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To now be increasingly concerned about illegal boat arrivals

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CalmShaker · 14/10/2025 21:33

I've kept a level head with boat crossing arrivals but recently I've become concerned that there are some really unpleasant people being let in. This story was hard to watch on the news this evening;

Asylum seeker 'murdered hotel worker Rhiannon Whyte in frenzied attack' - BBC News https://share.google/qxzed2MD19TYPKasQ

I welcome genuine asylum but I don't believe that is what is happening anymore.
The story immediately before the above on national news this evening was the migrant who had threatened Nigel Farrage. I know Nigel is not the most popular of people but the migrant was horrid, clearly dangerous and not safe to be on our streets.
Financial cost and all other factors aside, it's the safety aspect that worry me most.

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PlaceIntheClouds · 17/10/2025 09:15

Happyher · 17/10/2025 09:04

Rape is rape who ever does it. Maybe if women were made more aware of familial rape by them being reported in the news they would fear the right people. Why is it only worthy of news and something we must fear when it’s by a stranger

Trivializing an abhorrent crime committed by some new arrivals because it is also committed by some existing nationals is a pretty sick way of looking at things in my opinion.

Acommonreader · 17/10/2025 09:16

CalmShaker · 14/10/2025 21:41

That seems to be the standard response but I'm finding that hard to continually accept.
What is the purpose of having background checks, rules, criminal history if someone can just bypass that and enter via boat. We are then told, it's fine statistically nothing will happen. But it is happening.

Do you know the criminal records and background of your neighbours, colleagues, postman, visiting tradesman , family members? No you don’t. So don’t pretend everyone in your life is somehow. ‘safe and approved’ because they have a passport.
I agree the news stories are tragic and awful but there are more in every local area where the perpetrators are British citizens.

Leavesfalling · 17/10/2025 09:26

Acommonreader · 17/10/2025 09:16

Do you know the criminal records and background of your neighbours, colleagues, postman, visiting tradesman , family members? No you don’t. So don’t pretend everyone in your life is somehow. ‘safe and approved’ because they have a passport.
I agree the news stories are tragic and awful but there are more in every local area where the perpetrators are British citizens.

This is just not a good enough argument. You are talking about people breaking into the country. Not the people who already live here. We can deal with our own criminals but we should be strict about who we let in so we don't bring in any more.

Our own criminals have a right to be here. Immigrant criminals don't.

PropertyD · 17/10/2025 09:27

Leavesfalling · 17/10/2025 09:09

Do we need to import more rapists? From countries where men have a very different view of women. Women like our daughters who may prefer to go out not covered from head to toe and are therefore fair game? Young men who may not come from countries where sex is liberal and women are allowed to say no?

You may like to pretend that most British men have the same attitude to women as a lot of the boat men but that is simply untrue. If we have been bringing up our boys in that way then we are all in trouble.

I am staggered by the people trying to excuse all of this and we should welcome these young men of whom we no nothing about. Men who have medivial views of women, who think their religous beliefs need to be forced on us. Who lie about the age.

Perhaps they would like to take a couple into their houses? I remember back when the Urkaine people were looking for people to host them whilst the war was going on. Its funny how people were saying of course they would host but.... always an excuse as to why others should do something.

I live in a desirable part of the UK. I know I do. Its a bubble. However I am originally from a large city and when I go back to visit I see how much it has changed for the worse.

EasternStandard · 17/10/2025 09:28

Acommonreader · 17/10/2025 09:16

Do you know the criminal records and background of your neighbours, colleagues, postman, visiting tradesman , family members? No you don’t. So don’t pretend everyone in your life is somehow. ‘safe and approved’ because they have a passport.
I agree the news stories are tragic and awful but there are more in every local area where the perpetrators are British citizens.

It still makes sense to check who enters, and that’s not possible with the current system.

User2025meow · 17/10/2025 10:05

Another poor woman gang-raped a few weeks ago by asylum seekers in Brighton.

https://www.standard.co.uk/news/crime/brighton-beach-rape-asylum-seeker-b1253367.html

It’s really simple- we don’t let in males from these North African and Middle Eastern countries because our cultures are incompatible. They do not recognize women’s rights in those countries and we need to protect the women here. I’m sorry if that means we can’t help some people from countries that may need it, but this is just common sense. We need to look after our citizens first and foremost. Our women’s safety here matters and must take precedence. It is extremely naive to think that these men will magically abandon the misogyny that they were raised in.

Woman 'raped on Brighton beach' by three asylum seekers

Three men have been remanded to appear at Lewes Crown Court

https://www.standard.co.uk/news/crime/brighton-beach-rape-asylum-seeker-b1253367.html

Bigpinksweater · 17/10/2025 10:12

Can anyone explain why if this isn’t related to culture etc, we never see similar stories of men from Hong Kong gang raping women (or raping them at all, really) or murdering anyone? Even though we have had 150,000 arrivals from HK since 2021?

suburburban · 17/10/2025 10:32

Smilersam · 17/10/2025 00:43

Look around you.
Government saying to have more Children to predominantly white families who cannot AFFORD this. Muslim families having 8 children at least, the Father allowed to marry 3 wives and all have 8 children each, that's 24 children all paid for by us tax payers. They are taking over, that's the Qurans goal - take over the Western world. It's such a shame you can't see it.

Yes submission to Islam by stealth and numbers

goodbye to our freedom of worship

Thedevilhasfinallycaughtupwithhim · 17/10/2025 12:39

SwiftRecourse · 17/10/2025 01:00

Yes,I've heard it all now so that would definitely be amongst the excuses for justifying rape and violence I'm sure! I just can't get my head round posters with this type of twisted logic : do they genuinely believe their own words? It's taking feminism back a hundred years, but seemingly that's ok, because they're defending more ' worthwhile ' causes like undocumented males and the subsequent crimes against women some go on to commit. It's truly hateful and a slap in the face to families, such as poor Rhiannon s, who not only have to deal with their daughter being murdered but also the fact that a large section of society will DEFEND these hideous crimes.

It doesn’t impact them.

They either work in a capacity in which they financially gain from the issue or they live in an affluent area which cushions them from the negative consequences.

dynamiccactus · 17/10/2025 12:44

MidnightPatrol · 14/10/2025 21:42

I think it’s a bit of distraction from the absolutely vast amount of legal migration going on, which we don’t seem to have a grip on at all and is responsible for vastly more new arrivals…!

But legal migration isn't an issue. We need those people, or we wouldn't be letting them in. It's not easy to come here legally. We didn't make it easy for Ukrainians either.

We have a housing crisis but we have enough houses. People need to give up their second, holiday and empty homes and we'll go a long way to housing everyone. And also stop people turning a 2 bed house into a 4 bed house - keep affordable homes affordable (relatively speaking).

I am not keen on a load of sexist men coming here. We have enough of our own, we don't need any more of them.

Diy322 · 17/10/2025 12:46

Don’t you all feel the government is trying to deflect our attention onto this issue rather than all the other shit that is happening and being done by labour? It’s a clever tactic and our people are very clever in blindsiding others. Look how the English being such a small place conquered nearly half the world! I would relax about this and think what they are trying to hide from you.

BundleBoogie · 17/10/2025 12:48

BluntPlumHam · 14/10/2025 21:35

Sigh. Here we go again. Op you’re more likely to be killed by your relative as in brother/husband or son than you are an asylum seeker.

Check the femicide stats from home office.

Having men that murder women in this country already is not an argument to let more murderous men in.

Obviously not all men on small boats are murderous or terrorists but some are.

If this man was at least detained while his ‘claim’ was processed (turns out he was a known terrorist from Egypt) , this poor woman wouldn’t had had her life turned upside down.

Why are some people so dismissive of the threat to women?

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c4gv24w9vr8o?app-referrer=deep-link

BundleBoogie · 17/10/2025 12:51

Diy322 · 17/10/2025 12:46

Don’t you all feel the government is trying to deflect our attention onto this issue rather than all the other shit that is happening and being done by labour? It’s a clever tactic and our people are very clever in blindsiding others. Look how the English being such a small place conquered nearly half the world! I would relax about this and think what they are trying to hide from you.

No. I don’t really listen to the government and it seems that they are just keen for it all to go away. Unfortunately that’s not going to happen.

Now the people traffickers their networks and business model firmly established, it till continue. How many undocumented men, some of whom are known terrorists, rapists and murderers who claim that they didn’t know rape was illegal here shall we let in to wander freely? A million, 2 million?

Bigpinksweater · 17/10/2025 12:52

Diy322 · 17/10/2025 12:46

Don’t you all feel the government is trying to deflect our attention onto this issue rather than all the other shit that is happening and being done by labour? It’s a clever tactic and our people are very clever in blindsiding others. Look how the English being such a small place conquered nearly half the world! I would relax about this and think what they are trying to hide from you.

No. If anything I think they desperately want this issue to go away as it will lose them the election to Reform.

Thedevilhasfinallycaughtupwithhim · 17/10/2025 12:52

Acommonreader · 17/10/2025 09:16

Do you know the criminal records and background of your neighbours, colleagues, postman, visiting tradesman , family members? No you don’t. So don’t pretend everyone in your life is somehow. ‘safe and approved’ because they have a passport.
I agree the news stories are tragic and awful but there are more in every local area where the perpetrators are British citizens.

The police would know though, wouldn’t they? And you’d be able to request information in line with Claire’s law. And the serial rapists and murderers would be in prison or being monitored.

Or do you think we should get rid of criminal records altogether? As you seem to think they pose no benefit to society

Bigpinksweater · 17/10/2025 12:53

dynamiccactus · 17/10/2025 12:44

But legal migration isn't an issue. We need those people, or we wouldn't be letting them in. It's not easy to come here legally. We didn't make it easy for Ukrainians either.

We have a housing crisis but we have enough houses. People need to give up their second, holiday and empty homes and we'll go a long way to housing everyone. And also stop people turning a 2 bed house into a 4 bed house - keep affordable homes affordable (relatively speaking).

I am not keen on a load of sexist men coming here. We have enough of our own, we don't need any more of them.

But we’ve let 8 million of them in and our NHS etc still needs people urgently apparently. So is it even working?

Leavesfalling · 17/10/2025 12:55

Diy322 · 17/10/2025 12:46

Don’t you all feel the government is trying to deflect our attention onto this issue rather than all the other shit that is happening and being done by labour? It’s a clever tactic and our people are very clever in blindsiding others. Look how the English being such a small place conquered nearly half the world! I would relax about this and think what they are trying to hide from you.

Well sort of apart from people can generally see what is happening around them? So no deflection would really work.

GeneralPeter · 17/10/2025 13:19

mattbee · 14/10/2025 21:47

Almost all migrants arriving by irregular means make a formal asylum claim. They are in the system. They don't bypass anything.

Are you certain you're not irrationally overestimating the risk of violence from people who don't look like you?

I think you are right to want to follow the evidence.

The UK doesn’t make it easy to do so, but other European countries do publish violent crime data by national origin.

Some origins are lower than British nationals in perpetrator rate (about a third of them). But countries from which UK illegal immigration comes are almost all higher offending. And the countries near the top are massive higher offending.

Unless we have good reason to think that we are getting an extremely differently-filtered group from those countries of origin (or that German and Danish police are absurdly biased against certain countries’ immigrants but not others), I think our base assumption should be that those countries’ immigrants are much higher offending than average here too.

Would you disagree, and if so why?

We aren’t talking a little more likely, we are talking many times the offending rate. We’d have to have pattens totally different from Germany and Denmark for your intuition to be correct.

(Not true of immigrants as whole, but that not the OP’s claim).

To now be increasingly concerned about illegal boat arrivals
To now be increasingly concerned about illegal boat arrivals
mattbee · 17/10/2025 16:22

GeneralPeter · 17/10/2025 13:19

I think you are right to want to follow the evidence.

The UK doesn’t make it easy to do so, but other European countries do publish violent crime data by national origin.

Some origins are lower than British nationals in perpetrator rate (about a third of them). But countries from which UK illegal immigration comes are almost all higher offending. And the countries near the top are massive higher offending.

Unless we have good reason to think that we are getting an extremely differently-filtered group from those countries of origin (or that German and Danish police are absurdly biased against certain countries’ immigrants but not others), I think our base assumption should be that those countries’ immigrants are much higher offending than average here too.

Would you disagree, and if so why?

We aren’t talking a little more likely, we are talking many times the offending rate. We’d have to have pattens totally different from Germany and Denmark for your intuition to be correct.

(Not true of immigrants as whole, but that not the OP’s claim).

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You've shared one graph that shows conviction rates by nationality in Denmark for other nationalities that are at most <10% of the norm, excluding all the other nationalities that are <0%. You could argue courts are more enthusiastic about convincting other nationalities, or they the police don't catch enough Danish suspects.

You've also shared an extraordinary specific graph about suspects for gang rapes in Germany. If the police suspect "Africans" (and I thought you said this said there was data here...) what relevance is that to who committed a crime? And how many gang rapes does Germany actually investigate?

Like - I suspect people who post irrelevant crime data on immigration are motivated by being racist as fuck. But that's not the same as proving it.

You say there's no data that makes your case in the UK, ignoring all the boringly inconclusive data from the Migration Observatory. So uh yeah - you're the one trying to make the extraordinary claim, you need to make the argument. But maybe on a board full of women - maybe just don't?

Sexual violence happens in families & communities, by people who know their victim. Asylum seekers in the system are like 0.001% of the population. It's the men you already know who will commit it - take a look around your friends, check their behaviour, and you'll have far more of an effect than posting this rubbish.

lambdressedasspam · 17/10/2025 16:28

ThesebeautifulthingsthatIvegot · 17/10/2025 07:27

These hotels have been repurposed to house people who left their homes for various reasons. They felt strongly enough that their life changes were bad enough in their home countries that they were willing to travel across the world to a country that they most likely know will not welcome them with open arms.

They then undertook a journey fraught with risks. They travelled through countries where they knew their chance of asylum was low. They came across the English channel on a boat, where they know there is a risk of death.

Then they were detained for months. It's a hotel that's been repurposed to house asylum seekers. It's not the Hilton. They will have met people who were then deported - 32% of asylum claims are rejected of those arrivals on small boats. They have no rights in this country beyond basic human rights. Asylum seekers are in hotels for detention. To contain them.

I don't know about you but that's a lot of things that I've never experienced. I am not saying that it justifies any crime, but it does explain why so many asylum seekers take their own lives.

While any one murder is utterly unacceptable, the wider picture is that asylum seekers and migrants commit fewer crimes than people born in the UK.

Young men of all backgrounds love adventure and bravado. 99% of them don't die, there's very little real risk and seen it's a badge of honor.
Plus they are actively told by NGOs and people smuggler's that Britain is paved with gold and preferable promised land.
They are also told that white people owe them something.

I know people who have volunteered at the mirgrant camps and this is the narrative these guys are fed.

White people who want to 'be kind' are woefully naive.

They are ecomonics migrants happy to leave their wider families because they want what is perceived as a better quality of life and they openly laugh at the uk for being so stupid.

This is engineered by corporate interests who are doing land grabs around mineral rich areas - they don't want to pay the people a fair price for there own countries wealth and they contuine to carve it up for themselves. Its 'late stage capitalism'

Netcurtainnelly · 17/10/2025 16:30

Acommonreader · 17/10/2025 09:16

Do you know the criminal records and background of your neighbours, colleagues, postman, visiting tradesman , family members? No you don’t. So don’t pretend everyone in your life is somehow. ‘safe and approved’ because they have a passport.
I agree the news stories are tragic and awful but there are more in every local area where the perpetrators are British citizens.

So if we have already got our own criminals, why do we need more.

We don't want other people's rejects.

mattbee · 17/10/2025 16:35

Netcurtainnelly · 17/10/2025 16:30

So if we have already got our own criminals, why do we need more.

We don't want other people's rejects.

This is a disgusting attitude. Why would you think they're more likely to be criminals? Their asylum claims depend on not offending.

Bigpinksweater · 17/10/2025 16:36

lambdressedasspam · 17/10/2025 16:28

Young men of all backgrounds love adventure and bravado. 99% of them don't die, there's very little real risk and seen it's a badge of honor.
Plus they are actively told by NGOs and people smuggler's that Britain is paved with gold and preferable promised land.
They are also told that white people owe them something.

I know people who have volunteered at the mirgrant camps and this is the narrative these guys are fed.

White people who want to 'be kind' are woefully naive.

They are ecomonics migrants happy to leave their wider families because they want what is perceived as a better quality of life and they openly laugh at the uk for being so stupid.

This is engineered by corporate interests who are doing land grabs around mineral rich areas - they don't want to pay the people a fair price for there own countries wealth and they contuine to carve it up for themselves. Its 'late stage capitalism'

A version of events supported by the fact the murdered lady was called a ‘fucking bitch’ for giving one of them to ‘wrong’ free biscuits.

This alone makes me furious for some reason.

ThesebeautifulthingsthatIvegot · 17/10/2025 16:41

lambdressedasspam · 17/10/2025 16:28

Young men of all backgrounds love adventure and bravado. 99% of them don't die, there's very little real risk and seen it's a badge of honor.
Plus they are actively told by NGOs and people smuggler's that Britain is paved with gold and preferable promised land.
They are also told that white people owe them something.

I know people who have volunteered at the mirgrant camps and this is the narrative these guys are fed.

White people who want to 'be kind' are woefully naive.

They are ecomonics migrants happy to leave their wider families because they want what is perceived as a better quality of life and they openly laugh at the uk for being so stupid.

This is engineered by corporate interests who are doing land grabs around mineral rich areas - they don't want to pay the people a fair price for there own countries wealth and they contuine to carve it up for themselves. Its 'late stage capitalism'

Your friends who have worked with migrants have very different experiences to mine.

EasternStandard · 17/10/2025 16:44

mattbee · 17/10/2025 16:22

You've shared one graph that shows conviction rates by nationality in Denmark for other nationalities that are at most <10% of the norm, excluding all the other nationalities that are <0%. You could argue courts are more enthusiastic about convincting other nationalities, or they the police don't catch enough Danish suspects.

You've also shared an extraordinary specific graph about suspects for gang rapes in Germany. If the police suspect "Africans" (and I thought you said this said there was data here...) what relevance is that to who committed a crime? And how many gang rapes does Germany actually investigate?

Like - I suspect people who post irrelevant crime data on immigration are motivated by being racist as fuck. But that's not the same as proving it.

You say there's no data that makes your case in the UK, ignoring all the boringly inconclusive data from the Migration Observatory. So uh yeah - you're the one trying to make the extraordinary claim, you need to make the argument. But maybe on a board full of women - maybe just don't?

Sexual violence happens in families & communities, by people who know their victim. Asylum seekers in the system are like 0.001% of the population. It's the men you already know who will commit it - take a look around your friends, check their behaviour, and you'll have far more of an effect than posting this rubbish.

A better system would actually check who enters,

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