Things you wouldn't admit in real life part 2

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I hear you..
My empathy...

Totally agree!

That my extended family are all a bunch of arseholes.
That I would be very happy to not hear or see from them ever again.

My parents were not fit to have children, that my foster parent was not fit to foster and only did it for the money!

Ive been diagnosed thanks.

I didn't love my mum.

With what?

OP will not tell you, she is avoidance.

I often forget I have a child.
She's in her 30's and lives halfway around the world, but still...
That's one I wouldn't admit IRL

I forget I have a brother sometimes even though he lives 5 minutes up the road and we have a good relationship.

I have really poor object permanence perception and as soon as I can no longer see someone or something it's like they stop existing.

He's going through a bit of a mental health crisis at the moment, so there's been a lot of pressure on everybody in the family to keep an eye on him, but I just forget that he exists. When he's here and present of course I am fully invested in his health and wellbeing and I love him but it's just like as soon as he walks out of the door I forget that I should call him or I should text him or just generally keep in touch with him, and it's only when other people bring him up that this mental checklist pops up that is soon forgotten when other things arise.

The same thing happens with friends to be honest. The friends I've managed to keep hold of are thankfully very understanding and proactive communicators but if they stopped calling or texting or popping round it could be months, or even years before they come back into my head.

I am autistic, have ADHD and dyspraxia diagnosed and I don't know if that has something to do with it, but I also know for a fact I have face blindness too.

People who do a one night charity sleep outside 'to support the homeless' and then go back to a big meal in a nice warm house after a long hot shower are patronising self-indulgent wankers.

yup, I've never seen the point myself although I do support charities for the homeless among others.

I feel the same about people who want to go and help in a homeless shelter like the Salvation Army etc on Christmas Day to make themselves feel and look special, and then don't do anything the rest of the year.

Last weekend o want to buy a couple of pairs of jeans so I went to Next , and my god the array of styles!
Low rise
High Rise ( I do not want a block of flats ffs )
Slim fit
Boot cut
Barrel cut
Mom style
Boyfriend style
Cropped
Turn ups
Booty lift
Tummy control
Straight leg
Slim fit
And lord knows what others , and you know what , no a single pair had pockets big enough to fit more than 3 £1 coins

years and years (around 12 I think) ago M and S did lycra mix denim jeans and jeggings with decorative embroidery on, and lycra mixed cords. I loved them and bought dozens of them. A tiny part of me at the time thought "are you mad?" but I am so glad I did because there is nothing so nice out there now. And yes they have decent pockets.

All the women in my family hate being mothers. My nan, my mum, her sisters. Im the only female in my generation whose had a child.

Retired people shopping on Saturday morning. This infuriates me and many of the customers of working age. Colleagues, customers who I see regularly on Saturday morning etc. I leave home at 7:50am and return 5:50-6:10pm Monday-Fri. They surely can find 1-1.5 hours in those times above. The retired people dither, prevent us from getting to the milk.

Parents retired 13 and 14 years ago. DM changed her shopping time once retired.

Before anyone says “get your shopping delivered”. I do about once every 4-6 weeks for Tesco, Asda or Sainsburys (I alternate between the three) for stuff on offer or things they don’t sell in Lidl. Then Lidl don’t deliver. Plus most shops I spend under the minimum delivery. Plus I like to get stuff with the longest date. Pickers just grab the first one. Then things like broccoli I get the ones with 2-3 bunches in the pack.

I accept those retired people who get taken by their working DC if they are out of the home similar times to me or WFH. That is a very small percentage.

How do you know that they are all retired uniqueme?
Many have to work long past 70 these days.
Not being goady by the way.

These people were at least 80!

Oh sorry ! I thought you could see 50 or 60 year olds out !

Agree about retired people going shopping on Saturdays! If you can go in the week please do (that applies to anyone who doesn't work on weekdays, actually). Obviously will depend on if they get lifts or buses only run on certain days.

B&Q used to do a discount for the over 65s if they went on a Wednesday. I wish the supermarkets would do something similar (maybe for the over 80s rather than 65s as 65 year olds are often still working a PP said).

I read online that m and s do discounts for over 60s! I’ve never asked ( I don’t often go in there ) and I can’t imagine that they do this, but when you read things you often wonder or if it was just referring to the ‘ sparks ‘ card discounts they do?

My mum and cousin are both in their 80’s and still work…

I can imagine that many people will be working in their late 70s and 80s over time. The pension age is bound to go up again at some stage :( and with the cost of living as it is many won’t be retiring long past the current age it is now. Depressing thought

Iceland do 10% discount on Tuesdays for over 60s need a bonus card. Then proof of age- driving licence, bus pass. Only instore.

No minimum spend either

I felt the same and had two vaginal births.

I was under no illusion that i would have a calm, candlelit, in control birth experience, and was expecting pain and gore.
I had epidurals both times, no way was i going drug free, i'd never felt pain like the contractions before or since.
In the end it wasn't as awful as i was expecting.
The medical staff were very respectful.

Birth plans are a waste of time and I didn't bother.