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Trans woman in Riot Women! WTF?

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OneBadKitty · 18/10/2025 19:59

I usually love anything by Sally Wainwright, but what was she thinking by have a trans-woman in a band called Riot Women that is supposed to be full of menopausal women singing about HRT and other female related issues?

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Squigface · 18/10/2025 23:26

BundleBoogie · 18/10/2025 22:50

It is being widely marketed as being a ‘menopausal punk drama’

And IMDB sums it up as:

Follows a group of middle-aged women, as they form a punk-rock band to participate in a talent contest.

So I’d say PPs summary is entirely fair. It’s about a female band. Including an unnecessary man is ‘not in the spirit’ of that.

Employing a man to play a woman is also not in the spirit of an empowering women’s drama. The very opposite in fact.

It is being widely marketed as being a ‘menopausal punk drama’
And IMDB sums it up as:
Follows a group of middle-aged women, as they form a punk-rock band to participate in a talent contest. - Completely agree that this is how it’s being marketed. The “middle-aged women” statement not entirely accurate as all backing dancers and lead singer not middle-aged. Nobody seems to be getting het up about that, though…

So I’d say PPs summary is entirely fair. It’s about a female band. Including an unnecessary man is ‘not in the spirit’ of that.
Employing a man to play a woman is also not in the spirit of an empowering women’s drama. The very opposite in fact. Do you know for a fact that the character of Miranda wasn’t written as trans? You’re not suggesting that the casting agents were being racist when the part of Nisha was played by Taj Atwal, so what’s the difference?

And to return to your original point that I’m wrong because the programme is being marketed as a “menopausal punk drama” - the very DEFINITION of punk is non-conformity and the promotion of individual freedom! You’re basically backing up everything I’m saying!

BundleBoogie · 18/10/2025 23:28

Pifflepafflewifflewaffle · 18/10/2025 23:19

These are sweeping statements and not true. Look at Ewan Forbes’ story. He was supported by his mum in his transition in the early 1900s, and legal gender recognition was an accepted practice then.

intersex people (no need for the ‘so called’!) are pretty common- apparently as common as red haired people.

Eh? Can you be specific about what you think isn’t true?

I said ‘so called’ intersex because people with DSDs have repeatedly asked for their medical condition not to be appropriated to undermine the sex binary as you are attempting. They are either male or female and very very rarely does a DSD create any visual ambiguity.

I have no idea why you bring up Ewan Forbes. She was a women who wanted to be a man to get around the primogeniture law that prevented her from inheriting because she was female. Nothing to do with a medical condition.

intersex people (no need for the ‘so called’!) are pretty common- apparently as common as red haired people. Nope

You really are bringing out the false information now. That is emphatically NOT the case, it’s less than half that and even lower when you don’t count PCOS which some trans activist groups included to boost the numbers.

BeanQuisine · 18/10/2025 23:31

Pifflepafflewifflewaffle · 18/10/2025 23:04

I was responding to a lack of representation of trans women in the media, you misread.

the main cast of Riot Women are cis women. The writer is a woman. The majority of the crew were female. They’ve done a great job at female representation, as Sally Wainwright is known for doing.

so weird how you’re not in any way angry about men being cast as supporting actors, even though men are the perpetrators of 80% of violent crime, and 99% of rape convictions.

the show literally shows a female police officer being attacked, nearly killed, and sexually assaulted by a male colleague, but there’s angry threads dedicated to hating on the existence of a trans kid? Get a grip.

The anger here clearly IS about a MAN being cast as supporting actor, in an inappropriate role, but you're pretending he's a woman and hoping we won't notice.

PhewForAMinuteThere · 18/10/2025 23:33

BundleBoogie · 18/10/2025 23:14

So called ‘intersex’ people don’t change sex at any point in their lives. They generally don’t even have a ‘gender identity’ as they are not trans. Their medical condition has been appropriated by the trans community.

In very rare situations in countries with poor quality healthcare there may be an assumption that a child is female at birth but then that child goes through male puberty because they are actually male with abnormalities to their genitalia, like Imane Khelif. That is not changing sex.

I believe that in this even smaller minority of a minority section (most DSDs do not give any visual ambiguity on the sex of a person) situation the person should be offered counselling to come to terms with their medical condition.

Why do you call intersex people 'so called' and put it in quotes? I think intersex people do usually have a gender identity, and that they are more likely to undergo gender transition than non intersex people.

BundleBoogie · 18/10/2025 23:38

And to return to your original point that I’m wrong because the programme is being marketed as a “menopausal punk drama” - the very DEFINITION of punk is non-conformity and the promotion of individual freedom! You’re basically backing up everything I’m saying!

Men usurping women in jobs is not punk, it’s quite the opposite.

Arguing in favour of those men is even less ‘punk’, it is patriarchy.

runningonberocca · 18/10/2025 23:41

randoname · 18/10/2025 20:05

Exactly- was looking forward to it.
sigh

Same here. I’m so sick of it.

MarxistMags · 18/10/2025 23:42

I honestly never noticed.....🙄

BundleBoogie · 18/10/2025 23:43

PhewForAMinuteThere · 18/10/2025 23:33

Why do you call intersex people 'so called' and put it in quotes? I think intersex people do usually have a gender identity, and that they are more likely to undergo gender transition than non intersex people.

Because if you stopped to listen to actual people who have that range of medical conditions, you would know that they have asked for people to stop calling them ‘Intersex’. It is a dated term which implies they are not male or female but ‘other’ which is wholly dehumanising and wrong.

You clearly have no understanding of these medical conditions. Do an advanced search on FWR or look up an X name Fondofbeetles - Dr Emma Hilton (or her blogs) who will give you some actual accurate information, not the trans activist nonsense you have been told. Admittedly the trans activists have flooded the internet with lies so it’s fairly tricky but the information is out there.

BundleBoogie · 18/10/2025 23:45

PhewForAMinuteThere · 18/10/2025 23:33

Why do you call intersex people 'so called' and put it in quotes? I think intersex people do usually have a gender identity, and that they are more likely to undergo gender transition than non intersex people.

Here you go. a starting point.

www.filia.org.uk/latest-news/2022/6/30/what-exactly-is-a-dsd-and-what-is-it-like-to-live-with-this

DoinFineIThink · 18/10/2025 23:48

VivienneDelacroix · 18/10/2025 23:11

But I thought the whole gender critical movement was about women's safety, not erasure of transpeople.

Yep, that's the "we just have reasonable concerns" acceptable front, then you get this under the surface that gets ignored or pretends isn't there/that you're making it up and that wasn't what was said at all.

PhewForAMinuteThere · 19/10/2025 00:06

BundleBoogie · 18/10/2025 23:43

Because if you stopped to listen to actual people who have that range of medical conditions, you would know that they have asked for people to stop calling them ‘Intersex’. It is a dated term which implies they are not male or female but ‘other’ which is wholly dehumanising and wrong.

You clearly have no understanding of these medical conditions. Do an advanced search on FWR or look up an X name Fondofbeetles - Dr Emma Hilton (or her blogs) who will give you some actual accurate information, not the trans activist nonsense you have been told. Admittedly the trans activists have flooded the internet with lies so it’s fairly tricky but the information is out there.

I'm always looking to update my language so I'll read up on whether intersex is no longer acceptable. I won't be reading Emma Hilton though, I'd rather get unbiased information from neutral sources (i.e. not activists on either side of the debate).

Holdonforsummer · 19/10/2025 07:25

HappyNewTaxYear · 18/10/2025 20:19

Ah bless your innocent little tv-is-real-life heart. You don’t think that there might have been a reason to write the trans character as ‘very lovely and sympathetic’ rather than any other way?

I feel sorry for you being so hate-filled. Trans people are real and here to stay. They’re not doing it for fun.

Pifflepafflewifflewaffle · 19/10/2025 07:33

Or you know, we could all stop making absolute sweeping homogenising statements about groups of people, and start treating people as individuals with individual needs.

i mentioned Ewan Forbes because it’s depressing to see how he was so wholly and undramatically accepted in the world, able to continue his practice caring for others, and wasn’t publicly flagellated for being a pervert, and that we seem to have regressed as a society.

Here’s some research about the impact of trans vitriol on how it’s actually impacting intersex people, so no, you’re not separating out intersex people from this madness, they’re being incredibly impacted https://www.theguardian.com/society/2025/sep/18/intersex-people-europe-alarming-rise-violence-eu-finds

and here’s a post about how the recent Supreme Court judgement utilised sex assigned at birth, which is problematic for intersex people, having far reaching implications, so the pp raising the point about anti-trans people’s reactions to intersex people is spot on.

https://www.linkedin.com/posts/dr-nighet-nasim-riaz-afhea-frsa-3604082a_the-uk-supreme-court-recently-ruled-that-activity-7319315444094361601-vai6?utm_medium=ios_app&rcm=ACoAAAa5BYMBNeEtAo3AH3rnMAwNlfgNP_n3TTc&utm_source=social_share_send&utm_campaign=copy_link

Intersex people in Europe face ‘alarming’ rise in violence, EU finds

Increase in violence since 2019 is linked to online campaigns seeking to sow disinformation and fuel hatred

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2025/sep/18/intersex-people-europe-alarming-rise-violence-eu-finds

BundleBoogie · 19/10/2025 09:53

PhewForAMinuteThere · 19/10/2025 00:06

I'm always looking to update my language so I'll read up on whether intersex is no longer acceptable. I won't be reading Emma Hilton though, I'd rather get unbiased information from neutral sources (i.e. not activists on either side of the debate).

Dr Emma Hilton is a developmental biologist at the University of Manchester, studying aspects of human genetic disease. She is not an ‘activist’, just an expert in human genetics that is called on to refute the lies spread by the activists.

I’ll be interested to hear if you find any other neutral sources on this - the activists have flooded the internet somewhat.

Good luck with your research.

BundleBoogie · 19/10/2025 10:15

Pifflepafflewifflewaffle · 19/10/2025 07:33

Or you know, we could all stop making absolute sweeping homogenising statements about groups of people, and start treating people as individuals with individual needs.

i mentioned Ewan Forbes because it’s depressing to see how he was so wholly and undramatically accepted in the world, able to continue his practice caring for others, and wasn’t publicly flagellated for being a pervert, and that we seem to have regressed as a society.

Here’s some research about the impact of trans vitriol on how it’s actually impacting intersex people, so no, you’re not separating out intersex people from this madness, they’re being incredibly impacted https://www.theguardian.com/society/2025/sep/18/intersex-people-europe-alarming-rise-violence-eu-finds

and here’s a post about how the recent Supreme Court judgement utilised sex assigned at birth, which is problematic for intersex people, having far reaching implications, so the pp raising the point about anti-trans people’s reactions to intersex people is spot on.

https://www.linkedin.com/posts/dr-nighet-nasim-riaz-afhea-frsa-3604082a_the-uk-supreme-court-recently-ruled-that-activity-7319315444094361601-vai6?utm_medium=ios_app&rcm=ACoAAAa5BYMBNeEtAo3AH3rnMAwNlfgNP_n3TTc&utm_source=social_share_send&utm_campaign=copy_link

I’m afraid you need to stop solely reading activist sources on this as you have got it so wrong.

Sex isn’t ’assigned at birth’ for anyone, including that tiny number of people who may be diagnosed with a DSD. Contrary to activist lies, they still have a verifiable sex and in all cases in Western medicine can have their chromosomes tested and be medically diagnosed at birth in the even rarer cases of visual ambiguity of genitals.

Cases like Caster Semenya and Imane Khelif come about because of inadequate medical facilities and possibly a lack of education in their countries but there is actually no evidence either male athlete was even raised as a girl. They have a condition called xy 5 ARD which is a male condition that results in a micro penis. In their male centric societies it is possible that they were thought to be girls but childhood photos of Caster has him in make school uniform and Imane’s family have been very opaque over the matter. All of his socialisation appears to have been obviously make, physical contact with unrelated males (his coaches), no hijab in a very conservative part of his country and a very male swagger as he walks around, the women scuttling meekly behind.

Their medical condition would have become very obvious at puberty as they have obviously gone through a testosterone driven male virilisation.

Neither Caster or Imane are ‘trans’ but their cases have been jumped on by trans activists as somehow their logic says that even though they are not even claiming to have a gender identity, their conditions have been appropriated nonetheless.

The vast majority of people with DSDs are not visually detectable as most just affect fertility and in some cases bone health. Thr surveys you referenced are not of people with a verified medical condition, but just of people who ‘identify’ as ‘intersex’ which, given the shameless appropriation of the condition by the trans activists is not going to give any usable data. It just serves to benefit ‘trans’.

Here’s a useful explainer from the NHS

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/differences-in-sex-development/

nhs.uk

Differences in sex development

Find out about differences in sex development (DSDs), a group of rare conditions where the reproductive organs and genitals don't develop as expected. Some people prefer to use the term intersex.

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/differences-in-sex-development

LarkspurLane · 19/10/2025 10:43

Shelaydownunderthetable · 18/10/2025 21:59

I can’t wait to watch it - even more so now that I know it’s inclusive.

Life isn't inclusive. Men don't have periods or go through the menopause. So why should this be shown on the tv?
(I haven't watched it yet so not sure if this is what it is showing)

Longtimelurkerfinallyposts · 19/10/2025 12:07

it's really hard to work out from all the comments, and the different terms that people use..
is this about a trans (mtf) character in the (fictional) storyline?
in which case are they being played by a trans (mtf) actor or by a non-trans (male) actor?
or is it about a trans (mtf) actor playing a fictional female (non-trans) character?
or something else?!

is this character just the daughter of one of the women in the band, and joins them temporarily, or does she end up in the band herself as a permanent fixture?

BundleBoogie · 19/10/2025 12:26

Longtimelurkerfinallyposts · 19/10/2025 12:07

it's really hard to work out from all the comments, and the different terms that people use..
is this about a trans (mtf) character in the (fictional) storyline?
in which case are they being played by a trans (mtf) actor or by a non-trans (male) actor?
or is it about a trans (mtf) actor playing a fictional female (non-trans) character?
or something else?!

is this character just the daughter of one of the women in the band, and joins them temporarily, or does she end up in the band herself as a permanent fixture?

or is it about a trans (mtf) actor playing a fictional female (non-trans) character?
or something else?!

This appears to be the case.

He plays a backing singer in this supposedly female band and according to PPs may join the band later on. This band was advertised as ‘menopausal mid life women’.

DarkRootsBlue · 19/10/2025 12:36

Longtimelurkerfinallyposts · 19/10/2025 12:07

it's really hard to work out from all the comments, and the different terms that people use..
is this about a trans (mtf) character in the (fictional) storyline?
in which case are they being played by a trans (mtf) actor or by a non-trans (male) actor?
or is it about a trans (mtf) actor playing a fictional female (non-trans) character?
or something else?!

is this character just the daughter of one of the women in the band, and joins them temporarily, or does she end up in the band herself as a permanent fixture?

It’s a trans character (trans woman). Not sure if the actor is trans in real life, I assume so. He is male.

The character isn’t initially in the band, but fills in later for a woman who can’t be in the band for some performances. It’s not clear if it will be permanent. It’s jarring as the plot line keeps emphasising that the band is to sing about women’s issues.

angustifolia · 19/10/2025 12:44

I wasn't interested in it to begin with, but this seals the deal. Just shoving things in where they don't belong and are not welcome. It's tiresome.

Slimtoddy · 19/10/2025 13:15

I have watched it and I can't recall of the fictional character is ever described as trans. Iay not have been paying close enough attention but I don't remember it ever being mentioned. I guess we could be expected to assume they are trans given the fairly obvious male characteristics but as people say on this thread it could be a mtf trans actor portraying a female character.

I did think it felt a little like the creators felt they had to be current but it felt very contrived. Trans community is pretty small and statistically I don't think it's probable for there to be a mtf trans individual in a small town - possible of course but unlikely. I live and work in London and only know two trans people and only know one well.

The drama on the whole was ok. Not brilliant but some of the characters were engaging.

HeadNorth · 19/10/2025 13:24

I think it is highly likely for there to be trans people in Hebden Bridge - it has always had a slightly hippy alternative vibe that would align with a trans person being accepted as a human being. I liked the way the trans person was treated as a normal human being- I think that is more reflective of real life. I loved the series but I hate the way they always end these things on a cliffhanger & you have to hope for a series 2

MummBRaaarrrTheEverLeaking · 19/10/2025 13:31

Can't have a program about menopausal women without a man in it obviously! Women can't even have the menopause eh! If they were determined to shoehorn trans they would have been better having a trans identified female, someone who would actually be having to deal with the menopause, and exploring that impact.

But nooooo, that would be a female wouldn't it. And as it's the BBC they can't have that! Women don't have anything to themselves.

Isittimeformynapyet · 19/10/2025 13:36

NellieElephantine · 18/10/2025 21:53

This wanting to have a working uyteryus doest seems to og!

Come again?