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To now be increasingly concerned about illegal boat arrivals

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CalmShaker · 14/10/2025 21:33

I've kept a level head with boat crossing arrivals but recently I've become concerned that there are some really unpleasant people being let in. This story was hard to watch on the news this evening;

Asylum seeker 'murdered hotel worker Rhiannon Whyte in frenzied attack' - BBC News https://share.google/qxzed2MD19TYPKasQ

I welcome genuine asylum but I don't believe that is what is happening anymore.
The story immediately before the above on national news this evening was the migrant who had threatened Nigel Farrage. I know Nigel is not the most popular of people but the migrant was horrid, clearly dangerous and not safe to be on our streets.
Financial cost and all other factors aside, it's the safety aspect that worry me most.

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xanthomelana · 17/10/2025 16:48

ThesebeautifulthingsthatIvegot · 17/10/2025 07:27

These hotels have been repurposed to house people who left their homes for various reasons. They felt strongly enough that their life changes were bad enough in their home countries that they were willing to travel across the world to a country that they most likely know will not welcome them with open arms.

They then undertook a journey fraught with risks. They travelled through countries where they knew their chance of asylum was low. They came across the English channel on a boat, where they know there is a risk of death.

Then they were detained for months. It's a hotel that's been repurposed to house asylum seekers. It's not the Hilton. They will have met people who were then deported - 32% of asylum claims are rejected of those arrivals on small boats. They have no rights in this country beyond basic human rights. Asylum seekers are in hotels for detention. To contain them.

I don't know about you but that's a lot of things that I've never experienced. I am not saying that it justifies any crime, but it does explain why so many asylum seekers take their own lives.

While any one murder is utterly unacceptable, the wider picture is that asylum seekers and migrants commit fewer crimes than people born in the UK.

The ones in a hotel in my area are not contained in any shape or form. You make it sound like a prison but they are allowed to come and go freely.

Bigpinksweater · 17/10/2025 16:48

EasternStandard · 17/10/2025 16:44

A better system would actually check who enters,

Or just not have anyone enter at all unless granted a visa

EasternStandard · 17/10/2025 16:57

Bigpinksweater · 17/10/2025 16:48

Or just not have anyone enter at all unless granted a visa

Yes it could all be done by visa. That way vetting can happen.

Thedevilhasfinallycaughtupwithhim · 17/10/2025 17:04

ThesebeautifulthingsthatIvegot · 17/10/2025 16:41

Your friends who have worked with migrants have very different experiences to mine.

Working with asylum seekers really exposed me to the horrors men are happy to inflict on other humans. Especially men from cultures where men are given carte blanche to abuse.
The women lived in utter terror. With almost no recourse to safety. Even their own families are a threat if they dare to leave or report.
It was what inspired me to work with victims of domestic violence.

Bigpinksweater · 17/10/2025 17:09

A few more from the last month or so you may have missed

https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c4gzxv7lxw8o.amp

(re above, the sex assault charge was dropped but you can draw your own conclusions)

And another

https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/cvg41km2jk4o.amp

And another

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cj4yn2yenxwo.amp

Awful lot for a small group of people isn’t it? What are we up to now, 5 or 6 sex offenders in the last month? I can’t even keep up.

As I said before, given we have around the same number of immigrants from Hong Kong in the last couple of years, why have I not heard about a man from HK facing similar charges? Any ideas?

A court sketch of Mohammed Sharwarq, who has dark hair and a beard. He is wearing a light grey jumper.

Epping hotel asylum seeker jailed for attacks on staff in Essex - BBC News

Mohammed Sharwarq's barrister tells a court he wishes to leave the UK and return to Syria.

https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c4gzxv7lxw8o.amp

Dollymylove · 17/10/2025 17:19

There is a simple solution to this. Pull the plug on the hotels and the benefits and most of the boats will stop..and maybe the UK will no longer be the laughing stock of the world

Parker231 · 17/10/2025 17:21

Dollymylove · 17/10/2025 17:19

There is a simple solution to this. Pull the plug on the hotels and the benefits and most of the boats will stop..and maybe the UK will no longer be the laughing stock of the world

They aren’t entitled to claim benefits whilst waiting for their case for right to remain to be accessed. Unfortunately the previous government cut the number of case workers so the backlog is huge.

Bigpinksweater · 17/10/2025 17:22

Parker231 · 17/10/2025 17:21

They aren’t entitled to claim benefits whilst waiting for their case for right to remain to be accessed. Unfortunately the previous government cut the number of case workers so the backlog is huge.

I’m glad there’s a backlog. Keeps a lot of them on the back burner until we leave the ECHR.

Parker231 · 17/10/2025 17:25

Bigpinksweater · 17/10/2025 17:22

I’m glad there’s a backlog. Keeps a lot of them on the back burner until we leave the ECHR.

Leaving the ECHR wouldn’t stop people making a claim for right to remain and I doubt the UK will leave the ECHR due to the GRA.

Bigpinksweater · 17/10/2025 17:41

Parker231 · 17/10/2025 17:25

Leaving the ECHR wouldn’t stop people making a claim for right to remain and I doubt the UK will leave the ECHR due to the GRA.

They can make a claim but we won’t be obligated to grant it.

Frankly we are full, and other bigger countries can now step up. Canada spends a lot of time virtue signalling from halfway across the world and they have 40 times the space we do, so I’m sure they’ll be happy to fly them over.

Greenmouldycheese · 17/10/2025 17:51

I'm worried too. We all want a better life, but that doesn't mean that we get to just go to any country without checks and precautions. Every country needs string borders for multiple reasons. I have no issue with immigration, but unvetted migration is has risks. There's nothing wrong with feeling this way.

Parker231 · 17/10/2025 17:55

Bigpinksweater · 17/10/2025 17:41

They can make a claim but we won’t be obligated to grant it.

Frankly we are full, and other bigger countries can now step up. Canada spends a lot of time virtue signalling from halfway across the world and they have 40 times the space we do, so I’m sure they’ll be happy to fly them over.

The uk doesn’t have accept everyone who makes a claim now. We live in Canada - the cities are highly populated. Much of the Canadian landmass isn’t habitable.

bumblebee1000 · 17/10/2025 17:58

Dollymylove · 17/10/2025 17:19

There is a simple solution to this. Pull the plug on the hotels and the benefits and most of the boats will stop..and maybe the UK will no longer be the laughing stock of the world

That's exactly what the French have been saying for years....if people apply for asylum in Eastern european countries, very few do, they are kept in secure locations, very little benefits and have to undertake community service whilst waiting for decisions. Hungary has a programme of litter removal, graffiti clean ups etc, if they dont participate then it affects their claim and seen as not wanting to intergrate.

Bigpinksweater · 17/10/2025 18:04

Parker231 · 17/10/2025 17:55

The uk doesn’t have accept everyone who makes a claim now. We live in Canada - the cities are highly populated. Much of the Canadian landmass isn’t habitable.

Well then I’m not surprised you’re on here advocating for our small island to take in hundreds of thousands of asylum seekers per year - you’re happily installed across the other side of the world where they have zero hope of reaching you, in a country literally 40 times our size.

EasternStandard · 17/10/2025 18:04

Parker231 · 17/10/2025 17:21

They aren’t entitled to claim benefits whilst waiting for their case for right to remain to be accessed. Unfortunately the previous government cut the number of case workers so the backlog is huge.

Unfortunately the current government is doing very little to stop the channel crossings and the numbers are going up.

suburburban · 17/10/2025 18:17

EasternStandard · 17/10/2025 18:04

Unfortunately the current government is doing very little to stop the channel crossings and the numbers are going up.

We’ve got a black hole in our finances and RR is busy trying to get more money out of the people here.

it’s unsustainable and unaffordable to keep on with this situation.

GeneralPeter · 17/10/2025 18:36

@mattbee You seemed to want a rational discussion. If I was wrong about that then we probably aren’t going to get much out of this exchange. Assuming you were sincere though, here we go:

Asylum seekers in the system are like 0.001% of the population.

Agree, it's a low percentage (about 0.16%, not 0.001%). The thread is about that though, so clearly not off-topic. (Parallel: the % of people who are Catholic priests is tiny, the vast majority of Catholic priests are not sexual abusers. But that doesn’t make shutting down discussion of the issue was right, I think).

Also, if there is a very different offending rate between two populations then introducing a high-offending group can have a big effect (Parallel: by counting some men’s violent crime as women’s, we change the “women’s” rate a lot. So the question is: are there identifiable groups that have massively higher offending rates? If so, we should care about it, even if the group is relatively small, and regardless of our political allegiances. Agree?).

You've shared one graph that shows conviction rates by nationality in Denmark for other nationalities that are at most <10% of the norm, excluding all the other nationalities that are <0%.

I’m not clear what you mean about <10% and <0%. I believe “conviction rate” here means % of the relevant population that has a conviction for a certain type of crime, as ratio of the rate for Danes. Underlying data from the Statistics Denmark dataset I believe (https://www.statbank.dk/20338).

You could argue courts are more enthusiastic about convicting other nationalities.

Implausible that this explains the full difference, I think. The system would need to be hugely and yet very selectively biased. Massive pro-Japanese bias, vs Danes. Pro-Philippine but anti-Burmese. Pro-Chinese but ten times more pro-Japanese, etc. Structural factors like differential reporting rates or prejudice can explain some of this, but not plausibly all of it I think. Also why would the baseline assumption be that rates would be the same? My baseline assumption would be that rates would be different -- we know that some countries are much safer than others, for example, and we know that cultures differ too.

You've also shared an extraordinary specific graph about suspects for gang rapes in Germany. If the police suspect “Africans”… what relevance is that to who committed a crime? And how many gang rapes does Germany actually investigate?

Yes, it’s just one crime type. Your objection here seems to be: “well, if you take any group you’ll be able to cherry-pick some type of crime that they are 23x overrepresented in”. Possibly, but if that crime is gang-rape, I think that’s worth knowing. It would be better to have better data though. (On how many: about 800 a year, per Google. Too many I think).

Like - I suspect people who post irrelevant crime data on immigration are motivated by being racist as fuck. But that's not the same as proving it.

Like paedophile priests, the important question is “is it true?” not “is it taboo?”. Knowing the answer to the second doesn’t tell us the answer to the first.

Sexual violence happens in families & communities, by people who know their victim.

What’s the implication here? “We” don’t need to worry about it, so it’s not an issue? Or that asylum seekers don’t have family & communities? Or that sexual assault there wouldn’t matter? I don’t get your point.

You say there's no data that makes your case in the UK, ignoring all the boringly inconclusive data from the Migration Observatory. So uh yeah - you're the one trying to make the extraordinary claim, you need to make the argument.

We don’t publish granular data like this — when other countries who do publish such data show very stark pattens I think it’s sensible to want to know more, not to rely on the fact we don’t report as a reason for comfort. Immigrants as a whole are not a high-crime group, as far as we can tell. You seem to think it's an "extraordinary claim" that some groups within that would have higher rates, especially when those groups are disproportionately young men from troubled places. I don't think that is an extraordinary claim (it is what a standard sociological model of crime would predict, for example, if poverty and deprivation drive crime, where should you expect to find the highest crime rates?). But I'd rather have the data.

Statistikbanken

https://www.statbank.dk/20338

BundleBoogie · 17/10/2025 18:46

mattbee · 17/10/2025 16:22

You've shared one graph that shows conviction rates by nationality in Denmark for other nationalities that are at most <10% of the norm, excluding all the other nationalities that are <0%. You could argue courts are more enthusiastic about convincting other nationalities, or they the police don't catch enough Danish suspects.

You've also shared an extraordinary specific graph about suspects for gang rapes in Germany. If the police suspect "Africans" (and I thought you said this said there was data here...) what relevance is that to who committed a crime? And how many gang rapes does Germany actually investigate?

Like - I suspect people who post irrelevant crime data on immigration are motivated by being racist as fuck. But that's not the same as proving it.

You say there's no data that makes your case in the UK, ignoring all the boringly inconclusive data from the Migration Observatory. So uh yeah - you're the one trying to make the extraordinary claim, you need to make the argument. But maybe on a board full of women - maybe just don't?

Sexual violence happens in families & communities, by people who know their victim. Asylum seekers in the system are like 0.001% of the population. It's the men you already know who will commit it - take a look around your friends, check their behaviour, and you'll have far more of an effect than posting this rubbish.

Sexual violence happens in families & communities, by people who know their victim. Asylum seekers in the system are like 0.001% of the population. It's the men you already know who will commit it - take a look around your friends, check their behaviour, and you'll have far more of an effect than posting this rubbish.

It’s clearly not always men we know. Stop trying to claim there is no risk to women of men coming here from countries where they don’t even know that raping women is illegal (if you believe their defence).

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cm2wmyln31po?app-referrer=deep-link

www.thetimes.com/uk/crime/article/rape-woman-hyde-park-terrorism-asylum-seeker-tm5xnpszg

Bigpinksweater · 17/10/2025 18:57

For all we know these men could also be inflicting sexual violence within their homes as well 🤷‍♀️ so ‘but people get attacked by their relatives’ etc is meaningless.

Stranger rapes are rare and make up 10% of reported rapes. They usually make the news as the perpetrator is not known to the victim and identification often needs public help and witnesses.

What I have noticed is that there seems to be a disproportionate number of these rapes committed by certain nationalities. Can I prove this? Not without official statistics, but apparently these are coming. I find it shocking they were not kept to start with. On this note I have also noticed the inverse trend with other groups - I only very rarely hear about a Chinese/Japanese/Fillipino/Vietnamese rapist, if ever.

5MinuteArgument · 17/10/2025 21:06

Hey, we've already got lots of rapists and murderers so it makes perfect sense to have more.

BundleBoogie · 17/10/2025 21:28

EasternStandard · 17/10/2025 18:04

Unfortunately the current government is doing very little to stop the channel crossings and the numbers are going up.

Another 880 this week. How many hotels and rental houses are they taking up by now?

That £6milliion per day will be significantly more by now.

AlternativeView · 17/10/2025 21:32

@Thedevilhasfinallycaughtupwithhim

Agree

5MinuteArgument · 17/10/2025 21:39

It's a scandal and all the useful idiots in govt, BBC etc are having to work ever harder to defend it. They're not affected by it, either financially or by seeing their neighbourhoods change.

They pretend there's no solution. But there is, they just lack the will.

Lavender14 · 17/10/2025 22:14

SwiftRecourse · 17/10/2025 01:00

Yes,I've heard it all now so that would definitely be amongst the excuses for justifying rape and violence I'm sure! I just can't get my head round posters with this type of twisted logic : do they genuinely believe their own words? It's taking feminism back a hundred years, but seemingly that's ok, because they're defending more ' worthwhile ' causes like undocumented males and the subsequent crimes against women some go on to commit. It's truly hateful and a slap in the face to families, such as poor Rhiannon s, who not only have to deal with their daughter being murdered but also the fact that a large section of society will DEFEND these hideous crimes.

I'm not defending hideous crimes ffs. This is quite simple well documented social science and it applies in every community. If you have ANY community of people affected by poverty, marginalisation and disillusionment then we know from research that there will be a clear correlation with increased rates of crime. That applies to every community we have, we know this, it's fact. It might not be palatable to you, but that doesn't make it any less true.

Why you think the research is only applicable to the men born here is beyond me? There are ways we can set our societies up that help prevent crime from a psychological perspective. When it comes to migrants and proper integration, our government are dropping the ball in this respect and then acting surprised by the consequences.

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