AIBU for being upset my mother turned on the heating because her feet were cold?

[FartyPants9]

My parents are staying with me. We were in the sitting room of my house. My mother said her feet were cold and asked if anyone wanted the heating turned on, me and my father said we were fine and didn't need the heating turned on.

A short while later I started sweating really badly and felt hot and uncomfortable, I said I was hot and my mother replied "oh yeah, I turned the heating on", my father got annoyed and told her if her feet were cold she should have put a pair of socks and this started a loud argument between them.

I'm sensitive to loud noises so fled to the kitchen.

AIBU in being annoyed that she ignored that me and my father didn't want the heating on and put her own comfort first?

This is mildly annoying at best.

I'd have thrown her out of my house for speaking to anyone like that.

You need to start doing that because at the moment she doesn't think you will and is relying on that, so she'll just continue.

OP - a lot of posters here don't read all the follow up posts. You posted about a minor issue with the heating / socks, but didn't give the full context in your original post, so most of the replies you are getting are useless to you.

You suffered abuse as a child, and are still suffering now. I recommend you start another post about how to deal with your parents, giving a fuller picture, in the relationships board not AIBU.

I put thick socks on when my feel are cold.

Anyone not wearing socks in October has no right to an opinion about the heating.

How was OP's reaction extreme? She simply commented that she was hot and then left the room when her parents started shouting at each other.

Responses on MN can be really weird.

Yeah, I’d put the heating on for a guest.

It makes a difference what ages you are too.

I used to work at a big venue and the elderly women would complain it was freezing at the same time that the menopausal age women were complaining it was too hot. All the young female staff would be freezing too.

It’s not extreme in the context of autism abx family abuse - but it’s AIBU so people gaslight for the fun of it.

Haven't you read the OP's posts? Why leap in to start criticising her for not offering anything without checking whether that's correct? It isn't, by the way.

"Artisan slippers"?????

But having cold feet is something that is intrinsically easy to remedy without turning on heating and making everyone else in the house too hot.

So why do you click on those threads, let alone go to the trouble of posting on them?

This thread has become especially unhinged, yes.

I asked a question early on, the OP answered, and she answered others’ questions, and I read all her posts (which is easy to do).

It is now obvious that the OP’s mother is extremely unpleasant to the point of being offensive and abusive, and the OP finds this incredibly difficult to cope with.

This has nothing to do with lovely house slippers or heated throws.

Same reason as you, probably?

It’s wild isn't what it imprints on your body.

It was obvious from the second post where she’d had to leave the room that the reaction to the parents shouting was from someone with less than adequate parents who was damaged by that. Why people were banging on about heating is beyond me.

And? Slippers were right there and available to OP's mother, she chose not to put them on.

Quite right!

The point is that the post in question wasn't responding to the discussion, it was simply being snotty about the thread's existence.

I'll never understand why Brits have this obsession with not turning the heating on and they live in the cold. I mean - I've never ever seen this in any other country! Where I grew up (cold, 6-month long winters), heating was no 1 priority for the whole family, community and no 1 expense that you saved for the whole year. And you actually had to buy tones of coal and load it in your basement and then burn it down in your central heating system every single day for 6 months. It was never ever cold in my house - we didn't have the variety of food or entertainment the way it is today and life was very simple - not many ways to spend the money - so maybe that's the problem in the UK, that people prioritise other things to spend the money on? The average temperature in the house was 22-23 degrees with snow and frost outside and if the coal burnt out it was 17 degrees by noon the next day when I got back from school and my parents, who were at work, were always very worried that I was freezing! 1st thing they did after getting back home was to head down to the basement and make fire.

Do you regularly laugh at disabilities like autism?

Which guest? Why should one guest's comfort come above another's, especially when you've offered that guest a perfectly sensible way of alleviating any discomfort?

That’s not what this thread is about. It’s not cold in most parts of the U.K. at the moment. My bedroom was warmer than I like it last night (22°C), I don’t sleep well in a hot house.
The OP and her father weren’t cold. The selfish mother didn't even have socks on.

OP did offer her mother ways to warm up which she rejected. Letting her mother do what she wanted clearly would not have prevented her father shouting at her mother.

Is it absolutely necessary to have your parents staying with you in your house?
they sound utterly toxic, personally I would never invite them again ever!

If it's worth your while posting on it, it follows that it's not too trivial for a forum like this.