How to ask for my money? Girl’s night out a couple of weeks ago.

[brownalien]

I paid for a fair bit, everyone else has transferred the money back. Friend in question text to ask for bank details, I sent them, she still hasn’t transferred. Awkward.
We’re not hugely close (if we were I would just chalk it up and probably she’d get the next round in when we next went out). I’m finding it annoying more than anything else. Before anyone says - there are definitely zero financial issues.

This 👆👆👆👆We can all be forgetful but you then reply with an apology…which I have had to do ,not for owing money but forgetting to reply to a message.
Bank transfer immediately is then the normal way forward!

If you go on the opening post and press "see all", you will see that OP told us she has done this hours ago

I totally understand how you feel. I've had this but left it too long to say anything and now I feel I can't and it was about £75 - and my friend is loaded. I think she just forgot but think she would be horrified. Genuinely baffles me why I can't say something, it somehow feels icky and like I'm being tight. Pathetic I know...

She's taking the piss by not paying you the money she owes you.
She's seeing if you're a mug in her eyes.
Don't be a mug, she owes you the money, ask her for it.
Nothing awkward here!

Lend me a 50, I’ll pay you back payday next week

It doesn’t matter. it doesn’t matter if she forgets. If it’s less than £30 and you can afford to loose that.

She is a CF and it’s ok to call her out on it.

Previously I’ve mocked up a joke debt collection agency invoice, it did the trick.

Just leave it, Op @brownalien

Stop hounding the poor woman!

for me there’s nothing worse and disrespectful tbh, than having to chase someone down for money they owe you. It doesn’t matter if you have financial issues or not it’s the principal and absolute cheek. One of my pet hates that.

We have a small business and regularly I have to follow up on invoices. My spiel is to say could you please check with your bank that the payment hasn't gone astray... it doesn't accuse them of not paying, and gives them a reminder we need to be paid.

Message again saying
‘sorry not sure if I sent my details already but here they are- (and send the details again!)

If she's not a close friend, why are you concerned about whether she appreciates being reminded of her debts or not?

I think I would mention it to other friends and ask whether she had financial problems you don’t know about. You may find she has form for this and is an entitled CF.

She's sent 1 reminder since this thread started. "Poor woman"?? You must be joking

I'm with you! Poor Woman??!! What's so sad about requesting your money from a (and I use the word loosely!) 'friend'. Whatever way you look at it - it's theft.
I would probably leave it this time but next time you arrange something just make a big deal of doing it for everyone else but let her know you want HER money upfront. She'll understand!

I would write it off too, she should be embarrassed to face you. Next time there is a night out you will get your chance to mention it I am sure, the time will be just right. Might be in the form of 'are you going to pay me back this time lol' in front of others. Has she been good for the money in the past OP? has anyone else had the same experience do you know?

It’s netball tonight…. She may mention it 🤷🏼‍♂️

literally just do it—the awkwardness is to friend, not you

Are you serious? Is this school? Just ask for it directly!!!!

I think I would just say in front of others 'did you get my messages xx?' not to embarrass her mentioning money but making it known there is something else outside of the group chats going on.

Someone said earlier far too many people are intensely relaxed about other people’s money, and that is so true. This woman is absolutely taking the piss. If you owe money, pay up. You wouldn’t walk out of a shop or restaurant without paying first, so why is it ok to piss friends around by not paying them back? She’s had ample time to remember and pay. OP if you let this slide then she’ll continue to do it and you’ll end up resenting her, and yourself, even more.

Yes why not lie down like a doormat and let the CF wipe her feet on you.

I’ll presume this is a wind up post but if not that’s how these grifters get away with it

That’s sensible OP, think I have just run out of patience at the end of school term 😂

How do you pay for netball? Tell whoever gets the money that that CF is covering me cos she still owes me from that night out weeks ago.
I know, too direct for you but I would mention it when you see her. She should be squirming about this, not you. Hopefully, she'll bring the cash. Also, somepeople play keeping up with the Jones' but behind closed doors are in debt up to the hilt and struggle with cash flow so it might be she was waiting until payday. I know a friend of mine is like this but nobody else in our group knows.

Yep last day today, can’t wait for the rest