To ask if most straight men are attracted much younger women?

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Had a depressing moment at work today, male colleague played a Jimmy Carr stand-up clip on his phone and it went along the lines of “if I had to pick my favourite child it would be my neighbour’s hot daughter.” The other men with him laughed at it. I couldn’t help feeling a bit nauseous and it’s made me question whether many older straight men actually do fantasise about girls in their late teens or whatever. Perhaps I have been naive to think it was something that just appealed to a minority of perverts. One or two of them have daughters too and it just strikes me as odd that they could even laugh at a joke like that. Am I naive to feel this way?

Of course. I have met men in their 70's and older who find their wife the most beautiful women in the world.
Attraction is so much more than surface level, I have always found a warm smile, nice arms very attractive over a typical good looking man.
Thinking someone is good looking, doesn't equal wanting to have sex with them.
I notice many good looking people without feeling sexual attracted to any of them.

"With few exceptions, straight men will have sex with women who are willing to have sex with them in the main. If they think that that will 'only' be women of their own age, that's who they'll go for. If they think they've got a chance with someone younger, they'll go for them."

I actually had this happen to me. I am 50, divorced and just started to think about dating again. About 18 months ago I got to know a lovely guy who goes to the same running group, early 50s. I really liked him. We had great chemistry, common interests, I found him really attractive, he seemed kind etc. Similar goals in life. We were talking for a year or so, I had told him that I was still raw after my divorce, but open to taking things slowly.

We hadn't actually got to the point of "dating" when he told me that he'd got into a relationship with a woman in her 20s! I know the woman and she is very attractive. I think the guy was very flattered that she wanted him and the whole thing was based on lust. It ended within a few months and now he's crawling back to me saying that he realises "looks aren't everything" and he wants something "deeper", and he now realises what he could have had with me.

To be fair to him it does sound like he's done a lot of self reflection, but it does sting to realise that even though he and I seemed to have a deep connection, all that was overlooked when a hot twenty something made a play for him.

There was a study done, where they asked women and men from age 18 to 80 who they found most attractive by showing them photos of those same aged people.

As women aged, the men they found attractive changed with age.

Men from 18-80 on average found the 22 year old the most attractive.

He doesn't deserve you, his immature selfish ego took over. Self-reflection or not, you are better than that.
I personally wouldn't trust him. 💐

@EmeraldShamrock000 Thank you, yes that's what I've thought too!

(Sorry, didn't mean to derail the thread with a personal story, just thought it was a good example of what was being discussed!)

I think the answer to this question is both better and worse than you'd like to hear. Men are basically attracted to anyone who seems within the ages that women are able to make babies. So that's both younger than is socially acceptable (as soon as girls hit puberty) and later than is generally thought (incels who tell you 30 is the limit are a decade or two too low)

I would wonder if there was a distinction made between ‘objectively most attractive’ and ‘what you are attracted to’, because to me, there is no point in being attracted to someone out of your league. Wonder how they framed it.

I don’t know how you can know that.

in my experience men like and lust over younger women until they are in old age. Not teenagers but women in their 20s definitely. just because they are not saying it, or maybe they accept they haven’t a hope, who knows but my impression of men is that they will want sex with young women until they die.

Im amazed at how my taste is changing as I am getting older though. I like older men now, I prefer them and think men younger than 30 are too young.
I see you all writing about ‘dad bods’ I understand what you are describing and am really into it. 😁

Wow!

Next you'll be asking if it's really true that we are attracted wealthy men . . .

Of course man are attracted to younger women. Why the fuck do you think the UK cosmetics industry is worth 30 Billion annually. Do you think we are spending all that money on products to look older!

We want to look younger. We think youth is attractive. We spend thousands each year on products and procedures in an attempt to keep ourselves from looking our actual age.

I really question the motivation of OP's who pose questions like this. What the fuck do people think men are attracted to?

If I could look 19 again I would. And so would any of you. Even the OP. And there isn't a man on the planet that would think

"nah! . . . I prefer old and saggy"!

Ew

I think it depends on what you mean by late teens.

I work in a university so am surrounded by people 18 - 21, and yes, a lot of the women are attractive, and I am attracted to them.

Younger than that, they tend to still look like the kids they are so no, I'm not attracted to them, and neither are most men.

The fact that 18 year olds are attractive though doesn't mean that I'd have any interest at all in an 18 year old. Just because someone is nice to look at, doesn't have any bearing on whether I'd be interested in dating them, or even just having sex with them.

I'm 42, I'd have absolutely nothing in common with someone in their 20s' let alone someone who was 18, why would that be someone I'd pursue?

So yes, I'd say most men are attracted to 18 year olds. That doesn't mean we're dirty perverts who want to sleep with them though.

I think it’s broadly true that men find younger women attractive. That doesn’t mean they will pursue it, or that it is anything other than objectively seeing someone is attractive. These are not women that older men genuinely want to date or be with.

and by younger I mean 20s.

a PP said there’s a parallel with women generally being attracted to wealthier men. I think that’s true too. Women try to look younger, men try to look richer.

I can remember from the age of 11 whenever I would be out (as in walking to the bus stop/walking to school or friends etc) I would constantly get beeped at by men in cars and white vans. I've had men pull over and try and talk to me. This even used to happen abroad on holiday whilst my dad was with me. This isn't me bragging lol but I was often in school uniform when this happened and I clearly looked like an underage child. Didn't develop breasts till I was nearly 16! It really grosses me out when I think of it.

As a mother taking my kids to school each morning I continue to see men driving and staring at school girls. It makes me feel sick, but at least they have the decency to not beep these days, I suppose 😐

Well of course they are! Societal pressures might mean they wouldn't do anything about it, but they'd like to. I don't mean as old as 18 or 19, they're fully grown adults anyway

Yes we can!. It's gross, sixteen year olds are still kids!.

Thank you!!!!!

They are adults in many cultures. In Western cultures, adolescence was being recognized as a separate life stage but this is a relatively new development.

Sadly, I think that most men would happily sleep with a 15 or 16 year old if it wasn’t illegal or frowned upon. Years ago, it was probably the norm for girls of this age to marry older men.

This reminds me - you mentioning MILFs. I have noticed a slight trend of young-ish women (20s and 30s) who call themselves a MILF. But they have no children. You're not a MILF if you have no children FFS! 🙄

Jimmy Carr is a fetid little wank stain who thinks he’s ‘edgy’ because he jokes about paedophiles and rape. I do wonder how long before we find out comedians like him are Jimmy Savilles hiding in the open with their ‘humor’

Exactly. ‘Adulthood’ has been socially constructed. From a biological perspective, they are adults at 12 or 13 when they start menstruating. I imagine that this is when they start to appeal to most men.

If they're sexually mature, they will appeal to the opposite sex. Same goes for every other species on the planet. Why is this so difficult for some people to understand?

We're forgetting that a lot of older women have absolutely no issues attracting younger men, decades younger, not just celebrities.
Many young man 17+ would definitely have sex with an attractive older woman.

I think it is naïve to ignore the fact men and women both reach peak attractiveness in their 20s - early 30s and it starts to go downhill from there.
Looking at someone and appreciating they are good looking isn't the same as being attracted to that person though, I think there is more to attraction than appearance.

The guys were probably laughing at the joke because it is risqué and outrageous not because they related or agreed. This type of 'shock humour' is what Jimmy Carr is known for. I think he's an insufferable cockhead but that's by the by.

I certainly don't believe the majority of men fancy teenagers.

Among my friendship group, those couples over 60 seem to be in relationships where the.man is older by up to 12 years.
The remainder are almost all relationships where the woman is 1-5 years older.
All of these are long relationships of 10+ years.
I suspect 'my people ' may be an anomaly.