To have done this to his clothes?

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Bloke im seeing - first time he stayed at my house he had a shower and then left all his clothes (work uniform etc) folded (in a fashion) and piled up on the toilet. I went in to use the toilet, picked up his clothes and moved them into the bedroom.

Second time he stayed, he did the same thing so I went in to use the toilet, picked up his clothes and shouted of him to come and move them which he did.

3rd time - same thing - this time I didn’t pick them up, I just shouted of him to come and move them and asked him to stop doing this as I don’t want to be moving his clothes everytime I use the bathroom. He made a sarky “ooo ok boss” comment but moved them. I was pissed off and told him it’s a bit ridiculous that a grown man would leave his clothes like that for someone else to sort out! He said I was making a mountain out of a molehill.

So last night he stayed over again - same thing happened so this time I simply swiped the lot onto the floor, used the toilet and then got a shower myself. Accidentally on purpose stood on his clothes as I got out of the shower so they were wet.

An hour or so later he went to use the toilet and came back asking how his clothes got wet. I said they were on the floor. He said no they weren’t, they were on the toilet so I said yeah but then I needed to use the toilet so they ended up on the floor”.

He went in a full on mood about it saying it was petty and disrespectful and maybe he should treat my clothes the same way. I said he could - but he’d have to take them out of the drawer or wardrobe to do it which would be a bit weird.

so, who is BU, me or him?

The obvious alternative is to stop seeing him. Neither future nor forever should come into this or anywhere near it.

Awful childish behaviour from you but I suppose having a slob for a boyfriend could drive a person to this.

I’m sure you can do better than him.

His clothes and the way he got a sulk on are a precursor as to what it would be like if married to him. Unless he really is lovely in other ways, I'd reconsider your future with a manchild! Sorry to say.

so why? I mean just why? he annoys you do you want to be annoyed forever?

Well in that case you're definitely not being unreasonable.

What are his plans for those clothes?
Wear them again? Put them in a bag and take them home?

Or.

Does he think you should wash them for him? Is that why he's leaving them there? Because the domestic fairy ought to fly in and deal with them?

Ah, point taken. I had assumed many of the "unreasonable" voters meant that she should put up with the behaviour or handle it more gently. Dumping him rather than ramping up the argument seems a bit OTT, but probably saves time and stress in the longer term, yeah.

He lives with his mum. There's your answer - he's used to having everything done for him and hasn't listened to your previous requests about the clothes. You'll end up resenting him in the end. I'm willing to bet he's untidy and lazy in other ways too. This doesn't sound much fun

Definitely dump him. And make sure he knows that you were willing to put up with him being shit in bed and broke (raise your standards though girl) but that the clothes on the toilet thing was a step too far. Do the next girl a favour.

I have young men who live with me, and I do more than my share because although they're adults, I still run the household, but they wouldn't need telling more than once that this wasnt OK.

And....they miraculously become much more willing and able around girlfriends they're bothered about!

Get rid of the disrespectful twat. I don't blame you for soaking his clothes. It's not like he didn't know.

I don't know why you're getting the 'you're both childish' type responses. You gave him the benefit of the doubt and moved them for him first. Then you asked him nicely. More than once. What are these posters thinking you should have done, given doing it for him and asking nicely (and just being reasonable) didn't work?

Where else was he meant to put them? Does he have a drawer or shelf to put them on when he stays over.

For the hundredth time WHY ARE YOU WITH HIM??

This really made me laugh you trying to justify it!
I don't think I'd ever consider on top of the only toilet in the house the right place to put my clothes, let alone when I've been asked not to!

Why are you still with him. Unless you want to be his new mummy.

He made a sarky “ooo ok boss” comment but moved them.

I mean that was he time to tell him to piss off really.

This is the honeymoon period where he’s so keen to impress you and show all his bed compatibilities, cooking, cleanliness, boyfriend skills or FWB skills. He doesn’t seem to have any skills though.

Does he leave his clothes on top of his mums toilet? If so, what does she do?

So he is annoying and petty. He is a disappointment in bed and doesn’t have an enormous bank balance to make up for his very irritating traits, onwards and upwards, time to dispense with him.

I mean I think folding clothes and leaving on the loo in a small bathroom makes sense. I'd pick them up on my way out after the shower though.
I think it was a bit mean to deliberately wet them though.

Can't stand people who say "ooh ok boss" when you are simply asking them to do something entirely reasonable. Not the biggest issue but all he had to say was "sorry, will do from now on".

Things like this will grate on you more as time goes by.

Just bin him off, OP.

Get rid. He thinks it's your job to pick up after him.

As do some commenters on this thread, apparently.🙄

Some pigs are perfectly acceptable and behave properly.

I guessed from the start he lives with his mum.

Juvenile.