe to do it which would be a bit weird.

so, who is BU, me or him?

My partner used to do this, he has ADHD and just forgets what he's doing sometimes. It took some time & the occasional thing gets left behind but he's mostly been trained not to now.

At this stage in the relationship, he should still be in “perfect” mode. He’s clearly not and this sort of thing will only get worse.

Chuck him!

I don't think it's unreasonable for him to not leave his clothes in the bathroom! Who does that?! He sounds a bit thick as well as idle, I'd dump him. He needs to grow up.

If more women had a higher bar where these men are concerned, there'd be a lot less unhappy women. I think OP is doing the right thing.

This thread is nuts 😂

You're quite clearly both going to irritate the life out of each other.

Taking the sex of the two people out of the equation, I couldn't live with either of these. Both seem highly annoying.

He's folded them and left them in a place and in a pile that can easily be moved.
He hasn't left them strewn and asked her to wash them when she gets a chance.

I got my BAGA 3 in the 80s. My gymnastics career ended at that level.

I'm grateful for your encouragement and support though.

One morning a man was getting dressed after our first night together. He had brought with him a clean shirt - he gestured to the one he'd left on the floor and asked if it was ok if he left it. I said of course. When he got out of bed after the second night together, he said, "Oh, that shirt I left?" and I said, "It's where you left it." Because it was - and the look he gave me! He'd assumed I'd wash and iron it. As if! Never saw him again - no loss.

There are so many women on this thread with subterranean standards. He kept on with an annoying habit after she asked him several times to stop and then he sulked.