I don't like how people tend to speak to their children

[BeWaryFinch]

Fairly sure if another adult spoke to you the way that you speak to your children you would not like it. 'put your shoes on now' 'go to bed now' 'get in the car now' many other examples, or changing your tone of voice to be different than if you were speaking to another adult. Why do parents do this.

Wow, tell me you know nothing about parenting without me you know nothing about parenting

But children aren’t adults? Their brains are different, they process things differently and need boundaries and guidance to develop.

I wouldn’t ask my daughter to run a change programme in the financial industry and equally I wouldn’t count to 10 to get one of my stakeholders to send me information when I’ve already asked him three times.

Wait a minute... you persuaded a friend six year old to get in the car using chocolate.

The parents are going to be a bit frustrated if the kid expects chocolate for minor things.

But adults have already been rented and should already know this stuff. Children are blank slates that you need to train into doing these things so they don’t become assholes when they’re adults.

Because if children knew and understood what they needed to do and why, they wouldn't need parents.

You can put their shoes in a bag to take with them if they decide they want to wear them at school. The local authority would probably try to throw you in jail if your child didn't go to school so I would just try to be really positive about school with things to look forward to and persuasive, and even bribery. To be honest I don't have my own child but I spend a lot of time with a friend and their child who is really difficult and I managed to get them out of the house to places

So you bribed him with chocolate coins? If you bribed an adult, you would be breaking the law.

How many kids do you have?

Herm... and finally looking at the route cause behind my child's defiance! My child is very articulate and honest. So I asked him, why don't you want to clean you teeth? And he said it is boring and he'd rather listen to a podcast. So logically I need to eradicate everything more interesting than teeth cleaning or offer him chocolate coins.

I think I'll have to stick with clean them or they'll fall out. Funnily enough I've never had to say this to an adult.

😂😂😂 you bribed a dc to get into the car? Yes, that’s up every parent’s sleeve but doesn’t work every time 😂😂😂 it’s very easy to be a perfect parent when you don’t have dc.

OP, respectfully, parenting is a very different thing to occasionally persuading someone else’s child to do something. I’d save my blushes and stop pontificating on a topic about which it is self-evident you know nothing.

Everything after " I don't have my own child" is irrelevant.
With your methods, we would all be dead of old age before our kids went to school.

Tell me you're not a parent without telling me you're not a parent.
You're totally wrong in everything you've said.
Hth

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Yabu

initially it's a jolly "let's go shoes on"

X minutes / X times later it's "shoes on now"

I am with them most days each week for most of the day and am essentially their other parent, and I have made the parents life a lot easier. The parent works from home

Aye, well, we all start out rubbing our bumps, dreaming of being Mary Poppins but, the sad reality for most of us is, we turn into Miss Hannigan from Annie - bathtub full of gin bottles, crying and singing about how much we hate the little shits. C'est la vie.

Oh man I just read you dont have your own child....

Nah it would be fine. Mine responds well to chocolate coins.

So true😂

Talk to your kids how you would talk to an adult and see how far you get,
You: pointing at your watch "we should probably think about leaving"
Kid: "no".
Now what?!
Me:"go and put your shoes on, we're leaving now!"
Kid: "ok, fine!"

If they decide they want to wear shoes? Op you're hilarious

I know enough to get an autistic 6 year old out of the house in under 10 minutes

The only time I have ever spoken to my children like that is when I am very stressed or for whatever reason we are running late - otherwise goodness no.

Yes, dear. And a parent may have had to do the same thing hundreds of times since that child woke up that morning. And rinse and repeat, every single day.

Ohhhh OP, bless your little cotton socks 😂😂😂