Things you wouldn't admit in real life part 2

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OT: look in to getting your tonsils removed. Google it.

Yes lots of success for some people, I've had mine out a while ago (pre psoriasis).

I hated being pregnant as I hated my now ex
I liked the baby stage but im ambivalent about the rest
My mum is jealous of me.

All of the talk about peeing on the last thread made me think of something that I guess nobody else apart from my DH knows.

I can pee really quite spectacularly as in I've found out I can aim where I want, even in a huge high arc. I'd put most men to shame as a female The reason I found out is like someone else said in the last thread, having to sometimes aim where it goes like when in public and caught short etc. Sorry if this is not appropriate but it technically fits the theme of the thread 💁🏼‍♀️

Nuch less nsfw confessions are I judge people a lot more than they'd ever know. On the surface I come across as really kind and non judgemental and many people come to me for advice or to offload but I judge people all the time.

I too have taken revenge on people that have seriously done me wrong in the past, but nothing that would massively stand out other than the fish behind curtains/radiators type revenge. I haven't told anyone in RL apart from a few stories to DH as people can't be trusted.

I despise my MIL a lot more than I let on to DH. He thinks I find her mildly annoying but I can't stand her. She's his DM though, so I'll respect her for his sake as I love him dearly. Just the way she treated him when young and the effect it's had on him, and her personality in general.

I really just dont care about a lot of things. Find it hard to empathise. I end up performing empathy as a social defense mechanism

It’s not always relevant but is your mother older than your nan was was? I mean is your mum 75 and your man was 60 at the time you remember?

I don't particularly want grandchildren. I am happy to listen to my friends talk about theirs but I am happy without. My adult children still need a certain amount of support for various reasons and I think that with climate change things will be getting much worse.
If any of my children did have children of their own, I will do all I can to help and support them but I would just as soon they didn't.

@Jimmyneutronsforehead I think that's a really sweet thing to do. Personally I wouldn't mind if you were doing a dog out of me (although ofcourse I wouldn't be a pain in the arse if I called you for help).

OK, I think the weight loss jabs are getting people on all sides too worked up- it's comparable to the Israël-Palestine conflict. Here's my take: Great that they exist for people who don't have the self control to stop eating (could be various reasons; trauma, habits so not saying just gluttony). I am happy for everyone getting healthier no matter how.
But. Those that insist saying "it's still hard work". Ehrm, no. Your appetite is suppressed by medication so that you're not hungry. Own it and just be happy for it.

I don't believe the Palestine conflict can ever be resolved because Hamas is too infiltrated in the Palestinian community. And there is so much hate against Israël (some antisemitic and some because of the killing of innocents) that they will always be supported.

I don't understand how you can love one child more than the other. I like spending time with one of my sons while the other wears me down due to his disability. But the love I feel for them is just as strong.

I suspect that if we took all screens away and moved some people to the countryside their adhd would "magically" go away.

Now that my children are teens and don't believe in father christmas I would like to just stop celebrating christmas. But DH, Mil and DS2 love it😏.

I don't like going on holidays. I put up with it to please DH and DS. I get bored just going to the beach and eating (food is really good though). Would prefer to stay at home.

Don't care about my birthday at all and I think grown up people who think their birthdays have to be celebrated in a spectacular manner are ridiculous (hello mil).

I love my dh but I prefer it when he's not home. Make sense of that😅

I have judged a lot of people on this thread 😅

I vape in toilets and office at work when nobody is about.

@Lilyhatesjaz I don't want grandchildren either but I'm happy to tell people that. I don't tell my adult DC I don't want grandchildren though and I'd do my best to be a loving and supportive grandmother. I get really bored hearing about my friends' grandchildren. Why should I care how many A levels they got? I've never even met them!

That I hardly look in the mirror now after splitting with my ex a year ago. Its like my love of myself died and ive slowly been trying to build it back up

The writer Joyce Carol Oates used this phrase to describe how one of her characters felt after emerging from trauma: “I have to think I died then. What survived was someone else”.

To be fair, all of JCO’s books are trauma-heavy. But I found it comforting, decades ago, when I went through something similar. Of course, now I can’t remember what I ever saw in him and I’m very happily married, but it was a difficult time.

I truly wish I had been an only child. My siblings were/are (one is deceased) both self absorbed, cruel human beings who made our parents' lives a misery. They caused problems/took all the attention at the few times in my life that should have been really happy and all about me (eg. breaking things/being violent on my childhood birthdays, kicking off on my wedding day, repeatedly phoning to shout at me on the day DC1 was born +lots more). Their behaviour was always excused/minimised/denied and they seem to truly believe that the way they treat me is perfectly normal and if anything I am not supportive enough of them. Remaining sibling has calmed down a lot in the last few years but is still an arsehole. As soon as our elderly mum passes and her funeral is over I will cut all contact with sibling. I won't make a big fuss about it if I can avoid it (I know he will take any discussion about it as an invitation to debate it)- I'll just block his number and if he shows up at my house (I doubt he will) I will ignore him. He will claim I have 'gone crazy' after Mum's death, or possibly accuse DH of controlling me and wanting to stop me having a relationship with my family (he has said this before when DH has called out his nasty behaviour). I will ignore him until he goes away. I'm actually rather looking forward to it in a strange way, I think it will be very liberating.

I am terrified of there being a war. I remember my parents (who were teenagers during WW2) talking about bomb shelters and watching places burn and I just... can't. I can't look at the news, I can't read anything that talks about war. I feel dreadful about it but I am so scared of it. And yet, in some ways I secretly think that it would shake up the complacency of some people who claim 'anxiety' or who can't work because 'it's too hard on their Mental Health' (I should state that I'm not talking about those who are genuinely ill or suffer genuine anxiety, I'm talking about those who use it as a 'get out' for not doing things they don't want to). More people would be forced to work whether they wanted to or not, and the whole of the disposable society would receive a huge wake up call. But then I think of all the genuinely vulnerable people who would suffer and I feel bad all over again.

So I think a war might show a lot of people just how privileged they are. But I really really don't want it to happen.

And I can't say it to anyone.

I would love for everyone to make a universal decision to scale Christmas right down regarding gifts, spending and excess.
You can have a wonderful festive period without an orgy of spending, waste, gluttony and stress.

I would love for fireworks to be banned. Great for the environment in many ways, great for all the people and animals they terrify, less people ending up in A and E, a weapon taken out of the hands of thugs, less Fire services call outs. I do say this in real life

I agree on Christmas @pictoosh and fireworks @godmum56

Whenever anyone is complaining to me about almost anything, I always want to say Come back when you've lost weight and found a hobby.
Sometimes the urge is strong 😔.

Agree. I don’t see them as anything other than noisy, dangerous annoyances.

I thought exactly the same when reading a post the other day about someone’s son having MH issues, won’t work, can’t go out etc - what on EARTH would happen to these people if they had real hardship to overcome, like war? Would people be pussyfooting round them? No. They’d have to get a fucking grip.

Blended families and/or stepchildren are my idea of personal hell and always have been.
I know there isn't a man on this planet who I'd want to live with so much I'd agree to it. I'd hate to live with someone else's kids, even part time.
I think people who do it are either mad or deserve a medal.

Im so glad my now dh doesn't have kids.

I’m on HRT but haven’t told my husband as he’ll say it’s making me moody etc and blame everything on it.

He’s obese and I’m desperate for him to lose weight. He says it’s impossible for him due to his biology. I’m so cross. I’ve stayed a size 10 through two pregnancies, ten years on antipsychotic meds which made me wildly hungry 24/7 and hypothyroidism. Yes. It’s hard. It involves sacrifices. I know. I’ve done it. I’m very worried I’ll just yell STOP BEING A FAT LAZY FUCK AND BE A HEALTHY ROLE MODEL FOR YOUR KIDS.

maybe it’s the menopause!!!

I think my sister-in-law is a really shit mother. Not abusive or anything, just really shit.

I've got a very dear, lifelong friend. So much history, so many laughs, so many tears. We've done all the life stages together and we are there for each other with no judgement no matter what.

I'm gradually realising that I find her cloying, naff and unfunny. Wine o'clock memes, fart jokes. I'm a terf, she's oblivious.

We both have only children, and I find myself asking after hers out of politeness rather than genuine interest.

She is the kindest person I've ever met and I'll love her all my life. But I sort of don't really mind if I see her or not.

Aaaaargh.