Page 29 | Things you wouldn't admit in real life part 2

godmum56 · 19/10/2025 20:05

Rayah · 19/10/2025 19:47

I am very against the royal family in principle and really don't see a need for them.

However that doesn't stop them being my secret obsession. I've got about every biography on them downloaded on my phone, Prince Harry's autobiography etc. Whenever I get time to myself, I'll watch whatever documentaries about them before deleting them off the sky planner.

I think part of this is escapism and that I'd secretly love to be a member of the Royal family. The multiple massive houses at no cost, having a fleet of staff to cater to my every whim, nannies on hand to basically do all the hard child rearing stuff for me, not having to work a conventional job, the designer clothes, having my hair and make up done every day, not having to worry about money. I imagine the reality is probably different from what I imagine.

I don't tell anyone of all this in real life. Probably due to the fact I'm quite vocal about how against I am of them!

I'd hate it. Totally bird in a gilded cage.

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 19/10/2025 20:41

I don't like my parents.

Howdiditgetsobad · 19/10/2025 20:52

This thread has reminded me of a few things I’d never say out loud.

Midweek weddings are rubbish - choosing a venue you can’t afford at a weekend then making the other guests pay by sacrificing annual leave. Same as folks who choose a beautiful wedding venue and then are super tight about drinks and catering. Cut your cloth accordingly and cater for your guests. It might be your special day but you’re also a host.

godmum56 · 19/10/2025 20:52

Howdiditgetsobad · 19/10/2025 20:52

This thread has reminded me of a few things I’d never say out loud.

Midweek weddings are rubbish - choosing a venue you can’t afford at a weekend then making the other guests pay by sacrificing annual leave. Same as folks who choose a beautiful wedding venue and then are super tight about drinks and catering. Cut your cloth accordingly and cater for your guests. It might be your special day but you’re also a host.

umm no one HAS to attend!

Howdiditgetsobad · 19/10/2025 20:56

simplesimoneatspie · 19/10/2025 14:08

I believe my parents generation are mostly responsible for destroying the country, for many reasons really. They would be classed as the baby boomer generation. They will tell you ‘live your dreams’ ‘I can if I want’ ‘it’s my time now’ ‘I deserve it…’ creating a sense of not only self importance but indulgence and entitlement. The older folk of today are worlds apart from my grandparents. Not a day goes by when I haven’t seen a 70 ish year old driving a car far too powerful for them to handle. Usually just off on a jolly to discuss the next cruise or whatever they are planning ‘on their bucket list’ because they’ll tell you they’ve ’worked all their life’ when in reality they retired in their 50s living now from their huge pensions. They are guilty of not overseeing the futures of their ‘own’ and allowing the destruction of our borders to ease their consciences. Yet even now most, with the luxury of time and wealth, still refuse accountability and continue to sing ‘we survived the war you know’ all while the ship sinks.

So true. My grandparents were hard working legends, on both sides. Wonderful people. My parents are so selfish in comparison.

Telemicus · 19/10/2025 21:30

I believe that we spend too much money on healthcare for the elderly. If, at the age of say 25, everyone had the option to opt in to a scheme whereby they pay far less tax and receive much better benefits, including better healthcare in middle-age, but will get minimal NHS treatment once they hit 80, I bet loads of people would take it. What's more, I bet most of them wouldn't regret it once they turn 80, knowing that they had a better life up until then, and any more healthy years are just a bonus.

Howdiditgetsobad · 19/10/2025 21:45

Not the point @godmum56 - I just don’t like people who are stingy hosts!

godmum56 · 19/10/2025 22:13

Howdiditgetsobad · 19/10/2025 21:45

Not the point @godmum56 - I just don’t like people who are stingy hosts!

then decline the invitations.

godmum56 · 19/10/2025 22:14

Telemicus · 19/10/2025 21:30

I believe that we spend too much money on healthcare for the elderly. If, at the age of say 25, everyone had the option to opt in to a scheme whereby they pay far less tax and receive much better benefits, including better healthcare in middle-age, but will get minimal NHS treatment once they hit 80, I bet loads of people would take it. What's more, I bet most of them wouldn't regret it once they turn 80, knowing that they had a better life up until then, and any more healthy years are just a bonus.

how would that save money?

JudgeJ · 19/10/2025 22:19

TwinklyFawn · 19/10/2025 13:19

This.

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As well as your problems about your family, when I worked I only very rarely talked about anything out of school, I was surprised when people asked to see my daughter's wedding photos, why did they want to see them? Even more surprised that i wasn't in any of them!

illsendansostotheworld · 19/10/2025 22:29

Thatsalineallright · 15/10/2025 22:35

I am very sceptical about many ADHD diagnoses. I think it's that our modern lifestyle (fast paced, distractions everywhere, smartphones, noise etc) doesn't suit many people. I wish medication wasn't so often the go-to and instead doctors advocated for lifestyle change. For a start, diet has been linked to ADHD symptoms.

Hard agree!!! And some adhd is down to shitty lazy parenting.

Obviouslynamechanged12 · 19/10/2025 22:40

SIL (mid 40s, never left home, diagnosed MH issues, but also horribly malicious) sleeps in the same bed as FIL when visiting us (MIL died). Husband (I have a horrible husband problem around many issues) brushes any issues off as fine and nice. I am so grossed out I can no longer sleep in that spare room (used to sometimes when having a very early start).

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browser2025 · 19/10/2025 22:56

One, we’ve been in a global war for decades, one fought quietly and strategically. China is playing the long game, orchestrating the slow collapse of the West. From the chemicals we put on our skin and the ingredients we consume, to the billionaires funding ideological movements that reshape the next generation, to the tech driving our mental health crisis, and the immigration trade-offs fracturing our societies, its all part of the same design.

And two, social media is pure rot. I hate what it’s done to humanity.

browser2025 · 19/10/2025 23:16

And three… smart people don’t expose their children to predators, pedophiles, and stealth scammers by publicly posting images of their children on social media

Confessionsthrowaway · 19/10/2025 23:26

Obviouslynamechanged12 · 19/10/2025 22:40

SIL (mid 40s, never left home, diagnosed MH issues, but also horribly malicious) sleeps in the same bed as FIL when visiting us (MIL died). Husband (I have a horrible husband problem around many issues) brushes any issues off as fine and nice. I am so grossed out I can no longer sleep in that spare room (used to sometimes when having a very early start).

OMG that's so gross and weird. To be fair to your husband, though, he may have also been groomed by his father to accept this sort of thing. Not that that's really an excuse, but it could explain it.

Notaflippinclue · 19/10/2025 23:35

Put some vic on it honestly it works

cadburyegg · 19/10/2025 23:48

I’m against home births in the majority of cases. I cannot fathom why people think they are a good idea. I am still angry about the midwives trying to push me into a home birth with my first when he’d have probably died without medical intervention.

Londonismyjam · 20/10/2025 00:32

Tryingtolikeyou · 16/10/2025 18:03

Im Jealous to death of my sister.
She had a baby young i laughed she never asked for help and when she did i gave her the middle finger.
Every time something came up i would straight up say you cant you have a kid to look after.
No one would want you with a kid yes i was awful.
All in all i thought i was better than her.

Fast forward 20 years shes free her child is 23 moved on she is now traveling around the globe for her work care free at 39.
In grate shape always happy and not a bad word to say about anyone.
Shes never home great friends.
Self made.
Owns her own home in thailand and a small flat in our home town.
Turns out that all the bulling i did to her she had her head in books and studying at nights to better herself.

Im now a single mum at 42 with 3 kids 8,4 and a 2 year old, gone though a divorce 2 failed relationship living on benefits.
She has the life i wanted and thought i have.
I so jealous of her it eats away at me.
I cant stand it i cant stand looking online at her post so i blocked her.
She has everything going for her and i hate it.
She as my life.

That’s so sad. You need help.

Violinist64 · 20/10/2025 01:39

Telemicus · 19/10/2025 21:30

I believe that we spend too much money on healthcare for the elderly. If, at the age of say 25, everyone had the option to opt in to a scheme whereby they pay far less tax and receive much better benefits, including better healthcare in middle-age, but will get minimal NHS treatment once they hit 80, I bet loads of people would take it. What's more, I bet most of them wouldn't regret it once they turn 80, knowing that they had a better life up until then, and any more healthy years are just a bonus.

In other words, you would prefer it if we were all off this mortal coil by the age of 79 years and 364 day. Will we be shot or will it be by lethal injection if not already dead by then? Can you really not see how preposterous, ageist and nasty your idea is. People over the age of eighty are the very age group who are generally most in need of medical services. They have also paid for this in a lifetime of taxes. A society that means anything is one that cares for its most vulnerable members - in this case the very elderly. They have just as much right to a decent quality of life as anyone else. I think you might change your mind if you are lucky enough to reach the age of eighty plus.

DurinsBane · 20/10/2025 05:09

ImGoingtoSayitButyouWontBelieveme · 16/10/2025 22:29

This is 100% true, but I know no one will believe me. I have only told my DH and parents irl.

I have seen the end of the world.

This was through a full immersion vision, fully awake, where I was physically taken there and experienced it firsthand.

Timescale wise I don’t know but is not long, I believe months or years, but not decades. The buildings I saw and urban landscapes were modern, same as in any city now.

I know no-one will believe me and I will probably be hated for posting ‘something religious and ridiculous’ etc etc. I don’t know why I’m even posting but this is an honest disclosure thread, ‘say what you can’t say irl’. I wish you all could see what I was shown, you wouldn’t doubt it either, and it would change what you believe.

The New Testament teaches about Jesus’s return, that this time he will not come as a suffering servant like the first time, but as the King of King’s to judge the earth and the sky will be torn open. Those who believe in him will be ‘caught up’ together to heaven in what is known as the rapture. (The Left Behind film is a clumsy and not at all biblically accurate telling of this but gives a general gist).

Honestly, I hope with all my heart to not be here when the destruction comes. It was terrifying. All the wars and natural disasters we’ve had are nothing in comparison.

Which Left Behind, Kirk Cameron or the Hollywood remake with Nicholas Cage? 🙃

DurinsBane · 20/10/2025 05:16

CrispsPlease · 16/10/2025 22:36

100%. There's a big "you go girl. You only get one life. Life's too short to be bored " yes, and your kids only get one precious childhood: it's too short to fuck it up. And then there's this assumption that parents are "always arguing or warring " when it's not the case if it's just the wife finds her DH a bit dull (or vice versa ) or they've just lapsed into "friendship". And this new guilt trip of "the kids will pick up on it if you're not happy " : there's a massive difference between being actively "unhappy" and going round moping and feeling depressed than being in a "boring" marriage. And even if kids do "pick up" on their parents not being "in love" (pfft) then that's hardly comparable to ripping apart their home and reducing their lives to being ferried back and forth to dads/mums every few days.

Divorce is a big and devastating adverse childhood experience that shakes their whole foundation of stability. It's really not something to consider lightly.

And too many people have unrealistic expectations of what "happiness" is anyway. Contentment is far more realistic.

I actually think it's a wise sacrifice to put your children's happiness first and stay together when deep down it's mostly for the sake of the children and the security everyone benefits from. You can be a perfectly happy "family" but not a particularly electric couple together.

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That’s why I’m a believer in putting your spouse first. Very simplistic way of putting it, but prioritising your marriage will keep you happy and together, kids thrive best in a two parent household and happy parents, happy kids.

DurinsBane · 20/10/2025 05:19

ImGoingtoSayitButyouWontBelieveme · 16/10/2025 22:45

I’ve also had the privilege of being given the most beautiful vision of what comes after, that has given me a lot of strength in difficult times. And I’ve heard angels sing, you would not believe how beautiful they sound! The tears just streamed down my face when I heard them, and the music that was accompanying them it was indescribable.

It was a few years ago now after the vision of the end of the world that I heard a prophecy through a reliable source (there are very few I trust) and it matched what I saw. They saw the same thing

If you are saved you won’t be here to see the devastation, as you will will raptured before that devastation happens.

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 20/10/2025 05:42

@MorrisZapp @LillyPJ

Yup could have written the same myself....

It's kind of that being bound by history isn't it..... The old mantra of friends for a reason, (history etc), a season (people we are bound with cos we work with them....)

I have one friend of 40+ years I realised I don't like very much... Her politics are stupid (🙄😁) and repeats stuff straight out of mail... She's naturally very not curious about anything that doesn't happen within 5 miles of where she is.....

The other one - she doesn't really treat people well... I'm waiting til it happens to me... 🤔

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 20/10/2025 05:45

PS Both have kids... I find myself asking after them out of politeness, but tbh
I'm not that bothered about them... Although worried they've inherited these friends' traits...

We are bound my history though..