DP got me the wrong present.

[PresentBlunder]

I really wanted the brand new Dyson air wrap for my birthday, it’s almost £600 - I know, ridiculous.

I’ve been squirrelling money away for a couple of months. DP asked me what I’d like for my birthday and I said the air wrap, but it’s a lot of money, so perhaps a contribution towards it. He said he’d buy it for me as it’s a big birthday and he’s getting his bonus from work soon.

My DP is very good at shopping around, getting a discount, we often buy second hand from Facebook and eBay. However, I explained to him that because it’s brand new out (1 month), he likely won’t find it as a bargain anywhere and he’s best off buying it direct from Dyson with our daughters student discount. He agreed and I sent the link.

Come today, I’ve opened my present from him and it’s the Dyson air wrap from quite a few years ago. A much older model without the latest tech or attachments. He was ridiculously pleased with himself and told me he’d got it for much cheaper than the advertised price.

Would you just be honest with him? I don’t want to crush him, he was grinning like a Cheshire Cat, but it’s not what I wanted and I’d rather return it and put the money towards the one I actually wanted. I also don’t want to see ungrateful as it was a lovely gesture.

Or I could just return it and buy the one I want and he’ll likely never know?

He should have twigged that the price for what you wanted was too good to be true.

Does he want to buy some magic beans? 😆

I suppose, to a lot of people - most men especially - £600 is a load of money to spend on 'just a fancy hairdryer', so it would probably never occur to him that a still-hefty £300 could possibly be 'too cheap' to be true.

Except that, all along, he ignored everything that she told him and assumed he knew better about what she wanted - and had been fully willing and planning to pay for herself until he inserted himself in the situation as Super Bargain Hairdryer Buyer Man.

It's a bit like the stupid old 'joke' about insisting on helping an old lady to cross the road, even if she didn't want to cross.

Also, it's also very red-flaggy with him saying that he 'always gets a deal on everything'. Not that he always tries to find a deal, but that he always gets one. In the many things where an actual deal just isn't available, the only thing he can mean is that he cuts corners, gets something inferior/unsuitable and says "that'll do" once he thinks the price is too high.

Congrats!! Please let us know how it is and share before and after photos 👀

My mind is blown by the number of people who would be disappointed by the present but would pretend it was all fine than go to the massive palaver of secretly selling it and rebuying the right one or making do with what they never wanted. I find it strangely dishonest and self effacing.

Gift from someone more distant - I'd be super grateful and touched that they'd thought of me. Close family - still very happy and grateful to receive anything, but if they've wanted to get a specific item and it's wrong, I'm telling them. No one in my family would be upset by this in the slightest.

Say something, I think he would rather know . My husband bought me a mulberry handbag for a big birthday as he knew I always wanted one . He asked my sister which one I liked . He wanted to get it . On the day of my birthday it was the bag but a much bigger bag , like an overnight version. When I told him what it was he laughed and said he would return it , and that now he realised why it was so cheap . It was on sale from mulberry . I did get my bag but it cost him £300 more but he was happy that I got the right one. I think the deceit of you exchanging without his knowledge will be worse than you telling him .

if imagine he wouldn’t notice you quietly replaced it for the one you want.

Ok, you're right. Sorry about that 🫢 I don't know why I still think hoover when I hear of a Dyson!

She could just tell him I guess, in a nice way. And use the one he gave her for the time being. Could be handy having a spare in case she misplaces the other or if it breaks!

Nowhere in her post does it say he actually bought it from Facebook! They usually buy off Facebook but she told him to buy direct from dyson. He may have bought the older model on the dyson website. Her post does not say he got it from Facebook! The whole point of the post is whether she should tell her husband he got the wrong one! How do you not know that! 😊

I thought she said her DH admitted he bought it from Maketplace for £300.

She says he got it on marketplace. So she can’t return it.

The entire point of this thread is that he was told what to buy, where to buy it and how to use the discount. Instead he bought the wrong one, from Facebook, meaning it cannot be returned and isn’t what she wanted.

It’s all in the OP’s posts.

Explain it to him this way:

Imagine he said he wanted a new PS5 with the latest game just released. You said you’d buy it for him. Then rocked up with a second hand PS1 with the game FIFA 2004. Grinning like a Cheshire Cat because you got a great deal on it. And then sulked when he wasn’t pleased with it.

Ask him if he’d be happy with that.

Arf.
I am a good deal lover too and I can see his efforts! I am sure she can too hence the hesitation. If you can’t…well…too bad?

Yeah I don't see the effort, if you go and buy the wrong thing on purpose. I would not get DH an use Iphone 11 because it was a massive bargain, if he says he wants the 17 pro.

Because I am too nice, as I said.

Yes, it is being too nice.
That's just me.
I would be like that for anyone.
I would get the daughter involved to make sure my idiot partner got it right.
Maybe I have lower expectations.
I don't get disappointed often.

It's not nice to the daughter, is it?

You're not 'too nice'. You're a doormat who wants to throw other people down to be walked on as well.

Trust me, not a doormat! I choose my battles.

You sent him the link and he still managed to buy a different product - tell him, and get it changed......

Can confirm it’s fabulous 😁

To me this is all fairly simple.
He didn't understand that two products with the same name had such relevant differences between model versions.
He didn't do it out of malice, at worst it was ignorance, probably electronic hair equipment is not something that he deals with too frequently!
He tried, with good intentions, and as usual, some of your reactions to him are ott

He didn't understand that two products with the same name had such relevant differences between model versions.

Except that OP explained to him in detail that she only wants this one, specific newest model that just came out.
Men generally manage to understand differences between Playstation 4 and 5 just fine, or that Garmin Fenix 5 is not the same as Garmin Fenix 8 Pro, I don't think it's that difficult to grasp that other things also may have newer and older models.