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To think that it's about time islamic fundamentalism is dissected and challenged

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diddlysquatagain · 13/10/2025 19:58

Did anyone read the very interesting article by Matthew Syed (sorry if behind a paywall) - Sunday Times: 'One thing has been holding back the Middle East for centuries':
https://www.thetimes.com/comment/columnists/article/middle-east-religious-fanaticism-iran-kcvh5knn3

"The Middle East was once the centre of the intellectual world. Then it went into reverse. The problem then, as now, is Islamic fundamentalism. No peace or prosperity is possible until the madrassas and other machines of indoctrination are confronted"

One thing has been holding back the Middle East for centuries

Religious fanaticism has been catastrophic for a region that was once the intellectual hub of the world

https://www.thetimes.com/comment/columnists/article/middle-east-religious-fanaticism-iran-kcvh5knn3

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awkwardasfuck · 15/10/2025 11:21

MaturingCheeseball · 15/10/2025 11:18

@awkwardasfuck you have a very rosy view of many towns/cities across Britain. Have you not been to Bradford, say?

The last general election indicated that quite a few traditional Labour seats were in peril. Four “Muslim interest” MPs gained seats. At the next ge estimates are 30+ Muslim-interest MPs (note: I say Muslim-interest MPs, not MPs who happen to be Muslim).

Given that one of these MPs has been outspoken on not just Gaza but keeping cousin marriage and not pursuing grooming gangs, as well as wanting UK govt funding for a new Pakistan airport, I’d say that if we had 30 of him our democratic process might be getting wobbly, to say the least.

I have been to Bradford. I literally just said I grew up in a highly muslim area. I suggest you put thre tabloids down and go and talk to some real people

Bigpinksweater · 15/10/2025 11:23

awkwardasfuck · 15/10/2025 11:21

I have been to Bradford. I literally just said I grew up in a highly muslim area. I suggest you put thre tabloids down and go and talk to some real people

You think they’d tell you the truth?

BlackbirdPieAndMash · 15/10/2025 11:25

@awkwardasfuck

Just chiming into say that the ‘allegiance smear’ is real.

Faith is the most importantly thing in the lives of religious people, and that goes for Christians and Jews too. Certainly I know for many Christians, you are supposed to love God more than anyone on earth. That was the whole story of Abraham agreeing to sacrifice his son.

Usually, that won’t come into conflict with day-to-day life for law-abiding folks. But it absolutely can and it’s incredibly naive to say otherwise.

In the same way that people can put money before the law, people can put religious and familial ties before following the law.

awkwardasfuck · 15/10/2025 11:26

Bigpinksweater · 15/10/2025 11:23

You think they’d tell you the truth?

What are you suggesting

MaturingCheeseball · 15/10/2025 11:31

@awkwardasfuck I have a pair of eyes and frankly I do not want my dcs to live in a country where increasing numbers of women - and girls - are going around fully veiled. Nor on a more trivial note I do not want to live in a town where a dog ban is discussed.

I do not want this country to become divided on religious/cultural lines, which it will be before too long.

Bigpinksweater · 15/10/2025 11:35

awkwardasfuck · 15/10/2025 11:26

What are you suggesting

Do you think half of the Muslims you know would say ‘yes, I think homosexuality is an abomination that should be a criminal offence?’

awkwardasfuck · 15/10/2025 11:37

MaturingCheeseball · 15/10/2025 11:31

@awkwardasfuck I have a pair of eyes and frankly I do not want my dcs to live in a country where increasing numbers of women - and girls - are going around fully veiled. Nor on a more trivial note I do not want to live in a town where a dog ban is discussed.

I do not want this country to become divided on religious/cultural lines, which it will be before too long.

What exactly is it about a woman wearing a veil that disrupts your life — or your daughter’s? Honestly, it sounds like you’re more preoccupied with them than they are with you. If someone else choosing to cover themselves makes you uncomfortable, that says more about your own biases than anything they’re doing.

And a “dog ban”? Where, exactly, is that happening in the UK? This kind of vague fearmongering isn’t based on facts.

The real cultural and religious divides you’re talking about aren’t caused by Islam, Muslims, or immigrants. They come from a long-standing refusal within parts of British society to share culture rather than gatekeep it. British communities have become more isolated, more individualistic, less invested in collective identity. Christianity has declined not because it was “taken away” but because most people just stopped caring.

While other communities are visible because they still invest in community structures — faith spaces, events, neighbourliness — many British communities have let theirs wither. That’s not on Muslims. That’s on us.

Right now, the loudest expression of “British values” seems to be people vandalising roundabouts, hanging flags as a threat rather than pride, and screaming at hotels housing vulnerable people. If we really want cultural strength, maybe we should stop blaming others for maintaining theirs — and start rebuilding our own.

awkwardasfuck · 15/10/2025 11:45

Bigpinksweater · 15/10/2025 11:35

Do you think half of the Muslims you know would say ‘yes, I think homosexuality is an abomination that should be a criminal offence?’

Probably depends on who you ask doesn't it. Plenty of white British people wishing death on people attending pride festivals if you want to go and look at the comments.

The Muslims i spent my childhood with, at school, at each others houses for sleepovers, worked with, share my life with, alongside many happily married gay men in our friendship groups, clearly couldn't give a shit what someone's sexuality is.

Pigeonpoodle · 15/10/2025 12:56

awkwardasfuck · 15/10/2025 11:45

Probably depends on who you ask doesn't it. Plenty of white British people wishing death on people attending pride festivals if you want to go and look at the comments.

The Muslims i spent my childhood with, at school, at each others houses for sleepovers, worked with, share my life with, alongside many happily married gay men in our friendship groups, clearly couldn't give a shit what someone's sexuality is.

There are many Muslims that have integrated, like your friends you had when you were younger, and that’s great.

I’ve repeatedly said that my issues isn’t with every person from a Muslim background…

But if you think that sleepovers with white friends, and casual acceptance of gay friends in multi-ethnic friendship groups would be acceptable across wide swathes of Islamic communities in this country, and that Islamic culture that exists in those communities is not really any different to Western culture - they just wear different clothes and eat different food - you’re deluded.

awkwardasfuck · 15/10/2025 13:00

Pigeonpoodle · 15/10/2025 12:56

There are many Muslims that have integrated, like your friends you had when you were younger, and that’s great.

I’ve repeatedly said that my issues isn’t with every person from a Muslim background…

But if you think that sleepovers with white friends, and casual acceptance of gay friends in multi-ethnic friendship groups would be acceptable across wide swathes of Islamic communities in this country, and that Islamic culture that exists in those communities is not really any different to Western culture - they just wear different clothes and eat different food - you’re deluded.

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You're the one accusing entire populations of thinking the same, not me. You have repeatedly made sweeping statements, insinuated Muslims are liars, asked me what I thought and just because it doesn’t match up with what you want to think, you're now resorting to attempts to insult me. My lived experience is not unusual or exceptional. It is normal.

Once again, maybe go and speak to the people you're repeatedly insulting instead of shrieking about what you perceive to be true and ignoring the fact that homophobia is RIFE in white "christian" communities.

Bigpinksweater · 15/10/2025 13:02

awkwardasfuck · 15/10/2025 11:45

Probably depends on who you ask doesn't it. Plenty of white British people wishing death on people attending pride festivals if you want to go and look at the comments.

The Muslims i spent my childhood with, at school, at each others houses for sleepovers, worked with, share my life with, alongside many happily married gay men in our friendship groups, clearly couldn't give a shit what someone's sexuality is.

Then why did a Guardian survey of British Muslim attitudes reveal half think homosexuality should be illegal?

PropertyD · 15/10/2025 13:02

Pigeonpoodle · 15/10/2025 07:47

Yes, I accept that Muslims are 6% of the population, and not close to a majority. I appreciate its alarmist to say we’re on the verge of having Sharia Law imposed across the UK.

However, there are sufficient numbers, especially in our large cities, that the influence of the Islamic community isn’t negligible. Having multi-million strong enclaves of people who do not integrate with the rest of the country in a meaningful way, and whose culture is strikingly incompatible with the rest of UK society isn’t healthy and needs addressing.

We need to work on breaking down those barriers and take steps to promote integration if we are to avoid a balkanisation of this country into competing factions that have more allegiance to each other than the country at large.

Ignoring this and crying “racist” whenever someone raises concerns is enabling the UK’s decline into a factional unstable powder keg.

It’s irresponsible and stupid - your children won’t forgive you for allowing the disintegration of British society because you were too blind to see what’s happening.

Birmingham comes to mind

Bringemout · 15/10/2025 13:04

Gorse · 14/10/2025 17:32

The police know him rather a lot, he has been arrested more than once. The last time he was sent to a mental hospital for a few weeks. His poor wife actually managed to get out for shopping in the company of another Afghan couple. Fully veiled, though. He's been interviewed again, recently, for breaching the terms of his release. I believe the police are keeping it quiet ie out of court. I'd say no one gives a stuff about his wife. Probably too difficult and "sensitive"...

God thats awful poor woman.

PropertyD · 15/10/2025 13:04

And nearly 50 of Muslim people think being gay should be illegal. That is a shocking statistic. What if one of the Muslim families saying it should be illegal had a child that was gay?

Ellen2shoes · 15/10/2025 13:07

Pigeonpoodle · 15/10/2025 09:51

Their polling identifies inconvenient truths about the views of Muslims.

I can see why many on the Left wouldn’t want those known and understood as it doesn’t help their agenda. Attempting to smear something as “right-wing” doesn’t work any more.

No it doesn’t, because it is inherently biased and has an anti Muslim agenda. I’m not making this up - even mainstream media have reported it. Did you read the article in the link I posted?

Murray was pictured with Robert Spencer, the far-right US anti-Islam campaigner banned from Britain by the Home Office.

Bigpinksweater · 15/10/2025 13:09

Ellen2shoes · 15/10/2025 13:07

No it doesn’t, because it is inherently biased and has an anti Muslim agenda. I’m not making this up - even mainstream media have reported it. Did you read the article in the link I posted?

Murray was pictured with Robert Spencer, the far-right US anti-Islam campaigner banned from Britain by the Home Office.

The Guardian has an anti Muslim agenda? Have I heard that correctly?

Ellen2shoes · 15/10/2025 13:11

Bigpinksweater · 15/10/2025 13:09

The Guardian has an anti Muslim agenda? Have I heard that correctly?

The Henry Jackson Society think tank as reported by the Guardian link in previous post.

Bigpinksweater · 15/10/2025 13:12

Ellen2shoes · 15/10/2025 13:11

The Henry Jackson Society think tank as reported by the Guardian link in previous post.

Why do they have an anti Muslim agenda? Are you saying the stats are entirely fabricated?

Pigeonpoodle · 15/10/2025 13:24

awkwardasfuck · 15/10/2025 13:00

You're the one accusing entire populations of thinking the same, not me. You have repeatedly made sweeping statements, insinuated Muslims are liars, asked me what I thought and just because it doesn’t match up with what you want to think, you're now resorting to attempts to insult me. My lived experience is not unusual or exceptional. It is normal.

Once again, maybe go and speak to the people you're repeatedly insulting instead of shrieking about what you perceive to be true and ignoring the fact that homophobia is RIFE in white "christian" communities.

I have repeatedly said that I don’t believe all Muslims think the same way… repeatedly! And where have I called Muslims liars?

I’m not denying your lived experience. I accept that you had/have Muslims friends, as have I. Individual Muslims aren’t the enemy.

Kendodd · 15/10/2025 13:30

Lobas · 13/10/2025 23:47

Someone on the left please explain why Muslims are over represented in the prison population in this country. And no, you can’t hide behind racism because look at the data for Sikhs and Hindus

Some very serious conversations need to be had.

Or we could just make up excuses whilst more people are victimised….

So it looks like that in fact Hinduism is the religion of peace 😀

smallglassbottle · 15/10/2025 13:40

Read 'The Imam's Daughter' by Hannah Shah for an insight into how non integrated muslims live their lives in the UK.

awkwardasfuck · 15/10/2025 13:55

Bigpinksweater · 15/10/2025 13:02

Then why did a Guardian survey of British Muslim attitudes reveal half think homosexuality should be illegal?

Because the people likely to answer the survey do give a shit. Those who live and let live aren't busy answering inflammatory surveys. Surely you understand that

Bigpinksweater · 15/10/2025 13:57

awkwardasfuck · 15/10/2025 13:55

Because the people likely to answer the survey do give a shit. Those who live and let live aren't busy answering inflammatory surveys. Surely you understand that

ICM conducted face-to-face, at-home interviews with a representative sample of 1,000 Muslims across the UK between 25 April and 31 May 2015. A control sample of 1,008 people representative of the country as a whole were interviewed over the phone to provide a comparison.

HostaCentral · 15/10/2025 14:25

What exactly is it about a woman wearing a veil that disrupts your life — or your daughter’s

It doesn't, it disrupts her life. It is not part of European or British culture. Many European countries are banning face coverings. Veils and modest clothing is fine, but not face coverings. They are isolating and discriminatory. They are cultural not religious, therefore if you are in another country, you shouldn't be wearing them.

It's another barrier to integration.

Ellen2shoes · 15/10/2025 19:33

awkwardasfuck · 15/10/2025 11:08

I never called you racist. What I’m saying is your picture of “Islamic influence” doesn’t match reality.

I grew up in a town that’s about 33% Muslim. I’m not worried, because day-to-day life there looks like Britain everywhere else: people working, paying mortgages, supporting the same football teams, arguing about schools and bin collections. British society isn’t disintegrating — unless you mean the tiny but noisy crowd of right-wing flag-hangers and Islamophobes who keep trying to pit neighbours against each other. That is damaging.

Your argument falls apart on the basics:

Numbers: Muslims are ~6% of the UK. That’s nowhere near enough to “sway” national policy or impose anything on anyone. Most socially conservative votes in any poll will naturally come from the much larger Christian population, simply because of scale.

“Enclaves” claim: There aren’t “multi-million strong enclaves” sealed off from the country. Muslims live across dozens of towns and cities, mixed in with everyone else. Concentrations in some areas reflect housing and work patterns, not a refusal to integrate.

Compatibility trope: British law is supreme. Faith councils/arbitration bodies are voluntary and cannot override UK law. People can be devout and fully part of British civic life — they serve in the NHS, armed forces, councils, unions, schools, and Parliament.

Allegiance smear: The idea that Muslims have “more allegiance” to each other than to the country is an accusation without evidence. My lived reality is shared allegiance to the same streets, services and futures.

“Powder keg” rhetoric: That’s just fear-talk. The real risks to social cohesion are inequality, housing shortages, underfunded services, and those who constantly tell Britons to fear their neighbours.

If we want more mixing and trust (and I do), we should back the things that actually build it: good schools, youth clubs, safe streets, decent jobs, English-language provision where needed, and fair treatment for everyone. Blaming 6% of the country for everything isn’t a solution

Totally agree with this. I live and work in a multicultural environment where Christians, Muslims and others peacefully collaborate and share cultural experiences perfectly compatibly.

Claiming that Islam is incompatible with British culture feeds into that insidious rhetoric of division that is so pervasive on the far right.