Page 4 | Things you wouldn't admit in real life part 2

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TwinklyFawn · 16/10/2025 11:19

PomegranatePrincess · 15/10/2025 22:47

It’s a long story and not a good one.
But ive had a few comments on here so far tbh its not worth the head space.
I dont blame anyone i mean it dose sound odd and silly and you guys dont know why and its something id rather not say online
We dont know whats gone on in other peoples life so who are we to judge.
But this is mumsnet where we all get bitched at.
Some of the confessions on here i think are worse than mine but i dont know their reasons same as they dont know mine.
We have all had something happened to us that has changed us either it big or small.

@muteme you don’t need to explain yourself. I have a very dear friend who’s mute but she can speak, I’ve known her for 40 years and I’ve heard her whisper twice, we communicate just fine. I, and her other friends know and understand why she doesn’t speak, trauma affects people in different ways 💐

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GrecianGoddess · 16/10/2025 11:26

arcticpandas · 16/10/2025 08:52

@Jimmyneutronsforehead I think that's a really sweet thing to do. Personally I wouldn't mind if you were doing a dog out of me (although ofcourse I wouldn't be a pain in the arse if I called you for help).

OK, I think the weight loss jabs are getting people on all sides too worked up- it's comparable to the Israël-Palestine conflict. Here's my take: Great that they exist for people who don't have the self control to stop eating (could be various reasons; trauma, habits so not saying just gluttony). I am happy for everyone getting healthier no matter how.
But. Those that insist saying "it's still hard work". Ehrm, no. Your appetite is suppressed by medication so that you're not hungry. Own it and just be happy for it.

I don't believe the Palestine conflict can ever be resolved because Hamas is too infiltrated in the Palestinian community. And there is so much hate against Israël (some antisemitic and some because of the killing of innocents) that they will always be supported.

I don't understand how you can love one child more than the other. I like spending time with one of my sons while the other wears me down due to his disability. But the love I feel for them is just as strong.

I suspect that if we took all screens away and moved some people to the countryside their adhd would "magically" go away.

Now that my children are teens and don't believe in father christmas I would like to just stop celebrating christmas. But DH, Mil and DS2 love it😏.

I don't like going on holidays. I put up with it to please DH and DS. I get bored just going to the beach and eating (food is really good though). Would prefer to stay at home.

Don't care about my birthday at all and I think grown up people who think their birthdays have to be celebrated in a spectacular manner are ridiculous (hello mil).

I love my dh but I prefer it when he's not home. Make sense of that😅

I agree with every point @arcticpandas has made, are we twins?? 🙈

HectorPlasm · 16/10/2025 11:28

I would bring back the death penalty for some crimes tomorrow AND I would gladly pull the bloody handle on them.

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 16/10/2025 11:45

@TwinklyFawn
Can I apologise that on the previous thread I posted that I thought you were being unfair to another poster who was trying to be helpful towards you. This was in error and I had intended to @ another poster with a name very similar to yours. I’ve just noticed the two different but similar names.

VictoriaEra · 16/10/2025 11:47

Beekman · 16/10/2025 02:42

I rent an apartment and all that is in it is a large brown sectional and a massive telly. Oh, and a kettle. I go there twice a week and watch true crime documentaries and cry about my mum, who died three years ago. I spend a couple of days a week there and then go back to my lovely home where my husband lives and our grown kids visit all the time. Not a soul knows about this.

I dream about doing this.

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 16/10/2025 12:03

MrsWorldwide · 16/10/2025 10:44

I used to work in this exact environment and with the customers you described, I had a colouring books with swear words and would colour in the appropriate ones. It was quite satisfying colouring in the words cockwomble, dickhead or twat.

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Aha my friend used to have a little list of things she needed to do for customers. Instead of writing their names she'd write fucking wanker - send router cos his cats pissed on it
Wanking tosspot- email bill because its too hard for them to log in and get it themselves
Cunting cunt - send £10 credit to stop them being more of a cunt.

I asked how she remembered which accounts they were for without their names and she said she just knew. When she read their names those were the associations she had made.

Call centres are the pits.

One time she got a customer who was about to kill himself, he was blind drunk and slurring, crisis team were alerting police but told her to keep him on the line, she said do you like bon jovi, he said yeah, and they spent 2 hours doing a bon jovi karaoke, by team police got there he said he didn't want to kill himself anymore. This sort of thing was a weekly occurrence for us.

One of the lasses got a call from someone who was stood on the top of our building ready to jump and the entire building got put on lockdown.

Honestly the 5 free counselling sessions you get through the EAP service just aren't enough. Sometimes you just have to draw people as dogs or write swear words down.

At one time they were big on us sending reassurance texts. Organised people would obviously have something they copied and pasted, but not me. I had a banging migraine, words weren't making sense, and I sent a text to the number this guy had called about which was apparently his wife's number. Thought I'd said hope you've been satisfied with my service today but actually sent hope you've been satisfied with my cervix today. RIP their marriage.

Mydahliasareshit · 16/10/2025 12:15

Soveryitchy · 15/10/2025 22:45

I have psoriasis in my arse crack. Went to a dermatologist who diagnosed it as such and prescribed a cream with limited success, then she prescribed injections which haven't worked either. Never told anyone else, not my mum my sister or even my husband. I use the loo at work multiple times a day to scratch it. It flares up and down, but it's always there. I've been nearly suicidal over it as I cannot function with a permanently itchy arse crack. Going for a poo is an ordeal. Sometimes the itch has become consuming while driving and I'm legitimacy worried I will cause an accident.

Oh sweetheart that sounds so distressing. Can I recommend giving Balmond Skin Salvation a try? It's so gentle and soothing I can even use it around my eyes.

secretrocker · 16/10/2025 12:20

MollyRoisin · 16/10/2025 00:04

I'm in love with a man who's also in love with me. We connect, we are close, we click, we just get each other, we'd be together if we could. But we are both stuck in very unhappy long marriages to other people, and both of us have children. Neither of us feels able to leave for different reasons and neither of us would ever have a physical affair because after all we made vows to other people. I realise what's going on is an emotional affair and of course that's a betrayal too, but both of us need the connection and emotional support we have with each other because we don't have it at home. One of us is in an abusive relationship, the other an utterly soulless indifferent one, both awful in different ways, both sexless for many years. We met at work two years ago quite by chance, it's a huge organisation. We can't believe we found each other at this stage in our lives, in our late 50s. I don't know where this is going or if we'll ever be able to be together, but for now what we have will have to do. I can't imagine life without him, and he feels the same about me. For now it makes things bearable for both of us.

PS long term MNer using a different name for obvious reasons.

NC for this, but similar situation, except without abusive partners.
Have a long-term platonic friend, 6 or 7 years through a shared hobby and other shared interests.
We have spent a lot of time together, gone to gigs together, days out, etc.
Always been completely platonic and innocent.
No feelings on my part or, as far as I know, his.
Until about 2 weeks ago.
Drifting towards an emotional affair, though I'm not interested in him sexually, I just want to spend time with him.

ThatsNotMyNameAlan · 16/10/2025 12:20

pictoosh · 16/10/2025 09:44

Blended families and/or stepchildren are my idea of personal hell and always have been.
I know there isn't a man on this planet who I'd want to live with so much I'd agree to it. I'd hate to live with someone else's kids, even part time.
I think people who do it are either mad or deserve a medal.

Agree. There are exceptions of course - my DSS is and always has been THE nicest boy (now an amazing husband and father) and his mum and I get on famously. Basically because we’re all normal reasonable people who want the best for children.

HOWEVER if DH and I had split I would not have attempted a “blended family” with the gung-ho attitude that some seem to. I read some of the posts on here with my jaw on the floor. If they were real life friends of mine I’d be screaming WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU THINKING??

I think successful blended families are the exception rather than the rule and it’s always the kids that suffer most.

ThatsNotMyNameAlan · 16/10/2025 12:23

LillyPJ · 16/10/2025 10:15

@MorrisZapp I have a dear lifelong friend too. We have years and years of happy memories and shared experiences but I've lately realised that I just don't like her very much. She thinks she's always right, doesn't listen and lives a sheltered life so isn't aware of the problems some people face. She'll always be my friend and I just have to bite my lip a lot.

I have a similar situation. My oldest and best friend. I suppose I always put her on a pedestal a bit because she really does have a lot of amazing and important qualities but over the years it’s become apparent that she’s a bit of a crap mother. It doesn’t mean I don’t still love her but I’m very much more clear sighted about her now.

RememberBeKindWithKaren · 16/10/2025 12:31

InjuryMyArse · 16/10/2025 09:32

Whenever anyone is complaining to me about almost anything, I always want to say Come back when you've lost weight and found a hobby.
Sometimes the urge is strong 😔.

Lol, I'm going to steal this. Maybe not the losing weight particularly but the get a hobby/ get a life plan. merci 👍

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TwinklyFawn · 16/10/2025 12:34

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 16/10/2025 11:45

@TwinklyFawn
Can I apologise that on the previous thread I posted that I thought you were being unfair to another poster who was trying to be helpful towards you. This was in error and I had intended to @ another poster with a name very similar to yours. I’ve just noticed the two different but similar names.

Thank you.

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Sharptonguedwoman · 16/10/2025 12:40

LillyPJ · 16/10/2025 09:02

@Lilyhatesjaz I don't want grandchildren either but I'm happy to tell people that. I don't tell my adult DC I don't want grandchildren though and I'd do my best to be a loving and supportive grandmother. I get really bored hearing about my friends' grandchildren. Why should I care how many A levels they got? I've never even met them!

My friend has an increasing number of grandchildren/great nieces etc. Oldest is 4. I have looked at and admired very many photos. I wish them nothing but good things but hearing about them bores me to tears. I don't have grandchildren and probably won't have. Not bothered.

SomeLikeitSnot · 16/10/2025 12:47

IMO blended families never ever work, or at least are never in the best interest of any children before the 'blending'

Botox is amazing and if done well people look miles better than their counterparts without!

People are too desperate to get a diagnosis for their kids when actually their behaviour is entirely down to their (lack of) parenting

TeddySchnauzer · 16/10/2025 12:50

Thatsalineallright · 15/10/2025 22:35

I am very sceptical about many ADHD diagnoses. I think it's that our modern lifestyle (fast paced, distractions everywhere, smartphones, noise etc) doesn't suit many people. I wish medication wasn't so often the go-to and instead doctors advocated for lifestyle change. For a start, diet has been linked to ADHD symptoms.

I was diagnosed with ADHD in 1989. So that doesn’t really fit with your stereotype! Does it?!

TeddySchnauzer · 16/10/2025 12:51

SomeLikeitSnot · 16/10/2025 12:47

IMO blended families never ever work, or at least are never in the best interest of any children before the 'blending'

Botox is amazing and if done well people look miles better than their counterparts without!

People are too desperate to get a diagnosis for their kids when actually their behaviour is entirely down to their (lack of) parenting

The NHS do not diagnose ASD easily! It took 3 years and seventeen appointments to diagnose my DD. 17! Please do your research

NoOneToCallWhenThePlaneLands · 16/10/2025 12:53

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TeddySchnauzer · 16/10/2025 12:55

Soveryitchy · 15/10/2025 22:45

I have psoriasis in my arse crack. Went to a dermatologist who diagnosed it as such and prescribed a cream with limited success, then she prescribed injections which haven't worked either. Never told anyone else, not my mum my sister or even my husband. I use the loo at work multiple times a day to scratch it. It flares up and down, but it's always there. I've been nearly suicidal over it as I cannot function with a permanently itchy arse crack. Going for a poo is an ordeal. Sometimes the itch has become consuming while driving and I'm legitimacy worried I will cause an accident.

Please try Eurax cream if you haven’t already. It stops the itch for 10 hours at a time! My dad had the same as you and said Eurax cream was a revelation.
He also was given UV light treatment on the NHS (basically a medical sunbed) and that helped tremendously! He would come home and his plaques were miraculously gone

TeddySchnauzer · 16/10/2025 12:57

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Elfie111 · 16/10/2025 12:57

SheRa · 15/10/2025 23:29

This sounds debilitating. Have you thought of trying LED? I’m a beauty therapist & you can use it on all parts of the body. Mine is a Dermalux Flex & that can be placed over different parts of the body. I would use the near infrared & the red light?

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I literally came on to say this - it will definitely help. ♥️

Elfie111 · 16/10/2025 12:57

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Same.

NoOneToCallWhenThePlaneLands · 16/10/2025 13:04

Elfie111 · 16/10/2025 12:57

Same.

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I’d go one step further and say I think 95% of this type of thing - ADHD, anxiety, depression etc., could be cured by getting out in nature more often, maintaining a good diet and exercising regularly.

LivingDeadGirlUK · 16/10/2025 13:07

Wellyoudidaskaboutit · 16/10/2025 10:30

I receive PIP, have a Blue Badge and have a Nimbus card (free companion tickets, etc.)

I do have a chronic health problem/disability, but it doesn't really affect my life that much. I have saved a fortune on parking and theatre tickets.

I don't think you should feel bad about this tbh. Disability/illness effects people differently. I have noticed this with my disability, especially the difference of having it from birth and growing up with it, compared to people who become disabled in later years.

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 16/10/2025 13:21

LivingDeadGirlUK · 16/10/2025 13:07

I don't think you should feel bad about this tbh. Disability/illness effects people differently. I have noticed this with my disability, especially the difference of having it from birth and growing up with it, compared to people who become disabled in later years.

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I agree with you.

I also have PIP and a blue badge, I feel like my disability doesn't affect me terribly all of the time, but I've had this discussion with friends and family members and they've said they still wouldn't want to walk a day in my shoes.

Ability, energy levels and safety fluctuate sometimes day to day, week to week or month to month. It isn't consistent. It just simply ticks all of the boxes for untimely, unreliable, and unsafely on all of the forms.

Thatsalineallright · 16/10/2025 13:25

TeddySchnauzer · 16/10/2025 12:50

I was diagnosed with ADHD in 1989. So that doesn’t really fit with your stereotype! Does it?!

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Firstly, I said many not all. Secondly, the 80s weren't that long ago. We still had bad food, a stressful lifestyle etc back then too.

Saying that e.g. nutrition is linked to ADHD is not controversial. Many studies and experts back it up. https://www.adhdcentre.co.uk/what-is-the-relationship-between-adhd-and-nutrition-how-diet-impacts-your-childs-behaviour-and-focus/

ADHD and Nutrition | Impacts On Behaviour and Focus | The ADHD Centre

Discover the link between ADHD and nutrition. Learn how diet affects children with ADHD, and which foods to avoid and include to improve ADHD symptoms.

https://www.adhdcentre.co.uk/what-is-the-relationship-between-adhd-and-nutrition-how-diet-impacts-your-childs-behaviour-and-focus/