To have been upset at what DP said after we were intimate?

[Wifetobe26]

DP came home from the gym this afternoon and (rarely for him at the moment given he says he has lost a lot of his drive) instigated sex.

Afterwards we were chatting, and I said light heartedly that it was unlike him to want to do that on a Monday afternoon. He laughed and said the gym was full of women in leggings so he was feeling frisky.

I felt a bit shit at this…but don’t know if I’m being naive? He’s obviously entitled to think this but saying out loud seems unnecessary..

He’s a knob

Well, you won't let that happen again will you.

I am so sorry that he said that. I would not have liked this AT ALL does he usually speak to you like this? It’s shitty and would have put me off being intimate again!

so he gets his cheap thrills at the gym eyeing up woman in leggings then comes home to his darling wife to get his rocks off presumably while fantasizing about the leggings what a creep. This is not ok .

No he doesn’t usually make comments like this in front of me, I was really taken aback he said it.

This would make me feel shit too. Play him at his own game, next time you have sex say you were watching magic mike and your all hot and bothered. See how he likes it

The up their arse leggings would a lot of people “the urge” bit why in Hids name did he have to tell you. Why couldn’t he just say I wanted you because I fancy you - or words like that. Men can be so stupid

So he basically told you that he was only horny because of other women in the gym? He's either thick as shit and didn't realise how it would sound or he's a nasty cunt who wanted to hurt you. Only you know if he normally says or does stuff like this on the regular. Sorry he hurt you op

I swear I read this exact same post on here a while ago!
That would really put me off having sex with him again. Not only in a confidence way, but also the thought of him being the ogling gym letch that everyone gets the creeps about.

This seems very familiar.
Could it be a bloke re enacting what he's seen?

What an idiot. I would feel hurt and irrationally humiliated.

Assuming he wasn’t ogling them, it is of course ok and natural to feel some attraction/desire for people who aren’t your partner.

It was really shit of him to say so though.

Re him having lost sex drive - it’s also natural for that to ebb and flow, please don’t start to think that’s a reflection of him not being attracted to you.

It's a bit grim at the best of times. But the fact that he isn't normally up for it, but is when he sees other women's bums in leggings, is pretty insulting

Yeah me too. Was that OP?

Is he popping the steroids that tends to reduce their sector strive and turn them into a bit of a bastard?

No that wasn’t me

Yep, this was posted before, very recently.

I'm sure I've read the same post before.

Dont know why people go that. Unless it's two seperate people? Unlikely.

Maybe it was this one I was thinking of?
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5318066-upset-at-comment-dh-made-when-ttc?page=1

I hate that men are like this 😩

Not all men are like this.

But an awful lot of them are.

(I would say though that most of them would just think it, they would have the sense not to say it).

Ick ick ick 🤮

I'm not surprised you are feeling rubbish after that OP.

He has reduced you to just a hole to dump his load in. Nothing to do with either love, affection or caring. These other women made him randy and he used your body.

And what is absolutely devastating for you is he didnt even bother to hide it from you. He told you as it was .

I couldn't ever feel the same about him after that. Im sorry but he doesn't give a damn about you.

I can’t have any more children sadly, so certainly not me.

Well exactly

How many women would for example go for a swim and come home and jump their husband because the outline of other men’s genitalia in their speedos gave her the horn? Not many I reckon. Grim

Might be a helpful one to read through as it has quite a few replies on essentially the same issue