To have made my partner switch hotels in London?

[LondonWoes]

My partner surprised me with a long weekend in London, for my birthday. He got us theatre tickets and told me he had sorted the hotel out.

We got on the train today and he started bragging it was £30 a night. That immediately set alarm bells ringing. We arrive and it’s a dump. It’s not even a hotel, but someone’s house with a load of converted rooms. There’s no reception, just a living room, and every door has the same key. That same key also opened the front door. We had been put in a downstairs room, with no window. It was boiling hot.

I told him I wasn’t staying in that hotel. It didn’t feel safe and the vibes were off. He has begrudgingly moved but made me pay, so now im £500 down for my birthday weekend. Was I being unreasonable?

Well you sound delightful. I’ve said I would’ve been happy with the takeaway had it not been for the airbnb and the attitude in response to my concerns.

Oh I'm sure he will. If Mumsnet has taught me anything, it is that there are countless women out there whose standards are low enough.

@LondonWoes
I’ve just read your update.
I wouldn’t have stayed at that flea pit, if I’d been offered a hotel.
id like to think I’d would have taken myself off for a decent meal, if my meal out turned out to be a Berger.
But I’m staggered he gave your ticket away.
Maybe he thought you’d gone home and and didn’t want ti waste it…. But , live and learn.
Hope you enjoy Hamilton.

Ah yes. The good old test a man must apply to determine if a woman is really a secret gold digger or whether she willl accept any old shit.

And How did the exBF do in the test to see if he could cope with set backs to a plan and whether he could behave like a cheerful and flexible grown up, particularly when the supposed gold digger solves the accomodation problem by picking up the bill herself for a very nice hotel for three nights - at no cost to Mr Sulky.

He failed more than a bit miserably at that.

Clearly this relationship has no future, but what puzzles me is how the 2 of you managed to go 18 months without things coming to a head. How often have you met each other? How many nights have you spent together? Have you met each other's parents?

Just because your standards are on the floor, doesn’t mean everyone else’s have to be.

p.s five guys isn’t a restaurant or a meal out, it’s a slightly more expensive McDonald’s. I’ve put more thought into going to co-op for a meal deal than he put into that.

Op please don't give Amore03, any more head space there clearly winding you up,
Keep being you op strong and fearless, no shit taken, type of woman,
As I said previously, you could be here saying,

Oh but I love him, I don't mind the crumbs as long as he has a great holiday with the boys, and really the burger was tasty so its ok not to have had the promise reservation he said, oh but I love him 🤢

Agree 100% what utter nonsense.

He thought she’d be happy with crumbs. I’m so glad OP has better standards than lots of the women on here.

Means she won’t be posting one of the woeful threads in 5 years with a useless husband, 2 small kids and a miserable life.

London woes, just ignore the haters as I'm sure their Mum's will be kicking them out of their bedrooms to run the vacuum round soon.

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Totally agree with you! Compared to the posts we see all the time here from women putting up with being treated like crap, it's refreshing to see someone who gives themself the respect they deserve 🙌🏼 Have a great time at Hamilton tonight!

the accommodation is immaterial as she will only be sleeping there as out all day

It is material if you get robbed or get bedbugs. And I'd rather be stupid than value myself as little as you seem to.

The boyfriend didn't do anything nice for her - she's probably rather not have gone away at all than be "treated" to a flophouse for alcoholic prison leavers.

I organised pretty much all meals/dates/trips

For goodness sake, even a Premier Inn is nicer than whatever doss house he took her to! (Actually like a Premier Inn, the baths are so deep I can practically swim in them.) I've stayed in a few hotels in London that have been nicer than that as well.

Hahahahaha! It's unbelievable how some posters are twisting themselves in knots trying to excuse this guy!

Agree bloody ridiculous isn't it 🙄

Yep. I mean he hypes up this weekend away for her birthday, promising a hotel and dinner out, then presents her with a filthy doss house and a crappy take away burger for dinner and she's not thrilled? The outrage of it!

OP half of the lot giving you grief are on here crying because their Husbands don’t plan anything for their birthday other than supermarket flowers and trip to big Tesco.

a £30 room in London and five guys for dinner is egregious and lazy if he didn’t want to spend money he could’ve done a day trip. Let alone that place is probably full of god knows what.

you don’t need a special reason to end it. If you don’t like it dump because if this how he is in the honeymoon stage imagine marriage. Nothing worse than a miser

I know 😂
Parts of this thread would make a great musical 🎶 I can see it all:
🌟flop-house
🌟burgers
🌟magnificent OP striding out on her own to the Italian in her best outfit
🌟BF stropping off down the street
🌟sister flicking Hamilton tickets through her fingers, face like Cruella deVil
🌟...and best of all, the men/bots/internalised misogynists twisting themselves into pretzels in the comments:
'Oh, oh, the poor boy tried his best...oh, oh, bedbugs aren't that bad, they'd only have slept there and been out all day... oh, oh, maybe it was a TEST, mwaahaaahaaa....'

And he wasn’t turfed on the streets he could stillgo to his £30 airbnb. I’m sure he wanted to enjoy not sleeping in a crack den for as long as possible

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I don’t think it’s men or boys on here but worryingly the girlfriends, wives and mothers of just useless and pathetic men. Those who put up with any shit just so they have a man in their lives. Scary.

But it sounds like he stropped off initially, saying he needed to go and calm down before he ordered the takeaway. How was OP supposed to make the best of it when he was storming off?

Men who treat you like garbage are testing you, but not see if you’re a gold digger but to see how little they can get away with.

making up fairytales to excuse why you put it with less than the bare minimum is sad. Want more for yourselves