How to ask for my money? Girl’s night out a couple of weeks ago.

[brownalien]

I paid for a fair bit, everyone else has transferred the money back. Friend in question text to ask for bank details, I sent them, she still hasn’t transferred. Awkward.
We’re not hugely close (if we were I would just chalk it up and probably she’d get the next round in when we next went out). I’m finding it annoying more than anything else. Before anyone says - there are definitely zero financial issues.

not sure but I pay our cap every so often when asked. Don’t know what everyone else does. Probably similar

Will she even turn up at netball I wonder? If it was me, I wouldn’t be able to show my face if I owed someone money and was due to see them. Thankfully I would never behave like this woman has.

I genuinely think she’s just forgotten.

Do you really? Surely if she's just forgotten, she would've text straight back and said that - and then sent the money?

But you said you texted again yesterday to remind her and that she didn’t reply and still didn’t pay? You are far more trusting than me!

I’m just not a priority and I will keep that in mind in future. For now I’ll drop it, I’ve given it way too much headspace as it is!

God no, never drop it. CF rely on people being too wimpy and awkward to keep on. Ask her at netball "Did you get my message?". Being assertive is a good life skill.

No she hadn’t. You’re making excuses for her taking the piss out of you.

If she had genuinely just forgotten your message would have prompted her to think ‘shit I need to do that’ and to transfer among straight away plus apologise. The fact she’s don’t neither shows she’s not forgotten, it’s deliberate

These people depend on others not making a fuss so they can get away with being a CF. Don't be a doormat otherwise people will continue wiping their feet on you - it’s your money , push until you get it

Of course she hasn't forgotten. She's relying on you not saying anything and not paying you. And for some bizarre reason that's what you will do. Bonkers

I’m writing off the money, and the acquaintanceship. I simply cant be bothered with people who aren’t bothered about me.

If you're writing off the acquaintanceship, you might as well get the money back?

What a ridiculous doormat you are, and how bloody rude you are to have wasted everyone's time for sixteen pages. Pathetic simpering women like you are exactly why people get away with treating the rest of us so badly.

This. Honestly it’s ridiculous. If she is nothing to you now - Ask bluntly for the money.
Maybe @TwinklyStork has a (brutal) point!

So true!!

@TwinklyStork , OP didn't post the 16 pages, but she did post about 3 pages of drip-drip 'Poor little me, I'm so feeble' type comments.

Hope she turns up tonight having paid, apologising for being tardy

And no doubt sending a message to your kids if you have any that behaving like a doormat is normal behavior

Jesus!

You've only given it too much headspace because you've done very little about it

No wonder she's not paid you back 😂

What the fuck?? Why is everyone being such a prick to the OP?

“Wasted everyone’s time…” - she didn’t hold a gun to your head to make you read the thread, wake up to yourself!

People are so fucking weird sometimes.

@Whatisgoingonhere , why the foul language?

I agree don't message her again, maybe she needs time to sit down and do it as in write your banking details on a piece of paper and go onto her app. Totally awful of her not to acknowledge your message though and immediately promise to pay, she sounds awful, not you!! Hope there was not one hint of apology when you asked her for the money though. This thread prompted me to look back at the message I sent when owed similar amount and was pleased to see that I didn't even attempt to pretend the money was stuck in a banking abyss just here are my details again please pay.

Oh but I would ask her when you see her, meant to say that!

I’m so sick of reading thread after thread where posters attack or belittle the OP.

People who are so judgemental yet I bet those same keyboard warriors wouldn’t say boo in similar situations, for all their protestations that they would.

Understand that everyone is different, levels of confidence and self esteem differ, even cultural parameters differ.

So the foul language is because I’m sick of the foul behaviour of so many dickhead posters. Simple.