Things you wouldn't admit in real life part 2

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Nobody ever lay on their deathbed wishing they spent more time in the office.
Travel and holidays are one of life's joys and I wish I had the time and money to do more.
It's like books and music, theatre etc. All of these things take away from me being more productive (heaven forfend), but god, life would be miserable without them.
I was reading yesterday about a Reform person who wants to ban wasteful degrees like English Language.

If someone on here suggested that people should work all hours and do nothing else, I missed that. I don't agree with it, either. I said that retirements lasting decades and starting when young and healthy are a drag on the economy. No reason why you can't go on holidays, read books, or go to the theatre while having a job. Millions do!

I also believe that sleep deprivation in children also plays a big part in behavioral issues we see today. You see here hoardes of parents who are against any sort of sleep training or putting in good sleep habits at all believing they all get there in the end and how it harms "attachment". And I'm not speaking about crying it out but about gentle sleep training.

And then you get years down the line, the parents are completely exhausted and at near breaking point, kids are up all hours and have no bed time routine at all and parents are wondering why their kids are so irritable throughout the day.

These parents have bought into some myth that despite the fact their children spend their waking hours loved and cared for and with secure attachment that somehow teaching them to sleep at night is going to undo all this and they will be traumatised for life. Yet give no thought to the dangers that poor sleep does to children and the impact on their physical, emotional and mental health not to mention how poor sleep impacts on child development. Not to mention why would you want your child to be exhausted and miserable when you could do something about it?

You said that the British are lazy and take far too many holidays.
Years ago when Tomorrow's World (TV show) was a thing, it was said that in the future computers would take care of the drudgery of life and we would all have more leisure time. It seems to me that now, AI is replacing, or trying to replace the fun stuff like the arts etc and humans are left with the shit.

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My best friend is not my best friend. She can be great to hang out with, she has unknowingly pushed me to do things outside my anxiety comfort zone and I'm really grateful for this .. but she is also extremely self centred, does a lot of things for her own advantage/gain (but makes out she's helping you/doing you a favourl) and Im certain she plays mind games. She trips herself up with the things she inadvertently says, but she has no idea she is doing this. No one else in our friendship group seems to see any of this .. unless they do but never mention it (I wouldn't say a thing to anyone) .. or this is all in my head. But I don't second guess any of my other friends or assume they are doing things for their own gain. Their behaviours never spell out anything like that. So I don't think it's all in my own head with this friend.

you have missed out a step which is demand. You can produce as much as you like but if no one wants to buy it.......

You produce things that people do want to buy.

Yeah, all that happened with the efficiency gains from computers was that the capitalist masters poured more work onto the workers.

I'm not sure how AI will pan out.

Anyone your age who works for the police, NHS civil service, local government will have a DB pension. Also until auto enrollment it was not compulsory for employers to provide pensions at all.

Anyone who is convicted of child neglect, abuse or has their children taken away by SS should be sterilised. As excellent chance of the parents to do the same again with the new child.

Money saved all round.

Also I see mums with two badly behaved children in public and then notice that she is pregnant. Why do these women get pregnant when they can’t control their other kids?

I despise people who think like @Newstartplease24. It seems that casual ageism is the only acceptable ism left in society. I think some people blaming everything on older people has similarities to Hitler and the Jews. I am claiming my state pension, 2 other pensions and still working. I've been working since 1975, I paid 50 years NIC, I pay a lot of tax.

I used to foster and I agree. I believe in the USA they paid such women to be sterilised at some point.

@Anywhereelsebuthere, you have, by your own admission, lived in the USA for many years and, quite naturally, have assimilated the US work to live mindset. As it happens, British people work some of the longest hours in Europe but what is the point of hard work if we are unable to enjoy the fruits of our labours? The crux of your argument, though, is good old-fashioned ageist jealousy of people who, through no fault of their own, were born at a particular time in history - ie the postwar generations born between 1945-1970. It's as if every single one of us born at that time was born with the proverbial silver spoon in our mouths with our gold plated pensions, long retirements and worldwide cruises. Complete nonsense nonsense, of course. I will admit that I was fortunate enough to have a student grant in the eighties but this was at a time when only around 10% of the population went on to any form of higher education. We worked hard and, if we wish to and are able to retire at sixty, why shouldn't we? What is often forgotten in these envious posts is that we are often still supporting both adult children and their children in many ways and elderly parents. It is also the older generations who provide the bulk of voluntary work, without which society would collapse. If we should enjoy the occasional holiday in the meantime, well, why shouldn't we?

Sorry, the above message was for @Horsie. I don't know how or why it tagged the wrong person.

I can see a few people’s back yards and one night at 11 pm heard some kids screaming. They were in their lit up back yard on a trampoline. The next day was a school day. Why would any parent let their DC do this? I’m guessing the girls were 5 and 7

Britain is now a low-wage, low-productivity country, which is not helped by the large number of economically inactive people. And it's not an occasional holiday, it's holidaying the way Princess Beatrice holidays. People who work also support other family members. It's not just healthy work refusers who do that.

Also, the Boomers have left the cupboard bare for the next generation.

If you've retired at retirement age, so 66, fine. But anything earlier and you're just a work refuser. (Unless you have ill health or a history of cancer.)

That's crazy isn't it. Poor kids - so unfair on them.

Looking at things from this side of the Atlantic, the USA is a low wage economy on the whole - one paycheque from bankruptcy is the famous phrase. No workers' rights, minimum wage below living wage, two weeks' annual leave, no maternity pay, no sickness benefit or any form of safety net, health care available only for people who can afford it, low educational attainment and guns. Yet all you are worried about is the fact that people in a country on the other side of the world might have enough savings to retire early and enjoy a decent quality of life. We have our own problems in the UK but I know where I would rather live, warts and all.

Maybe she is encountering ones like the cheat upthread who is actually quite proud of cheating the system, the sort who you would love to see someone official knocking at her door and accusing her of abusing her children for her lazy selfishness.

Why should your bank, ie its customers, act as free insurance against your gullibility? Surely by now people have learned not to believe random phone calls, banks have made it clear that they never contact customers by phone to discuss fraud. If anyone gets such a call there are a number of options, one being to string them along for a while, which is fun, or hang up and ring your bank on a trusted number.

This is interesting as it's an episode in the TV show 6ft under.

After the father dies suddenly the adult children discover his secret property and his son is constantly wondering what he did in that flat, from outrageous to mundane scenarios like prostates and drugs to building model aeroplanes... It's the discovery and loss of never truly knowing another person and now that moment is gone and you can never ask.

Enjoy your secrets, makes life interesting.

I agree. It's a trend to make people feel special, and for people with too much time on their hands.

My friend paid for a ADHD diagnosis. She's a successful business woman, with a husband (albeit he's awful) and a large, loving and wealthy extended family. She goes on multiple holidays, has never in her life experienced poverty or hardship and it feels like she only needs to turn up at work to do well. I find it hard to feel sympathy for her conditions when it doesn't seem to have affected her life in the slightest.

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Children who have SEN that is not manageable in the mainstream setting should be in a special school. Its not fair on that child or other kids.

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