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To think it is outrageous to ban women and girls over 13 from a fun run?

328 replies

Lex345 · 14/10/2025 07:32

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c1kwk1204jno

I just caught this on the news-the article isn't clear on the justification for this-but this isn't OK is it?

OP posts:
IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 14/10/2025 11:18

Plantine · 14/10/2025 09:43

What are you talking about? I wouldn't be able to leave the house? What planet are you from? I have travelled and lived extensively in many different Muslim countries, and have never experienced that I can't leave my house. Where have YOU experienced this? Or are you just talking nonsense here?

You are the one who is talking nonsense.
You don’t speak for white women in this country so don’t try to tell them how they feel or what their thoughts should be.

lifeturnsonadime · 14/10/2025 11:18

AgreeToDisagreeSometimes · 14/10/2025 11:13

I don’t understand feminism! It’s perfectly legal to have women only running clubs but men are not allowed to have men only running clubs? There’s a bbc article from 2024 with the exact same club objective/idea but because it’s women excluding men, then that’s okay then?

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cx99e5ylyjpo

im a female who thinks gender equality must be fair for both genders. Not fighting for gender injustice when it favours females only.

Edited

Single sex spaces are allowed if they are a proportionate means of achieving a legitimate aim.

This clearly applies to women's only running clubs. Some women may feel uncomfortable, for many reasons including religious ones, with participating in groups with men.

This 'fun' run isn't operating a single sex event. It is allowing girls under the age of 12 to participate. There is no 'legitimate' aim in excluding women and girls above the age of 12.

HTH

5MinuteArgument · 14/10/2025 11:21

I don't have any objection to men only events. Providing there's a legitimate reason for them, this allowed under UK law. In this case there is no legitimate reason to exclude females over the age of 12.

WutheringTights · 14/10/2025 11:21

GofE · 14/10/2025 09:13

No one is trying to 'save' muslim women; you do you.

The issue here is trying to 'save' equal rights for all women within the UK.

This. 100%.

Events like this usually need permission from the local authority/ landowner. I’d like to understand how this event got permission in the first place. Because if local authorities are now endorsing discrimination against women then it’s a worrying situation for women’s rights in the UK.

Pharazon · 14/10/2025 11:21

AgreeToDisagreeSometimes · 14/10/2025 11:13

I don’t understand feminism! It’s perfectly legal to have women only running clubs but men are not allowed to have men only running clubs? There’s a bbc article from 2024 with the exact same club objective/idea but because it’s women excluding men, then that’s okay then?

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cx99e5ylyjpo

im a female who thinks gender equality must be fair for both genders. Not fighting for gender injustice when it favours females only.

Edited

Where are you getting the idea that men-only running clubs are unlawful? That simply is not true. Single-sex exemptions can be applied to both sexes.

DarkPassenger1 · 14/10/2025 11:23

It IS outrageous, but the positive here is that it has raised the reality of misogyny within Islam to a wider audience. There are still people that try and claim Islam was the first religion to promote the rights of women, that will portray hijab and niqab as being part of Islam valuing and protecting and respecting women, that will claim that all women and girls wearing hijab/burqa are doing so of their own volition and free choice, and so forth. We're in this weird area where we're so tolerant of intolerance, we're defending and promoting intolerance and misogyny.

I consider myself pretty liberal/left leaning, and I've been shocked at how quick Western liberals are to extol the virtues of Islam and completely close their eyes to the true picture. I feel this way about all religions.

Thankfully this will raise awareness. I'm not sure what people can realistically do from outside of the community. But if it educates one person who was walking around saying the things in my first paragraph, that's a good thing.

We need to be able to call out intolerance and sexism, oppression and misogyny, without being accused of Islamophobia.

OtterlyAstounding · 14/10/2025 11:24

If the fun run was male only, or children only, then it likely wouldn't be contravening any laws, from what little I understand. The fact that it allows both males and females to run, but bans only females over the age of 12, means it's discriminatory as it's not single sexed, nor restricted by general age limits. It specifically seeks to exclude females over a certain age.

Multiple papers have printed this quote: "Baroness Shaista Gohir OBE, the chief executive of the Muslim Women's Network UK, said the East London Mosque, which is behind the event, was 'likely' in breach of the Equality Act."

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 14/10/2025 11:26

Plantine · 14/10/2025 09:51

I'm saying it's clumsy wording, because apparently the wording is what a lot of you have an issue with. So if the wording was changed, the event should be okay for those who say the wording, as it currently stands, is not fine.

Also, don't tell me about my own religion, you have no credentials to do so - no offence. I live and breathe the religion, you don't - so you're not in a position to tell me what my religion is or isn't.

And you are not in a position to tell women in this country what they can or cannot discuss.

therole · 14/10/2025 11:31

Ha! That was my entire point with my first thread: a MUSLIM chairty run is relevant for MUSLIMS - so if you are not one, why do you feel the need to exert an opinion on how Muslims live?

@Plantine Are you worried that drawing attention to this could give some muslim women and girls some food for thought? They could start to realise that the way they are treated as less than men, who have freedom to move around as they please.

Is this why you’re telling us to not discuss this as to not stir the pot?

On the clothes point: You mention there’s a ‘standard’ that says less clothes is better than covered head to toe ? Can we perhaps meet in the middle and choose comfortable, appropriate clothes that let us move freely?

FOJN · 14/10/2025 11:34

Plantine · 14/10/2025 10:45

So, where's the law that actively forces your men to pay fairly and squarely for their own children rather than leave the entire responsibility to women? Where's the law that forces men to not overburden their wives? I think you and I might have different ideas about what equality even is. I don't really buys myself with nonsense issues like charity runs, I'm much more concerned with the bigger picture.

That's quite a lot of whataboutery. Some men are arseholes; it's not news.

If this is such an inconsequential issue perhaps you can explain why the mosque decided women should be excluded.

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 14/10/2025 11:38

Plantine · 14/10/2025 10:07

Also, why is the standard that little clothes is better than more clothes?

And that’s all you got from that isn’t it.
Or all you will admit is the facts.
No one said little clothes is better than more clothes.
Its is a choice that women should be allowed to have not dictated to by men.

therole · 14/10/2025 11:45

Plantine · 14/10/2025 10:37

Sure. I'm just saying you care about minor things rather than the big things. And I don't understand it. I have asked many times now what real change, for the better, it makes throughout society that this particular event accepts women running for charity? Like, what significant difference does it make? Will women suddenly be in amuch better position within society if they can participate in this particular run?

what significant difference does it make? Will women suddenly be in amuch better position within society if they can participate in this particular run?

Short answer: Yes.

Small changes over time build up to a big change. That’s why it will make a difference to society in the long run. Attitudes can change slowly.

Why do you think it is okay to sexualise 13 year old girls (by lumping them in with the grown women) AND not treat women and men as equal? I’m genuinely curious

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 14/10/2025 11:46

Plantine · 14/10/2025 10:18

Sure, you can do whatever you want. But I ROFL'ed when I read this:
"The difference is, your what-about examples are very much in the minority"

Are you serious? Every pedophile case, or kiddie/teenage pregnancy case, I read about involves white, non-Muslim people.

No you choose to see only your bias.
Shall we not discuss the disgusting grooming gangs by Muslim men in this country as it doesn’t fit your bias.

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 14/10/2025 11:59

Plantine · 14/10/2025 10:48

At least they are criminal gangs - regular white men do these things as a fun hobby, and create laws to enable them to do these kind of things almost in the open. Heck, you even choose these dirtbags as your leaders, and worship them as if they are infallible or sacred.

“At least they are criminal gangs”
So you are trying to dismiss and downplay the Muslim grooming gangs.
Yes we see YOU.

Another2Cats · 14/10/2025 12:01

Plantine · 14/10/2025 09:26

Oh, please, get off your high horse. Your men are abandoning your children, leaving them essentially fatherless and neglected in every way possible, and you have the audacity to sit there and talk to me about gender equality, respect and tolerance? I don't live in the UK, but from where I'm standing your society is not as great and ideal as you think it is.

"I don't live in the UK"

Oh, here it is. You don't even live in this country and you feel qualified to lecture us on how life is like here?

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 14/10/2025 12:02

SweetTalkinWookie · 14/10/2025 10:51

Have any women who wanted to take part in the race shown up yet, or is this still just a platform to flout thinly veiled Islamaphobia?

Ah here we go, shout Islamophobia when you want to shut discussion down.
Nice try sunshine, it won’t work.

UnicornLand1 · 14/10/2025 12:02

Thisishappeningtous · 14/10/2025 07:49

Yes and that's what the religion is based on and the reality of women in the religion. And the fact this is allowed shows how far into Galiad we are sinking. Rules and values we fought for in the west do not apply. Women are chattel to be passed from a man to a man and having your tits jiggling and running alongside a man bring shame upon one.
We are becoming a third world country where women's rights are being fast erased and mysogyny is at unprecedented levels.
The level of harassment from men practicing that religion is unbearable too.
This is life in the UK in 2025. Women-hating "liberals" fascists will tell you it's okay and call you names while only mixing with people like themselves and knowing nothing about other religions and cultures and how harmful and incompatible with western values they are.
I mean what kind of an apology or justification can a twisted "liberal" mind even give for stuff like this.

I think it's more about the government afraid to 'stir the nest' if you know what I mean rather than the country transforming into Gilead. UK is one of the most liberal country in the world that I know of and I've lived in a few. I doubt any of us would like to take part in that race, anyway. The government's thinking would be, if the women in that community don't care about it, then it's none of our business, really.

twilightermummy · 14/10/2025 12:03

I can't believe this was allowed to happen in the UK. Absolutely disgusting.

From a mixed race, liberal who votes Green.

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 14/10/2025 12:09

Plantine · 14/10/2025 11:02

That's my entire point. This charity run is a MUSLIM one - if you are not a MUSLIM, your input is not needed.

It is happening in our country, our input is very much warranted.
Not heard the term fit in or fuck off ?

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 14/10/2025 12:12

Midnightlove · 14/10/2025 11:03

Yes and it's in BRITAIN, where we have no desire to become a backwards third world country where woman are told what they can and can't do!

@Plantine
Are you reading that, read it and understand it.

Vaxtable · 14/10/2025 12:14

What’s the difference between this and a women’s only fun run?

Jasmin71 · 14/10/2025 12:14

So from what I can see this race contravenes the equality act 2010 as mentioned by many previous posters. The race will be on public land.

I have a simple solution.

Some posters have mentioned something to the effect that "it's a Muslim event, organised by the local mosque"

That being the case, may I invite the organisers to consider a change of venue and ask them to run round and round in circles in their own mosque and not foist their blatant misogyny onto the rest of us.

Easy!

Tryonemoretime · 14/10/2025 12:15

Plantine · 14/10/2025 10:45

Exactly.

A genuine question - were little boys allowed on the Breast Cancer fun runs, but excluded as soon as they hit puberty (like females on the Muslim fun run)?

JamieCannister · 14/10/2025 12:15

ProfoundlyPeculiarAndWeird · 14/10/2025 07:48

So many threads started about this. Is it the first year that the event has run, or is it that there are far more powerful social media currents now that give impetus to any news hook for viral outrage about something connected with Islam?

Not saying that you as an individual are fomenting outrage, OP. Just wondering about the online tides that wash numbers of such threads onto MN. Some of the posts on one of the recent threads showed such strong hostility to Islam, much stronger than would have been expressed a few years ago.

I think blatant misogyny is disgusting and should be called out whether it has been called out before, or not, whether it is black misogyny or white, religious or atheist, muslim or christian.

Islam could definitely attract fewer misogyny accusations were it to masssive reduce the incredibly high levels of misogyny within the muslim community.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 14/10/2025 12:15

Vaxtable · 14/10/2025 12:14

What’s the difference between this and a women’s only fun run?

Been answered more than once on this thread.

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