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To think it is outrageous to ban women and girls over 13 from a fun run?

328 replies

Lex345 · 14/10/2025 07:32

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c1kwk1204jno

I just caught this on the news-the article isn't clear on the justification for this-but this isn't OK is it?

OP posts:
JamieCannister · 14/10/2025 15:18

Pharazon · 14/10/2025 13:17

Well, the police would not be interested as discrimination is not a criminal offence.
Individuals can seek assistance from the EHRC but it typically only uses its enforcement powers against public bodies and doesn't get involved as a primary plaintiff in cases against private organisations unless they are particularly complex or high profile (although it can advise). It's basically down to the individual, same as any other civil case.

Yes, and I am saying this is wrong.

JHound · 14/10/2025 15:19

EasternStandard · 14/10/2025 15:18

Sigh, shrug. All very compelling on why you don’t care.

Thankfully mn has pp who do post for women and girls.

The reasons why I don't care were very explicitly stated. If you chose not to read that that's your affair.

JHound · 14/10/2025 15:21

Tryonemoretime · 14/10/2025 12:26

Isn't the difference that no males of any age can join the women's running club? They are not specifically allowed when under 13 and then banned when they hit puberty?

So had they banned all girls and women from the fun run posters here would have been ok....

Sure.

EasternStandard · 14/10/2025 15:21

JHound · 14/10/2025 15:18

Are you SURE you don't want the White Saviours to swoop in and save you..?! 😁

Edited

We’re not. As pp have said.

RawBloomers · 14/10/2025 15:26

lifeturnsonadime · 14/10/2025 11:18

Single sex spaces are allowed if they are a proportionate means of achieving a legitimate aim.

This clearly applies to women's only running clubs. Some women may feel uncomfortable, for many reasons including religious ones, with participating in groups with men.

This 'fun' run isn't operating a single sex event. It is allowing girls under the age of 12 to participate. There is no 'legitimate' aim in excluding women and girls above the age of 12.

HTH

I don’t think this is a reasonable analysis.

A lot of single sex spaces allow young boys, the age range is normally under 8 but that’s not exactly fixed in stone and if slightly older girls are not a problem for this particular activity, then an older age cut off is as reasonable as 8.

One reason given for women only provision is so that women of religions that have prohibitions on men and women mixing can participate. This is frequently used for sport and fitness provision. Are men of religions where men and women can’t mix not also allowed single sex provision where they can participate?

I’m not sure I find the religious exception appropriate, it’s one of those ways I think religion has been a bane of modern civilization, Christianity has pushed it in the past, but it doesn’t seem to be a central tenant and pressure has died off of late as women’s rights have gained more respect. The very visible separation in Islam bothers me and certainly adds to my hostility to the religion gaining influence on British culture (as an atheist I’m somewhat hostile to any religion having influence on British culture). But the law allows it and it is often used in feminist arguments for single sex provision. I don’t really see how this would be different.

KitWyn · 14/10/2025 15:27

JHound · 14/10/2025 15:18

Are you SURE you don't want the White Saviours to swoop in and save you..?! 😁

Edited

You may not care about the rights of British women and girls to be treated as equals to men and boys. A significant number of British women did not support the introduction of votes for women in 1918. There are useful idiots in all sections of societies across all countries.

Many people, of all ethnicities and all religions or no religion at all, do care. And we will continue to care, and push back against sexism in our country.

Another2Cats · 14/10/2025 15:31

Ddakji · 14/10/2025 14:04

Naomi Cunningham (who does know all about the EA) has posted in LinkedIn that while this is “thoroughly unattractive” (great phrasing!) it’s not clear that it’s unlawful.

I'm not on LinkedIn so have no idea what she said. As @AzurePanda said, on its face it does appear that it is unlawful.

I think that NC is right that it's not "clear" (as in 100% obviously unlawful), depending on how they argue it but that would take a court to decide.

I have no idea what NC said but I would imagine that since Section 193(7) of the Equality Act allows charities to run single-sex events the mosque might argue that they did not hold one fun-run but, in fact were running two separate events; a mens only fun run and, separately, a childrens under 12 fun-run.

If they had actually done that, then that would likely be lawful.

But they certainly didn't advertise it as such and if it came to a court case they would have to prove that they did in fact organise it as two separate events rather than just one.

TheCrenchinglyMcQuaffenBrothers · 14/10/2025 15:36

JHound · 14/10/2025 15:21

So had they banned all girls and women from the fun run posters here would have been ok....

Sure.

Are you another one struggling with the basic concept of the Equality Act, it's exemptions, and the reasons for the exemptions that have to be evidenced to be lawful?

edited to add... Ah, I've just seen your post of 14.36, so now I know that you are, indeed, struggling with the basic concept.

BaskervilleOldFace · 14/10/2025 15:55

Short answer to OP: yes.

Humdingerydoo · 14/10/2025 16:17

JHound · 14/10/2025 15:18

Are you SURE you don't want the White Saviours to swoop in and save you..?! 😁

Edited

She doesn't need saving, she's not even in the UK. She's just doing that thing where she pretends to have the moral high-ground while talking for other people, while criticising others for doing the exact same thing.

BundleBoogie · 14/10/2025 16:19

ProfoundlyPeculiarAndWeird · 14/10/2025 07:48

So many threads started about this. Is it the first year that the event has run, or is it that there are far more powerful social media currents now that give impetus to any news hook for viral outrage about something connected with Islam?

Not saying that you as an individual are fomenting outrage, OP. Just wondering about the online tides that wash numbers of such threads onto MN. Some of the posts on one of the recent threads showed such strong hostility to Islam, much stronger than would have been expressed a few years ago.

The only odd thing about these threads is the willingness to defend misogyny and discrimination against women just because they are born into a particular religion.

The barriers to leave the Muslim faith are high. My friend had to accept that her family would cut her off as if she was dead when she wanted to live her life in freedom. Some women are killed.

Why do so many people not think that largely brown or black women deserve the same rights and protections as the rest of us?

BundleBoogie · 14/10/2025 16:27

Plantine · 14/10/2025 08:54

Here are my two cents as a Muslim woman:

We don't want or need saving from (usually) privileged white women that

  1. Have no real comprehension of Islam, Muslim communities, or Muslim women
  2. Seemingly have nothing better to do with their precious time than to disguise their disdain for our religion and our community behind a faux "worry" about us Muslim women, and about the ways we are supposedly oppressed and discriminated against. If you are genuinely that worried about us, how about telling YOUR men, white men, to stop harrassing us, to stop verbally abuse us, and to stop pulling our scarves off our heads? That, we would actually appreciate. Complaining about a charity run doesn't help us, or makes any difference to us in any meaningful way. If we, ourselves, really had a problem with this run, I can assure you that we, Muslim women, are more than capable of speaking up for ourselves - we don't want or need your "help", or for you to speak for us on this matter. I'm so sick and tired of women outside our community picking our battles for us...just, leave us alone! Let US decide what to fight for, not you! You have problems with female injustice and discrimination in your own communities, focus on that instead of on us.

Also, let's be honest: how many of you who are so outraged and angry on our behalf ACTUALLY had a genuine intention of participating in this run? None of you did. You clearly just want to be angry about something that relates to Muslims. Well done.

Please take your "worry", anger and battle elsewhere, we don't want it from you.

How do you feel as a Muslim woman that you have access to the internet when your Muslim sisters in Afghanistan have had their access removed in the name of Islam?

If you are in the UK, your basic human rights are pretty much protected by UK and EU law. There are constant moves to undermine those rights by certain men. Do you think it is ok to undermine your rights as a Muslim woman in the name of religious belief?

BundleBoogie · 14/10/2025 16:33

Plantine · 14/10/2025 09:26

Oh, please, get off your high horse. Your men are abandoning your children, leaving them essentially fatherless and neglected in every way possible, and you have the audacity to sit there and talk to me about gender equality, respect and tolerance? I don't live in the UK, but from where I'm standing your society is not as great and ideal as you think it is.

“Your men”? What do you mean?

If you don’t live here what business is it of yours what we talk about? If you are not interested in the topic just scroll past. Attempts to silence us don’t work any more. We WILL discuss things that happen in our society.

BundleBoogie · 14/10/2025 16:46

SweetTalkinWookie · 14/10/2025 10:51

Have any women who wanted to take part in the race shown up yet, or is this still just a platform to flout thinly veiled Islamaphobia?

Can you explain how it is Islamophobic to object to women being excluded from a ‘family’ event?

Does that mean that some things done in the name of Islam are anti women? Oh wait…

InThisProcess · 14/10/2025 16:54

I just wanted to mention that not all Muslims are the same!

I am def Muslim but not super-religious. I don’t wear a hijab and I don’t keep to all the rules, though I don’t eat pork or drink alcohol. I wear what I want, go out and lead a pretty western life. My mum is religious but let me make my own decisions thankfully. No disowning etc.

When looking for prayer times for my mum a few years back, I looked at this website as it is her nearest mosque. I did a double-take when I saw women weren’t allowed to run and felt quite irritated. I am not displeased that it’s got attention now.

My adult nieces are in their 20s. One married and one not. Both religious and wear hijabs. Working women. Lots of Muslim and non-Muslim friends. Happy to have a laugh and gossip about Strictly etc. Both regularly do the Manchester 10k run and laugh at themselves, calling themselves ‘the unfit hijabis’! The Muslim husband of one looks after their two kids happily whilst his wife runs the race.

My point is, that Muslims come with all sorts of views and behaviours. Please don’t think we all are ok with this. Many of us like to keep active. My religious nieces love a charity run and will continue to do so.

My guess is that many of the women closely affiliated with this mosque may not wish to participate in the run. I feel for those that do though.

And fwiw we don’t all hate white English men. I am married to one…

Pharazon · 14/10/2025 17:16

JHound · 14/10/2025 15:21

So had they banned all girls and women from the fun run posters here would have been ok....

Sure.

Single sex sports events happen all round the country every single day.

LadyGreyjoy · 14/10/2025 17:31

Plantine · 14/10/2025 11:06

How's the exlusion illegal? None of you have actually shared any laws that indicate this organisation is doing anything illegal. You're offended, which is your perogative. But that doesn't mean the organisation is doing anything wrong.

Bloody hell. It has been explained to you MANY times!

Excluding only one group of people with a shared protected characteristic, in this case women, from an event whilst allowing all other groups to attend (men, boys, girls) violates the equality act in the UK. That is breaking the law.

If it was a mens only run that would be fine because they are using the single sex exemption. But allowing men boys and girls is not using the single sex exemption, it's just excluding one group in a discriminatory way. It's illegal.

MissKitty0 · 14/10/2025 17:43

@Plantine Why do you live in a majority white Christian country if you’re so disparaging about white people?

InThisProcess · 14/10/2025 17:49

MissKitty0 · 14/10/2025 17:43

@Plantine Why do you live in a majority white Christian country if you’re so disparaging about white people?

She doesn’t. She lives in the Middle East.

Theresabatinmykitchen · 14/10/2025 17:57

InThisProcess · 14/10/2025 17:49

She doesn’t. She lives in the Middle East.

No, Scandinavia apparently.

InThisProcess · 14/10/2025 17:59

Theresabatinmykitchen · 14/10/2025 17:57

No, Scandinavia apparently.

Oh sorry. I thought she had spent time in Scandinavia and now lived in the ME. Apologies!

SweetTalkinWookie · 14/10/2025 18:00

BundleBoogie · 14/10/2025 16:46

Can you explain how it is Islamophobic to object to women being excluded from a ‘family’ event?

Does that mean that some things done in the name of Islam are anti women? Oh wait…

I sincerely hope you stretched before that massive reach…

OneAmusedShark · 14/10/2025 18:04

SHHHHHHHH!!!!!

DON’T YOU KNOW????

YOU’RE ONLY ALLOWED TO
CALL OUT MISOGYNY WHEN IT’S NOT RACIST TO DO SO!!!!!!

xanthomelana · 14/10/2025 18:17

Plantine · 14/10/2025 09:27

What, your 13 year old daughter was planning on participating in this run? Your friends' daughters had every intention of being part of this run?

I wouldn’t let them anywhere near people who follow a story book that admires a grown man marrying a 13 year old girl.

Ablushingcrow · 14/10/2025 18:24

Thisishappeningtous · 14/10/2025 07:49

Yes and that's what the religion is based on and the reality of women in the religion. And the fact this is allowed shows how far into Galiad we are sinking. Rules and values we fought for in the west do not apply. Women are chattel to be passed from a man to a man and having your tits jiggling and running alongside a man bring shame upon one.
We are becoming a third world country where women's rights are being fast erased and mysogyny is at unprecedented levels.
The level of harassment from men practicing that religion is unbearable too.
This is life in the UK in 2025. Women-hating "liberals" fascists will tell you it's okay and call you names while only mixing with people like themselves and knowing nothing about other religions and cultures and how harmful and incompatible with western values they are.
I mean what kind of an apology or justification can a twisted "liberal" mind even give for stuff like this.

This, a million times.

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