Page 40 | Things you wouldn't admit in real life part 2

Fourkgtogo · 22/11/2025 18:54

I have finally reached my limit. My stepdaughter is 28 years old - she is non verbal and has other significant complex needs. She still comes to us every other weekend without fail, we do a 600 mile round trip in order to facilitate this. I am at my wits end, it is such fucking hard work and soul destroying and I need this to end soon for my own sanity. I have known her forever and have been married to her father for around 10 years. I don’t know why I’m sharing this but I really just need to get this off my chest.

dottiehens · 22/11/2025 20:19

uniqueme · 16/10/2025 17:07

Working for a supermarket for a number of years. Got customers who moaned about their refusal and hatred with the self checkouts every single time they were in the store. It got tiresome after ten days, let alone ten years!

I wish I could ask them to shut up. But these were the type of customers that complained about me

One of the reasons I do not shop at supermarkets but do deliveries. Honestly, eventually you will be out of your job and replaced because humans will not longer be needed for supermarkets.

dottiehens · 22/11/2025 20:44

cadburyegg · 20/10/2025 11:51

I can’t say this in real life because I am the product of a second family. But IMO people should only have children with one person. It seems to be automatic in the UK that as soon as a marriage breaks down people move on immediately and get married, blend families, have more children as if that’s the only thing to do.

I’ve been split from my exh 5 years now and I can’t imagine anything worse for my children than forcing them to live with an unrelated man and his children. And worse is the fact that it’s an expectation!!

This is a very unpopular view because on here people overdramatise and say “well is the single parent supposed to stay single forever” as if dating without living together is impossible.

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Absolutely! I judge blended families so much.

pestowithwalnuts · 22/11/2025 20:55

Soveryitchy · 15/10/2025 22:45

I have psoriasis in my arse crack. Went to a dermatologist who diagnosed it as such and prescribed a cream with limited success, then she prescribed injections which haven't worked either. Never told anyone else, not my mum my sister or even my husband. I use the loo at work multiple times a day to scratch it. It flares up and down, but it's always there. I've been nearly suicidal over it as I cannot function with a permanently itchy arse crack. Going for a poo is an ordeal. Sometimes the itch has become consuming while driving and I'm legitimacy worried I will cause an accident.

I can offer no advice op only suggest that you go back to the dermatologist.
I really just wanted to say how sorry I am for you.
Having had a lifetime of various rashes I really know how much distress you must be in

BlueDressontheLine · 22/11/2025 20:57

Fourkgtogo · 22/11/2025 18:54

I have finally reached my limit. My stepdaughter is 28 years old - she is non verbal and has other significant complex needs. She still comes to us every other weekend without fail, we do a 600 mile round trip in order to facilitate this. I am at my wits end, it is such fucking hard work and soul destroying and I need this to end soon for my own sanity. I have known her forever and have been married to her father for around 10 years. I don’t know why I’m sharing this but I really just need to get this off my chest.

That sounds horrific for everyone. What does your husband think?

dottiehens · 23/11/2025 08:11

CrispsPlease · 17/10/2025 17:04

I also secretly judge the "one and done " club. (Not people who've only got one child due to reasons that aren't choice)

It's like they've not finished the job. Or stepped their toe in the water and sharply pulled it back out again.

They grow up with no siblings, which friends and cousins won't make up for. When parents are ageing or ill- they carry that worry and grief solo. And only children always seem precocious or spoilt. You can usually tell they're an only.

I silently think the parents ate a bit selfish and the "career" type. Plus I reckon an only boy would give a wife the MIL from hell.

One and done for some as they can only afford one. Much better than having 5 on benefits.

DriveMeCrazy1974 · 23/11/2025 08:45

Kimura · 16/10/2025 01:49

I have no mercy for people who fall for online/telephone fraud where they're conned onto transferring money by someone posing as a relative, business, tax office or bank. I think anyone under sixty who gets caught out by it is an idiot and deserves to lose their money.

My partner is much more sympathetic.

Last week I was conned out of £2k by that exact scam and I can't admit it to anyone, especially him. Serves this idiot right! 😭

Ouch! But, honestly, I think it takes making a mistake yourself to understand that it's easier than you think for it to happen to you - especially in this day and age. All it takes is to be a bit tired, doing things on autopilot and just not concentrating as you normally would.
I imagine your partner would be sympathetic, but I can also understand why you've not said anything, too.
I hope you get your money back!

Spiderx · 24/11/2025 00:14

My bro had the same for a while . Sitting down all day in an office job didn't help. His home grown " cure" ..bathroom mould spray...worked for a few days !!

Spiderx · 24/11/2025 01:10

Aaah. don't worry about it . We all just return to the dust we are all made of anyway 😊

Spiderx · 24/11/2025 01:12

Nobody can " afford" kids...who expects to make a profit out of them ?

namechangetheworld · 24/11/2025 01:42

Nerdynerdynerd · 24/10/2025 10:20

I'm repelled by breastfeeding. Myself breastfeeding and the thought of it or talking about it rather than jist seeing someone do it in public.

It's a mix between the actual process of shoving a boob into a mouth to be suckled on and the sort of society expectancy that it's meant to be a nice lovey dovey bonding experience.

I know it's best. I know it's natural. I know we're animals but it just feels gross. Nothing to do with the sexuslisation of breasts (or at least consciously) just something about it.

I did my best for 6 weeks but couldn't bear any more. It made me feel gross and I think i had DMER. I got a real rush of dopamine cuddling up for a bottle feed, looking into their eyes and stroking their cheek. So went with that.

I would never admit this in real life and go along with the narrative that I'm devastated our bf journey didn't last longer but in actual fact I'm relieved. My best friend is extended feeding and outwardly I'm full of praise about how she should be so proud, but thinking about it just makes me feel a bit grim.

Ooh that was cathartic.

I'm glad you posted this. The thought of breastfeeding has always absolutely repulsed me. Not necessarily for other women - fair play to them - but the prospect of doing it myself still makes me shudder, and my youngest is six. I just couldn't bring myself to do it (much to the horror of my midwife), and had a bloody marvelous time bottle feeding both of mine and getting lots of sleep

breezyyy · 24/11/2025 02:54

pestowithwalnuts · 22/11/2025 20:55

I can offer no advice op only suggest that you go back to the dermatologist.
I really just wanted to say how sorry I am for you.
Having had a lifetime of various rashes I really know how much distress you must be in

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@Soveryitchy Two things to try: caneston cream for a week, applying every time you use the loo/have a shower.

If that doesn’t work, Betnovate cream (only not on the strawberry part of your bum).

JMSA · 24/11/2025 03:12

I will be devastated when my pets pass away, but I also can’t wait to live my life pet-free. It will be so much easier and cheaper.

Flowerofdestiny · 24/11/2025 21:49

What a brilliant thread — absolutely loved it.

I would never tell my dad that calling him is stressful for me, because the conversation is rarely pleasant.

And I would never admit that I once had a crush on someone completely unexpected and, even though nothing ever happened, I’m oddly grateful for the teenage-like daydreams their brief presence gave me.

And I would never admit that sometimes, when the physical pain gets too much, I just wish I could finally rest in peace in a cemetery somewhere.

Thatsalineallright · 25/11/2025 09:46

namechangetheworld · 24/11/2025 01:42

I'm glad you posted this. The thought of breastfeeding has always absolutely repulsed me. Not necessarily for other women - fair play to them - but the prospect of doing it myself still makes me shudder, and my youngest is six. I just couldn't bring myself to do it (much to the horror of my midwife), and had a bloody marvelous time bottle feeding both of mine and getting lots of sleep

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Is there a specific reason for your dislike of breastfeeding? I mean, I understand deciding against it but repulsion is a very strong word. Did something happen to cause it?

BlueDressontheLine · 26/11/2025 10:51

I wish my childs father would have stayed fucked off

Spiderx · 27/11/2025 13:04

Ooooh, you've said it ! Something I totally agree with . You pay a fortune for a crap meal in a restaurant then expected to pay even more as a tip because the business owner can't make the figures add up and run their business properly and pay their staff ! I never ever got a tip doing my job of adding sodium cyanide to a chemical mix while I wore a hazmat positive air pressure suit...and I think it was a lot more dangerous than bringing a plate of chips to a table . Ha ! Said it !!

breezyyy · 05/12/2025 01:39

Thatsalineallright · 25/11/2025 09:46

Is there a specific reason for your dislike of breastfeeding? I mean, I understand deciding against it but repulsion is a very strong word. Did something happen to cause it?

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I can’t speak for the poster you quoted but for me it was due to being abused. That kind of abuse has such awful, long lasting consequences.

wavingfuriously · 05/12/2025 03:23

Neverbeentothegym · 15/10/2025 21:12

I think my DD will never be able to work nor live independently. I hope I’m wrong but I’m quietly preparing to be in a financial position to support her throughout her life. She is on the cusp of being appropriate for a specialist educational setting , even though no one can really diagnose what’s going on. Hugely vulnerable. Everyone just see’s a happy, chatty girl.

You sound like a very good parent 👏👍

wavingfuriously · 05/12/2025 03:45

think I've been gay my whole life but what does it matter now? am old and ugly

NClyevalley · 05/12/2025 18:24

Had an 'encounter' with a (then) well-known actor who was filming in my city. Actually quite a few encounters...

Cookieandcandy · 05/12/2025 18:25

NClyevalley · 05/12/2025 18:24

Had an 'encounter' with a (then) well-known actor who was filming in my city. Actually quite a few encounters...

Come on. Name names or it never happened 😀

FluffyFluffy · 06/12/2025 18:32

Great thread @TwinklyFawn would you start a Part 3?

Sideorderofchips · 06/12/2025 18:47

That it's easier to say im fat first

That I dont actually trust people mean what they say

That im tolerated rather than liked

That I prefer my own home with my kids and animals to being out with people. Because at least i can trust them

Yeah.

Cookieandcandy · 06/12/2025 19:04

Sideorderofchips · 06/12/2025 18:47

That it's easier to say im fat first

That I dont actually trust people mean what they say

That im tolerated rather than liked

That I prefer my own home with my kids and animals to being out with people. Because at least i can trust them

Yeah.

I know what you mean. It’s good you have a safe haven with your kids and animals