To have made my partner switch hotels in London?

[LondonWoes]

My partner surprised me with a long weekend in London, for my birthday. He got us theatre tickets and told me he had sorted the hotel out.

We got on the train today and he started bragging it was £30 a night. That immediately set alarm bells ringing. We arrive and it’s a dump. It’s not even a hotel, but someone’s house with a load of converted rooms. There’s no reception, just a living room, and every door has the same key. That same key also opened the front door. We had been put in a downstairs room, with no window. It was boiling hot.

I told him I wasn’t staying in that hotel. It didn’t feel safe and the vibes were off. He has begrudgingly moved but made me pay, so now im £500 down for my birthday weekend. Was I being unreasonable?

So you've been putting all that effort and care into organising nice (and appropriate) meals/dates/trips for 18 months and he was praising and congratulating himself for his paltry effort?

That makes it even worse!

I hope he's organised his ski trip with the same efficiency.

Nottodaythankyou123 my standards are pretty high but I have a great marriage of 34 years plus we communicate . I would also not treat my husband like that . Nothing more to say

Ah well, it shows there is someone out there who would appreciate this man's piss poor attempt at a weekend away - dodgy accommodation, take away burgers, petty sulks and all. Takes all sorts.

Men's Rights Activist

Anyone that used MY birthday 'treat' as a test can FOTTFSOFAFOSM

I wouldn't 'treat' my husband to a night in a grubby Airbnb, but you do you

Old posts are there to be read.

You're telling porkies

Judging by your previous thread you're married to an arsehole who you're thinking of leaving.

I hope for his mates' sake that one of them did the organising of the skiing, they might not do such a piss poor job!

He wasn’t evicted, although he deserved to be. 😂😂
She paid for the room and graciously let him stay the night.

The OP deserves a medal for putting up with this turd of a bloke for 18 months.
Thankfully, she’s realised what a selfish tosser he really is and is well rid of him now. 👏👏👏

Not according to your recent thread where you’ve gone into lots of detail about his nastiness and short comings or are you just a fantasist who posts for attention?

This was what I was going to say - whilst a lot of posters have demonstrated their very low standards, the more concerning thing is they’ll be raising their sons to think that it’s acceptable and their daughters to accept it

"I don’t know if I love my husband enough to stay anymore ."

"Stiil to this day I don’t know why I am still with him . I know I stayed for the boys ."

"He constantly threatened to take my children off me saying I wasn’t fit to look after them ."

Kindly, you need to step away from the keyboard, seek help in deciding which version of your marriage is the reality and deal with it rather than giving the OP a hard time for her perfectly reasonable response to being treated badly.

Are you still in London OP? If it’s not already been recommended, there’s a showtunes bar called The Room Where It Happens in Soho which might be up your street!

Ooh, just realised it’s 7.30, curtain up and OP is in the room where it happens. Hope she really enjoys Hamilton tonight.

OP, I totally agree with your take on how disappointing this is.

I also read your posts to my DH, who said “I hope she bins him off, sounds like that man has very low standards for his own behaviour”.

Don’t listen to the posters with incredibly low standards. You deserve much better, and as you’ve said, it’s not about the value of the break, but the dismal accommodation and “meal” combined with the sulking and spiteful decision to use the theatre tickets that were your birthday gift.

Don’t look back! Hope you’ve had the most fabulous time in London

It completely confirms what I thought - that women angry at the OP for valuing herself and being confident and decisive, are projecting their own upset for letting themselves get treated atrociously.

WOW

W O W

Hamilton was amazing. Thoroughly worth all of this stress!

That's great Op!!! Glad you had a top time!!!

So glad you got to see it after all this. It really is something else.

Republicofjam, you must lead a really sad life if you need to go through my profile to see what you can dish out on me because I have annoyed you . You have brought out something that happened when I was going through postpartum depression that happened when my children were younger . My husband didn’t understand what was going on and was worried , as these situations arise it’s hard sometimes for people around you to see what you’re going through . My mum passing away has bought it to the surface and that’s why I was seeking help with that post. It wasn’t there for you to share .

Some of the responses on here are so funny. Like those posters having a go at the OP would actually be happy and grateful to be taken to a fleabag dump of a ‘hotel’ and handed a burger for their birthday weekend away treat,
especially when their partner has just booked himself an expensive ski weekend.

You did entirely the right thing. What a fucking cheapskate.

Lovely update OP. Sounds like you have good boundaries and know your worth so I'm a little bemused by the snarky responses.

You maybe sad now, but leaving st this point will likely save hassle in the long run. Imagine having kids with him. He'd probably be the type that is unwilling to pay for kids things, or get difficult re finances when on mat leave. Far better to find someone that better matches you.

I hate the acronyms on here.

I read a post yesterday that said ‘my dear GSD I’m not sure how to say dear grandson, I hope that’s right’ I mean, what is the point! That took more letters than just putting grandson! And the ‘dear’ nonsense.

And who would know MRA is men’s rights activist!

OP glad you had a great time. Had your DP apologised straight away for the room booking, you could have got past that and the takeaway, anyone who travels to London regularly must know that £30 is going to get you a rubbish room. Great story to tell friends and family in the the future. Makes a change to see an independent persons post on MN.