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To now be increasingly concerned about illegal boat arrivals

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CalmShaker · 14/10/2025 21:33

I've kept a level head with boat crossing arrivals but recently I've become concerned that there are some really unpleasant people being let in. This story was hard to watch on the news this evening;

Asylum seeker 'murdered hotel worker Rhiannon Whyte in frenzied attack' - BBC News https://share.google/qxzed2MD19TYPKasQ

I welcome genuine asylum but I don't believe that is what is happening anymore.
The story immediately before the above on national news this evening was the migrant who had threatened Nigel Farrage. I know Nigel is not the most popular of people but the migrant was horrid, clearly dangerous and not safe to be on our streets.
Financial cost and all other factors aside, it's the safety aspect that worry me most.

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Ineedadvicee · 15/10/2025 07:03

To now be increasingly concerned about illegal boat arrivals

Aren’t we all… but like the rest of us, you must learn to accept that it won’t be changing any time soon

PropertyD · 15/10/2025 07:03

Lavender14 · 15/10/2025 00:08

I know it's not funny are you kidding me? There are very good reasons why we cannot 'make' safe routes for only women and children because someone needs to get here in order to make the initial claim- that is what creates the safe route. If you shut down access to men you will essentially be closing the door to those women and children. There have also been women seeking asylum who have murdered other women here? Should we send the children alone? Oh no wait, children have also been involved in violent crime. This is how trauma works. You cannot take in traumatised and vulnerable people and then not expect traumatised behaviours. What is needed to counteract that is integration into society, access to money and employment or education for routine, stable and safe accommodation, safety in society (acceptance from and connection to society), and access to support services and healthcare. Our government has systematically ruined the provision we have here and instead of holding their hands up it was so much easier at election time to drive the rhetoric of "illegal migrants" which is a nonsense term.

Obviously rape is inherently a male crime, and there needs to be significant work around integration done which isn't being funded or delivered to any real extent like it should be. But you cannot deny one person's human rights just because someone else did a bad thing. If we operated like that all of us would be in prison because that's a global crime that is not unique to any migrant.

Are you serious with these comments?

Bigpinksweater · 15/10/2025 07:04

@Kimura theyre forced to stab people to death and rape women because they’re sad at living in a hotel room with 3 meals per day having allegedly fled an awful regime where they had no quality of life?

I wasn’t born yesterday.

Bigpinksweater · 15/10/2025 07:05

PropertyD · 15/10/2025 07:03

Are you serious with these comments?

They’re the equivalent of the people convincing us transwomen raping women in jail is worth it ‘for the greater good’

So messed up they’re barely worth replying to.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 15/10/2025 07:06

Look at the polls today re. Reform outperforming ca all other parties by a staggering amount. Uncontrolled immigration will be the thing that ushers in a far right government for the UK and potentially the same swing will impact Europe as a whole. All I see is a future of rioting and protests in our green and pleasant land.

40andlovelife · 15/10/2025 07:08

BluntPlumHam · 14/10/2025 21:35

Sigh. Here we go again. Op you’re more likely to be killed by your relative as in brother/husband or son than you are an asylum seeker.

Check the femicide stats from home office.

Hence the reason we don’t want want to increase the numbers of men who pose a threat.

Thedevilhasfinallycaughtupwithhim · 15/10/2025 07:09

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 15/10/2025 07:06

Look at the polls today re. Reform outperforming ca all other parties by a staggering amount. Uncontrolled immigration will be the thing that ushers in a far right government for the UK and potentially the same swing will impact Europe as a whole. All I see is a future of rioting and protests in our green and pleasant land.

I completely agree.
We are in the last few months of being able to do something to stop that but we’re still being told that we’re hateful bigots for wanting to minimise the risk and damage to our communities that tens of thousands of undocumented men arriving to our communities brings.

Pricelessadvice · 15/10/2025 07:12

All the people on this thread rolling their eyes and saying you’re more likely to be killed by someone you know, I bet you’d be thinking a bit differently if this lady was a member of your family. Your sister, daughter, niece…

We are letting people into this country who we have no information about. Thousands of them.
If one of them murders a member of your family, let’s see how much you want to defend them then.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 15/10/2025 07:13

This really is Brexit part two to my mind. Lots of voices telling the majority what the right and morally correct opinion is and then those people go to the ballot box and tick the opinion they actually have. You can shut people’s voices down but you can’t stop them from expressing it when it comes to voting anonymously.

Leavesfalling · 15/10/2025 07:17

IdaGlossop · 14/10/2025 22:56

My views on this may surprise you. I too have had enough. The issue of irregular migration is deeply problematic, not least because we are not living in a time of plenty. But it is demonising migrants that is immoral. I think that the government should have opened legal routes for asylum seekers at least five years ago; that it should have decreed that people coming illegally would not be granted asylum; that irregular migrants should be housed on Ministry of Defence property and that hotels and IMOs should never have been used.

"We are all not as heartless and lacking in imagination as you". Which you wrote as part of your argument for some peculiar reason.

""Heartless and lacking in imagination " could be said about people who see the interests of asylum seekers as more important than the people of the UK.

Bigpinksweater · 15/10/2025 07:20

Leavesfalling · 15/10/2025 07:17

"We are all not as heartless and lacking in imagination as you". Which you wrote as part of your argument for some peculiar reason.

""Heartless and lacking in imagination " could be said about people who see the interests of asylum seekers as more important than the people of the UK.

I would love to know where this ends in their mind (or doesn’t). When our population is 100 million? When the country is 50% Islamic? When slowly but surely our culture changes to reflect the culture in their countries of origin? When the country resembles a city state? Is there ever going to be a limit? They won’t answer but I can ask

jiyg · 15/10/2025 07:22

Bigpinksweater · 15/10/2025 07:00

Yes same. The desperate few still trying to convince everyone hundreds of unvetted men arriving a day is a positive are either people who have personal or cultural interests in ensuring immigration is never questioned, or useful idiots who get angry and resort to personal insults the moment you outline your concerns.

Luckily the ice is melting and people’s concern for our country is now outweighing their fear of being labelled a bigot, like with trans.

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Leavesfalling · 15/10/2025 07:25

Bigpinksweater · 15/10/2025 07:20

I would love to know where this ends in their mind (or doesn’t). When our population is 100 million? When the country is 50% Islamic? When slowly but surely our culture changes to reflect the culture in their countries of origin? When the country resembles a city state? Is there ever going to be a limit? They won’t answer but I can ask

This is why (although I'm obviously not accusing anyone here) I think Russian mumsnet bots exist. No one reasonable in the real world thinks like that. Unless they r9eally are living in a lovely bubble in Islington.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 15/10/2025 07:28

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 15/10/2025 07:13

This really is Brexit part two to my mind. Lots of voices telling the majority what the right and morally correct opinion is and then those people go to the ballot box and tick the opinion they actually have. You can shut people’s voices down but you can’t stop them from expressing it when it comes to voting anonymously.

Why do people on the right always claim that people are trying to shut their voices down? Who is trying to do that and what's your actual evidence for it?

If I say that I think something is morally wrong, or racist, or whatever, it isn't because I want to silence you, and it doesn't have the effect of silencing you. It is simply because I think it's morally wrong, or racist, or whatever.

Am I not allowed my freedom of expression to express that view? I do acknowledge that some of what I say might make you feel uncomfortable, but I don't see how that equates to shutting your voice down? You are equally entitled to express your own perspective, and I haven't seen any evidence of anyone trying to stop you?

Obviously, we have laws against hate speech and incitement to violence, so I guess that shuts people down to a certain extent, but beyond that, who is actually trying to shut your voice down and what are they doing to achieve this?

eroberts77 · 15/10/2025 07:29

Bigpinksweater · 14/10/2025 21:42

Ignore the accusations of bigotry, everyone else is! A thought terminating cliche used to suppress debate at all costs.

100% this.

Leavesfalling · 15/10/2025 07:34

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 15/10/2025 07:28

Why do people on the right always claim that people are trying to shut their voices down? Who is trying to do that and what's your actual evidence for it?

If I say that I think something is morally wrong, or racist, or whatever, it isn't because I want to silence you, and it doesn't have the effect of silencing you. It is simply because I think it's morally wrong, or racist, or whatever.

Am I not allowed my freedom of expression to express that view? I do acknowledge that some of what I say might make you feel uncomfortable, but I don't see how that equates to shutting your voice down? You are equally entitled to express your own perspective, and I haven't seen any evidence of anyone trying to stop you?

Obviously, we have laws against hate speech and incitement to violence, so I guess that shuts people down to a certain extent, but beyond that, who is actually trying to shut your voice down and what are they doing to achieve this?

Calling someone a racist is highly offensive. You can easily shut someone down (or you used to be able to) by accusing them of racisim or being a Nazi. It has terrible connotations. Like calling someone a paedophile.

Those sorts of wild insults have no place in a reasonable argument and the aim of the person saying it is not to have a reasoned debate but to attack someone personally (someone they don't know) so they stop saying what they are saying.

These days of course it doesn't work as we are all massive racists and bigots apparently, so no one cares anymore.

Bigpinksweater · 15/10/2025 07:34

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 15/10/2025 07:28

Why do people on the right always claim that people are trying to shut their voices down? Who is trying to do that and what's your actual evidence for it?

If I say that I think something is morally wrong, or racist, or whatever, it isn't because I want to silence you, and it doesn't have the effect of silencing you. It is simply because I think it's morally wrong, or racist, or whatever.

Am I not allowed my freedom of expression to express that view? I do acknowledge that some of what I say might make you feel uncomfortable, but I don't see how that equates to shutting your voice down? You are equally entitled to express your own perspective, and I haven't seen any evidence of anyone trying to stop you?

Obviously, we have laws against hate speech and incitement to violence, so I guess that shuts people down to a certain extent, but beyond that, who is actually trying to shut your voice down and what are they doing to achieve this?

You’ve clearly never been called a bigot or racist have you? And while you’ll reply ‘no, I wonder why..’ the reality is any person who has raised concerns about this - without mentioning race, religion, or nationality - has uniformly been called a racist or bigot for 40 years now. Yet everything they have been concerned about has come true. Immigration has solved nothing and turned this country into a tinder pot of anger and division.

Bigpinksweater · 15/10/2025 07:35

Leavesfalling · 15/10/2025 07:34

Calling someone a racist is highly offensive. You can easily shut someone down (or you used to be able to) by accusing them of racisim or being a Nazi. It has terrible connotations. Like calling someone a paedophile.

Those sorts of wild insults have no place in a reasonable argument and the aim of the person saying it is not to have a reasoned debate but to attack someone personally (someone they don't know) so they stop saying what they are saying.

These days of course it doesn't work as we are all massive racists and bigots apparently, so no one cares anymore.

Quite. They’ve shot themselves in the foot by crying wolf over and over. They moan about the right being emboldened while insulting them so much they’re utterly desensitised to it after a few decades.

Lavender14 · 15/10/2025 07:37

Whistledown2 · 15/10/2025 04:26

can someone tell me where the money comes from to accommodate the illegal immigrants?

Can someone explain why our homeless are not being given (free) accommodation with food, regular health checks etc?

We are bursting at the seams here. I cannot believe people can’t see that.

They are predominantly young men who were safe in all the countries they passed through.

Statistics and figures can be (and are) massaged to fit a narrative.

Our homeless are given free accommodation if they have complex needs (seeking asylum is a complex need but once an asylum seeker has their status and turns 18 they are not entitled to accommodation outside of a hostel unless there is other evidence of vulnerability) asylum seekers are provided with health checks initially and there may be schemes in place for those being moved around a lot. There are also health check schemes in place with other hostels etc where I live that other homeless people can access. Asylum seekers are not provided with free food unless being accommodated in a hotel. This is also done for other homeless people with complex needs or homeless families as you don't have access to cooking facilities in a hotel and they couldn't afford to eat out every day on their allowance which is less than uc for the average person.

If you are a migrant not seeking asylum and not working then you are entitled to absolutely nothing.

"They are predominantly young men who were safe in all the countries they passed through." This is untrue, other countries in Europe are guilty of illegal pushbacks, would quite literally leave people to drown, do not have adequate provision of safe accommodation and people are exploited by traffickers and gangs in those countries as well. But often, families make a plan for where they are going to reunite and then get separated on the journey, so there is a push to still make it to where they said they will reunite. Or they'll aim for somewhere where they know others have made it before and where they have connections.

Again as has been said a million times so I don't know why it keeps needing to be said - who are you classing as an illegal immigrant? Because asylum seekers entering by small boats CANNOT be illegal unless their claim for refugee status has been declined and they have avoided deportation. Migrants coming on work visaa or study visas are not illegal unless they outstay their visa. Actual true illegal immigrants are an extremely small percentage of immigrants.

Leavesfalling · 15/10/2025 07:38

Bigpinksweater · 15/10/2025 07:35

Quite. They’ve shot themselves in the foot by crying wolf over and over. They moan about the right being emboldened while insulting them so much they’re utterly desensitised to it after a few decades.

I could accuse someone of being a massive twat (thinking about some of the views on here), but I don't because it's not very polite or productive in a debate. I wish other people would also refrain from using personal insults like "racist" too.

SpaceRaccoon · 15/10/2025 07:39

Ah, the old "British men rape and murder so what's a few more with much higher offending likelihood" argument.

Lavender14 · 15/10/2025 07:39

Pricelessadvice · 15/10/2025 07:12

All the people on this thread rolling their eyes and saying you’re more likely to be killed by someone you know, I bet you’d be thinking a bit differently if this lady was a member of your family. Your sister, daughter, niece…

We are letting people into this country who we have no information about. Thousands of them.
If one of them murders a member of your family, let’s see how much you want to defend them then.

I'd like to think that I would still have the critical thinking capacity to understand that the actions of one person is not reflective of an entire population. But then I have the added advantage of knowing loads of asylum seekers and refugees who are all decent, lovely people which helps counteract the hysteria that's being whipped up by the media.

Bigpinksweater · 15/10/2025 07:41

Lavender14 · 15/10/2025 07:39

I'd like to think that I would still have the critical thinking capacity to understand that the actions of one person is not reflective of an entire population. But then I have the added advantage of knowing loads of asylum seekers and refugees who are all decent, lovely people which helps counteract the hysteria that's being whipped up by the media.

So you’re fine with transwomen sharing our spaces?

Leavesfalling · 15/10/2025 07:41

Lavender14 · 15/10/2025 07:37

Our homeless are given free accommodation if they have complex needs (seeking asylum is a complex need but once an asylum seeker has their status and turns 18 they are not entitled to accommodation outside of a hostel unless there is other evidence of vulnerability) asylum seekers are provided with health checks initially and there may be schemes in place for those being moved around a lot. There are also health check schemes in place with other hostels etc where I live that other homeless people can access. Asylum seekers are not provided with free food unless being accommodated in a hotel. This is also done for other homeless people with complex needs or homeless families as you don't have access to cooking facilities in a hotel and they couldn't afford to eat out every day on their allowance which is less than uc for the average person.

If you are a migrant not seeking asylum and not working then you are entitled to absolutely nothing.

"They are predominantly young men who were safe in all the countries they passed through." This is untrue, other countries in Europe are guilty of illegal pushbacks, would quite literally leave people to drown, do not have adequate provision of safe accommodation and people are exploited by traffickers and gangs in those countries as well. But often, families make a plan for where they are going to reunite and then get separated on the journey, so there is a push to still make it to where they said they will reunite. Or they'll aim for somewhere where they know others have made it before and where they have connections.

Again as has been said a million times so I don't know why it keeps needing to be said - who are you classing as an illegal immigrant? Because asylum seekers entering by small boats CANNOT be illegal unless their claim for refugee status has been declined and they have avoided deportation. Migrants coming on work visaa or study visas are not illegal unless they outstay their visa. Actual true illegal immigrants are an extremely small percentage of immigrants.

When you say "free" accommodation and "free" food it's not actually free though is it? Unless magic happened? It's paid for by the rest of us.

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