Things you wouldn't admit in real life part 2

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Oh god, same!

This is just vile. They don’t want to “destroy” Hamas, they want to destroy Palestine, take the land and hand it over to Israel. It’s like saying you support putin and want him to take Ukraine 🥴

My parents have no interest in me or my kids whatsoever. They are happy for months to pass without contacting us and I’ve given up doing the all of leg work, so we hardly talk. Nothing has happened, they just aren’t interested. I’ve tried to give up caring as nothing will ever change, but It makes me sad and angry

I agree. I think loyalty is more important in a very long marriage. Sometimes people do love each other at a deep level but want a bit of excitement and if no-one’s being deceived, I would just shrug and let it go.

There’s been a huge fuss recently about whether Prince Philip had affairs. If the Queen didn’t mind, I don’t know why anyone else should! They clearly loved each other on a deep level and were married for 70 years.

I don't necessarily disagree, but if noone's being deceived, that's an open marriage isn't it, and not an "affair".

As for the Queen, she was from a different era and cut from a different cloth to modern day royals, and could have absolutely despised Philip for all we know, but certainly was never going to get divorced.

I never donate to cancer charities for cancer cures.

It's not because I'm mean. It's because I believe the cure, or even cures for cancer were found long ago. There is too much money to be made from the back of cancer for too many people. In this respect, it would be a disaster if a cure was identified. Especially if that cure was cheap and simple. This information would never be allowed to reach the general population.

There are accounts of people in the past who have tested their own theories on cancer cures and had very good results. In these accounts, they are inevitably disappear or are threatened into silence, or ridiculed and discredited.

I mean, think about it - supposing it turned out, for example, that a particular mix of garden plants combined with some cheap, readily available ingredient had shown significantly positive results - do we really think we'd be informed?

On Mumsnet, when I see women ask if they are too old (late 30s-Early40s) to have a child, they often get really negative responses. I.e. you’ll be going through the menopause when the child is 7, you’ll die when the child is 25, you’ll be too tired when the child is x, disability risks etc etc. I assume most of the responses are from women who are resentful and just went straight into motherhood and need to feel good about themselves for doing that. Spent their young lives running a family, gave up their career prospects, financial independence. i.e. women 60+, super religious women, women who’ve never worked and relied on benefits to bring up their children.

I think the same about posters who go on negatively about people losing weight with WLIs. Those who take the time to point out how people using WLI have no self control and are taking an easy way out etc etc. I think they have been so delighted in their life to be skinnier than people and ‘superior’ about it, and now they’re just bitter they’re finding less opportunity for it.

No, it isn't. Not remotely.

Most cosmetic procedures look dreadful at worst and weird at best. Lips should never be touched. I laugh at those who get rid of their ‘11s’ and say it’s to look less angry and ‘fresh’, and absolutely nothing to do with looking younger. Why didn’t you get them done aged 21 then?! Even if botox is ‘subtle’, the people doing it are usually into fake lashes and other nonsense and look odd in other ways.

Natural ageing looks better and I am yet to see a good example of people having ‘work’. People are just brainwashed by those they see around them and think it looks good. When it really really doesn’t.

@stickonstars I feel exactly the same about both those groups of people.

💯 On both counts. I would go even further and say women who have kids in their early twenties are misguided at best.

I’m also another vote for over diagnosis of ADHD. I think it’s a type of benefits fraud mindset that has just moved into the workplace and universities.

I manage a very small team, and everyone on the team (except me) has a diagnosis of ADHD. I genuinely believe one or two of them. For the rest, they are just not bothered or into the job and can’t be arsed to do a bit of planning or find another job, so use this to justify their sustained poor performance and protect themselves from being fired. One of them, as one of her work adaptations, cannot accept voice calls because it derails her planned day.

None of us are owed a job /degree / salary. Expecting a suite of unreasonable demand to be met is joke. I’m all for making adjustments for people with ND to help their working, but they must find strategies themselves to do the job or degree they have applied to do, or the work is not being done. If they don’t do that, they’re on the make as far as I’m concerned.

Awwww... I hope things get better with time. I think I was a rubbish daughter, and certainly not what my parents hoped for, but we ended up having a wonderful relationship later in life.

Your username is definitely appropriate because your comment is pure conspiracy theory poppycock.

I'm not sure when the last time was that Christians beat their slaves?? But I can imagine that is currently happening in "Palastine" and Dubai in 2025.

That's the trouble with religions and their texts - followers can pick and choose which bits they like and ignore the rest!

I married my ex when I didn't want too. I honestly think I was having a mental breakdown at the time.

I agree. I can’t think of anyone who looks better after having plastic surgery.

I allow plastic surgery if someone had injuries from being burnt, in a car crash or illness which changes the face.

Some older women should not be colouring their hair when they hit a certain age. I saw a former colleague who is 75 as I was sitting at a cafe. She dyes her hair in a dark mahogany. Her skin tone has changed since I last saw her. She looked dreadful.

I hear you x

I was trying to think of a way to respond to this with love and kindness and this says it perfectly

I have lots of confessions I could tell that no one else knows but I'll stick to two:

1. I'm using Mounjaro just to stop my husband feeling bad about using Mounjaro (he was very obese but I am slightly overweight) and he tells everyone we've lost weight due to adjusting our portion size. 🙄
2. I'm over retirement age and don't want to retire because it will mean my DH and one of my DS will expect our house to be spotless! I hate housework, my house is cleanish but cluttered. My attitude is it's my DH's fault because when we first married my housework was never good enough so I just stopped trying! It's never been a complete pigsty but it's getting that way because my DH is too ashamed to let tradesman come in to fix things! I wouldn't mind but half the clutter is his!😖

Thank you for sharing this. I’d also like to add another one. Everyone with ADHD will end up on benefits (for extra popcorn throw in a mobility car). Not true. Many of the most successful people in science, technology, entertainment, sports, FTSE and entertainment have ADHD and are successful because of their intelligence and ability to hyperfocus.

and you stayed with him when he complained about the house?

That at times I get quite lonely and I’m not sure how it happened. On the face of it I’m in a happy marriage with 2 DC and I have friends but I could easily go weeks or months without seeing them. I feel like I’ve always been the disposable one in groups, if I don’t keep in contact nobody else does with me but I don’t always want to be the one chasing everyone. I find myself not necessarily actively withdrawing but I can’t be bothered to talk about nothing like some people do at the school gate etc. I listen to other parents at DS’s football talk about the same things over and over and I just don’t care. I train and exercise alone, originally because it fits with DC, and I sometimes think about joining a running club but I can’t be bothered. It’s a weird cycle I’ve got myself in. I’m happy and family life is great, DH is my person but it doesn’t mean I’m not lonely.