Things you wouldn't admit in real life part 2

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I detest superficial displays of happiness. People who are permanently positive really get up my nose because that’s not a natural state to be in, all the fucking time. Colleagues who pretend to be happy about everything - even when it’s clearly shit - are twats and I ignore them

Dear god. So little understanding of mental illness on this thread. People don't develop deadly mental illnesses that destroy their lives for fun. The way mental illness manifests and the way pain expresses itself changes depending on a person's culture and environment, but it is for that person an uncontrollable and compulsive response to whatever trauma/anxiety/pain they are experiencing. It is not simply people having too much time or vanity. It's nothing to do with vanity, in fact.

I’m going to give a brief example of a cousin of mine who was agoraphobic. He wouldn’t leave the house unless after 11pm for a walk and wouldn’t open his bedroom door if I came to visit. Well, his mother was a borderline pd alcoholic who stopped paying the bills. When they got forcefully evicted, my cousin had to leave and let me tell you, it did wonders for him. When you’re forced to, you do it. You go outside your comfort zone and you grow. I’m not dismissing mental health for one moment, I have suffered with it. But if a war were to come or real hardship like a famine, people would have to get their act together to survive.

Ok, because your cousin did that, other people can do that too 🙄

If by 'get their act together' you mean go numb, force themselves to function and end up with even more trauma later on then yes, a war would totally sort people out.

Yes, exactly. Other people can heal too. It’s not forcing people to function, it’s encouraging them to break through their constraints.

My point is, if we can do it in extreme circumstances where survival is at threat, we can do it in our comfortable modern lives.

I read some of the food threads on here and in particular the UPF ones and just think some people have completely miserable, joyless lives.

I am all for eating healthy and cooking fresh food and cook from scratch but the lengths some people take it to here are absurd. I've seen people ban their kids from eating party food and cakes at parties, get up at 4am to make fresh bread to avoid the horrors of supermarket bread, spend an entire day each week chained to their kitchen making piles of flat breads, Yorkshire puddings, homemade stock while working full time and people losing their shit over stock cubes and shop bought mayonnaise.

There was an even a thread on the recipe section where someone asked about sides to serve with spaghetti bolognese and some posters were DISGUSTED at the notion of garlic bread and double carbs and one poster even suggested serving the bolognese with courgette instead of spaghetti.

I can't imagine being on my deathbed and being thankful I spent hours on end making absolutely and everything from scratch rather than spending time with my family and friends and spending pointless time worrying about the nutritional contents of shop bought bread and bloody stock cubes.

I think Billy Connolly sums it up best.

"The brown bread/white bread brigade. Absolute pains in the arse. You’re just about to bite into a lovely big white bread sandwich and some spotty wee idiot comes along and says, “Do you know they put bleach in that and it poisons you?”
“Aye – and it’s f. kin’ delicious!” And I also like to say to them, “I hate brown bread – you never know when it’s toasted!”
But instead I ask them: “You eat brown bread your whole life. I eat white bread my whole life. How much longer are you going to live than me? A fortnight? Ten days? Don’t say 20 years – you know that’s crap.
We’re talking a fortnight – tops. But it isn’t a fortnight when you’re 18, shagging everything that walks in front of you.
No, it’s a fortnight when you’re in an old folks’ home, pissing in your trousers, being fed out of a blender! And the nurse who’s feeding you is going: ‘Aw, you’re looking awful sad! There’s such an awful sad expression on your face. Is that because all your friends are dead? Aw, they were the white bread crowd. But don’t you worry – you’ve got another two weeks to go!’”

Many people have to force themselves to get out of bed each day and function but they have no choice. Of course some people have serious mental illnesses and really can;t function but there are many that give up when faced with the slightest struggle, I feel so sorry for those that are truly ill ( my BIL) because MH is now used by those that use it as an excuse.

@godmum56 That Napsbury Estate is near to where I live. As a slight aside, I have wondered why there are so many of these housing estates made out of former residential hospitals - don't we need the hospitals any more? Now we know, those who did live there are not isolated from everybody else, like they used to be.

I refuse to wear a sunflower lanyard because of some of the other people wearing them…

By and large, no we don't. Care and knowledge are much improved as is medication. Its nowhere near fixed or perfect of course, but the "dumping grounds" are a thing of the past and a good thing too!

OFFS. You're ridiculous.

I prefer living in a flat than in a house and wouldn't like to have a garden. When I was looking for a flat, I ruled out garden flats because well, garden, and they were either ground floor or basement flats.

But if a war were to come or real hardship like a famine, people would have to get their act together to survive.

And many of them wouldn't survive.

And many of those who survivef the immediate crisis would have permanent severe damage to their physical and mental health,

I believe that more soldiers from the Iraq War took their own lives subsequently than were killed in battle.

I'm the same!

Well said

I was thinking the same when I came across your post.

Would never say it in real life if course, as per the threads premise, but im extremely glad certain folk posting here do not share my land mass.🥳

I've have only slept with DH and am in my 40s.

Women like and play sport too you know. Outdated thing to say.

Thankfully we have people like you around to police who is ill and who is just weak

I'm not sure you understand the complexities of mental illness

Exactly. The idea of war being a cure for mental health is quite something.

Wow it's breathtaking you're not even trying to understand, and completely close minded.

So I really hope none of your children suffer with it either because

1. it is relentlessly heartbreaking and soul destroying for the victim and their loved ones

1. there's a real risk they could die from it

And 3. their parent lacks basic knowledge that is easy to get (hint, google) and empathy, which unfortunately isn't as easy to get.

Totally agree

Breatfeeding disguists me.

Perhaps you don’t either. That is such a blanket statement to try and disarm the arguement. People with mental illness can make improvements. It’s why therapy exists.

One of my friends' sons is gay. For no other reason that I can work out, she feels the need to go on the pride march every year. Fine, go for it, but it just seems to be a performance. If a person is gay then I get it, if you aren't, isn't it a bit patronising? Does a gay person need their parent to be supporting them? God knows. But I will never tell her this to her face.