AIBU to spend on my ‘step’ daughters?

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Genuinely not sure if I’m in the wrong or not! Brief backstory - met my boyfriend 18 months ago. All good and very happy. We introduced our kids into it about 4 months ago. Again all good, we all get along. I have two boys aged 10 and 13, he has 2 girls similiar ages. I’m a high earner, he isn’t. This isn’t an issue, he pays his way and works hard in a job he loves- it’s a role that serves vulnerable people and he’s amazing at it. Anyway the issue is his ex (the girls’ mum). I give my boys £20 each a week pocket money. Once we all started spending time together as a family, I started giving the same to the girls. They’re all sensible ish with the money. They spend it on shit on Roblox but they all save too. The mum only found out when the girls brought her a £50 birthday present and she asked where they got the money from. She’s gone mad about it- saying I’m trying to buy their love and that it’s too much money for their ages. She has demanded that I stop. What do you think?

Just pointing out the irony, hunni

Right, okay.

I think you've embarrassed yourself enough tonight. Thank god it's anonymous.

And it’s ‘you’re’, not your.

You’re is a contraction of you and are. ‘Your’ shows possession.

Yet you’re still
engaging ?

Oh my god. Actually clutching at straws now.

I’m sorry, I think I misread, I thought you had met the children four months ago.

And yet you are still here ? U ok hun?

No worries. Yeah, I’d think I was mental myself if it had been 4 months!

Goodnight crazy woman 🤣 or 15 year old? Or random weird bloke? I guess we will never know.

Goodnight hun xx

That question has been answered with good faith on this thread lots of times now.

You’re a former addict too, OP? Your other half clearly has a type. Does he use?

I don’t believe it has. Nothing in mine or their dad’s behaviour is or will have an impact on their wellbeing. Even if we split up, their wellbeing would be at the heart of all actions and behaviours

You said the below in your OP, you might want to ask Mumsnet to edit it, then. That’s why you’re getting the replies you’re getting.

Genuinely not sure if I’m in the wrong or not! Brief backstory - met my boyfriend 18 months ago. All good and very happy. We introduced our kids into it about 4 months ago.

Another antagonistic wackadoodle post. Must be Saturday

Yes I am, and no he’s doesn’t. What a disgustingly judgemental comment. Work on your empathy. Do better.

No this is correct

Yet here you are posting and engaging.

Just waiting for them to take it down so you can do something better with your life.

I hope DP sees the red flags a flying and gets the girls out asap.

You said in your first post that you met them four months ago. And just confirmed in a post slightly after this one, when someone shared the first post, “that is correct”…

So you did only meet the kids four months ago?

My empathy remains with the children you’re attempting to buy.

Why on earth would you do that?

Do expand on that

I’m glad it’s worked out for you but marrying (and presumably moving in with) a man you knew for only six months when you have children presumably living with you was a selfish, needless thing to do.

Yes, it’s worked out, but that doesn’t change the fact it was a selfish, needless decision.