Things you wouldn't admit in real life part 2

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I know this is auto immune but would surgery be an option for you?

I have hidradenitis suppurativa. I’ve had it since I was 14 and wasn’t diagnosed until I was in my 40’s. The surgery is removal of sweat glands and skin grafts which look awful.

At home treatment is a hot compress (which does absolutely nothing).

I’ve wondered why surgeons can’t just remove all the diseased tissue.

They were abused by Covid deniers. Didn’t believe it so wore the lanyards to let them off in not wearing masks during the compulsory days.

but why would you not say this publicly?

Don't worry, this poster will grow up eventually and have a totally different opinion! I see the prams cluttering up Costa etc, sleeping babies, Mums troughing cake and coffee as this 'bonding' happens and think it would have been thoroughly boring to have spent my babies' early life like that, even at someone else's expense.

I can of course, and I sometimes do, but then people explain that they love their garden so much and how horrible it must be to live in a flat etc etc and that having a dog in a flat is akin to cruelty etc etc...

@Soveryitchy This sounds awful. I used to suffer from mild psoriasis on my shins and the itch is horrendous. I stopped eating gluten about ten years ago due to lots of issues it caused and at the same time my psoriasis disappeared.

Same here. One human sucking fluid from another makes me heave. Fair enough for animals, they have no other options!

Some people would judge others for splitting up their families in the first place and making their child live separately from their father…. People very much do judge single parent families so perhaps that’s part of the reason.

I think many parents would agree with you but sadly they’re is no funding to build more or create more places.

Exactly. We all want the same thing. For the right places for our kids. It's not SEN parents fault there aren't enough places but there's no lobbying or support from able bodied and NT children's families for us to get that support because at the same time people complain about the amount of funding it would require. You can't have your cake and eat it too.

You're being silly. Being gay isn't as widely accepted as we would like to think, and she's showing support for her son. Do you also complain about white people going on marches for racial equality?

ask them, the surgeons I mean.

I can't relate to people at all who get all mysty eye and emotional about the baby stage, people that cry hysterically about throwing out baby clothes and want to churn out more kids than they can cope with because they love the baby stage so much and can't cope with "never experiencing their firsts" again.

It's usually the same women that guilt trip women who go back to work as "you'll never get that time back" to which my response is usually thank fuck I'll never get that time back. Sleepless nights, teething, weaning, colic, reflux, the crying, the fact they can't be left alone or entertain themselves- why on earth would I want to go through that again. I'm happy to outsource the baby years as much as I can!

I have two children and I love them very much but I'd have gladly had them born at 3. I'm delirious with happiness each time I bag up and get rid of a set of baby clothes or no longer have the need for baby paraphernalia to clutter up my home.

Oh God, yes. Yes! The baby stage bored me to tears and I virtually skipped back to work. In my experience, the ones who are obsessed with their precious ickle ones don't tend to be the brightest bulbs in the box.

That sometimes I fantasise about living on my own - no Dh, no kids, just me, a lot of books and a very small, tidy flat decorated exactly how I want it.

I know I wouldn't really like it and would miss them all desperately but I'm an introvert and sometimes family life is just so bloody draining.

Haha yes! I always knew I wanted 2 so the baby stage was a means to an end, something I'm currently gritting my teeth and going through at the moment. But I felt sheer elation bagging up his newborn clothes to the charity shop and throwing the moses basket in the skip knowing I'd never have to go through the newborn stage again!

And another one..Why do so many women stay in what they must think are fair, loving, equitable relationships when they've had children with the guy, they haven't got married and the finances are kept separate? So she always has to negotiate the financial problems when a big bill comes in. Or he gets to spend hundreds on his fancy hobby while she feels bad having a coffee with a few friends once a month.

I completely get that some women want to have their finances separate, especially when they are the higher earner out of the two but if this isn't the case, the woman is bound to feel walked over or exploited or taken for a ride at some point. Why would anyone sleep walk into this scenario? Women are their own worst enemies sometimes.

so its ok if the woman is the high earner and wants to keep finances separate but not if the man does? To be clear I am not sure why any couple gets to the stage of having children and expects to still have totally separate finances.

@ godmum , if a higher earning woman is in a relationship where her partner is exploited and kept short of funds, that obviously isn't ok and I wouldnt condone it. However we don't routinely see this. Maybe because men aren't trapped holding the baby, he would up and go, leaving aside domestic violence from the woman keeping him there. And of course I have sympathy for anyone, male or female, trapped in a relationship like this.

But we see so many women stuck in these unhealthy, imbalanced relationships, often raising young children, working lower paid jobs whilst the partner earns more and refuses to share. The women think they have to accept it, that it's normal.

Got nothing to do with you, what other people do. Probably your jealous because you can afford to retire.

We were all abused by the Covid hysterics. I don't blame people for wearing the lanyard, although I didn't bother to. I stopped wearing a mask in 2021 and so did most people I know. They are as much use as a chocolate teapot.

Of course they're jealous, and absolutely pathetic to boot. I don't believe for an instant that they are in some muckety muck high paying job in the US, either. More likely on minimum wage in Swindon.

@ConfessionsthrowawayNot sure where you got the idea from that I said I was in a “high-paying muckety-muck” job in the US. I work in an industry that’s famous for its low pay, but it does pay more in the US than the U.K. I can live on it here in the US (if I’m careful) although not in the U.K. And I can’t really prove that I live in the US without revealing my real identity, but if all the deep knowledge of living in each country in my previous post wasn’t proof enough, then OK. I just returned to the US after tying up all the loose ends of my second late parents estate, and I wish so much that I could return to the U.K., but the pay isn’t enough. There is no place like home. And no, I’ll never be able to retire since my abusive husband left me alone in a foreign country (the US), having told me to pursue the low-paid but beloved career, since I had him. I probably AM jealous.

So that's the nub of it, isn't it? Jealousy.

Its not what you say sometimes but how you say it isn't it?

Its a thread for saying things you wouldn't in real life which is fair enough.

But when you do it in a such a condescending and tedious way its like wading through treacle so not surprising it annoys the fluck out of folk.