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DP got me the wrong present.

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PresentBlunder · 04/10/2025 17:35

I really wanted the brand new Dyson air wrap for my birthday, it’s almost £600 - I know, ridiculous.

I’ve been squirrelling money away for a couple of months. DP asked me what I’d like for my birthday and I said the air wrap, but it’s a lot of money, so perhaps a contribution towards it. He said he’d buy it for me as it’s a big birthday and he’s getting his bonus from work soon.

My DP is very good at shopping around, getting a discount, we often buy second hand from Facebook and eBay. However, I explained to him that because it’s brand new out (1 month), he likely won’t find it as a bargain anywhere and he’s best off buying it direct from Dyson with our daughters student discount. He agreed and I sent the link.

Come today, I’ve opened my present from him and it’s the Dyson air wrap from quite a few years ago. A much older model without the latest tech or attachments. He was ridiculously pleased with himself and told me he’d got it for much cheaper than the advertised price.

Would you just be honest with him? I don’t want to crush him, he was grinning like a Cheshire Cat, but it’s not what I wanted and I’d rather return it and put the money towards the one I actually wanted. I also don’t want to see ungrateful as it was a lovely gesture.

Or I could just return it and buy the one I want and he’ll likely never know?

OP posts:
Aghast1066 · 05/10/2025 21:48

Sorry. Responded to the wrong post. Meant to respond to Gcsunnyside23.

PuppyMonkey · 05/10/2025 21:49

I’m really loving the “it’s only a hoover” confusion on the thread. Grin

RhaenysRocks · 05/10/2025 22:07

ThatRubyRaven · 05/10/2025 19:08

  1. ”very very” is a tautology
  2. it’s great you were there to be able to clarify that beyond reasonable doubt

Oh piss off. It's a chat forum not a thesis or a courtroom . And she sent him the link so if say that's beyond reasonable doubt yes.

RhaenysRocks · 05/10/2025 22:10

Gcsunnyside23 · 05/10/2025 20:10

I'm confident because I'm correct,. Just because you were using it in that sense doesn't make you right, tautology only covers using different words not repetition. You were trying to be rude to the other poster, if you're going to be that type of person at least be right

Thank you. I teach philosophy and also know that "very very" is not a tautology but decided not to pounce. I was more annoyed by the idea that we shouldnt comment unless we were "there".. would pretty much make every thread impossible. 😂

RhaenysRocks · 05/10/2025 22:14

ThatRubyRaven · 05/10/2025 20:49

Actually, tautology does include rhetorical repetition — that’s well established in both classical and modern rhetoric. I’ve a master’s in the field, before you tread further down this undulated path of yours. In hindsight, I probably could’ve just said that the other poster’s lack of suitable vocabulary, and what was essentially just their opinion, being stated as fact, was what was truly offensive. I did think that rude though. Still, it’s always oddly entertaining to see someone so eager to play the resident pick-me pedant. By all means do continue if it pleases you.

It wasn't my opinion that she sent him a link...how much clearer do instructions need to be than that? And "offensive"? Again, this is a chat forum. No need to take it so seriously. Especially not when it's on p14 and many many (ooh see what I did there) posters have repeated that she cannot exchange or refund the item due it to being a secondhand FB purchase, yet people are still suggesting it.

ThatRubyRaven · 05/10/2025 22:21

RhaenysRocks · 05/10/2025 22:14

It wasn't my opinion that she sent him a link...how much clearer do instructions need to be than that? And "offensive"? Again, this is a chat forum. No need to take it so seriously. Especially not when it's on p14 and many many (ooh see what I did there) posters have repeated that she cannot exchange or refund the item due it to being a secondhand FB purchase, yet people are still suggesting it.

Maybe you have a little too much time on your hands

ThatRubyRaven · 05/10/2025 22:28

RhaenysRocks · 05/10/2025 22:07

Oh piss off. It's a chat forum not a thesis or a courtroom . And she sent him the link so if say that's beyond reasonable doubt yes.

You’re right, it’s not a courtroom; if it were, your argument would’ve been thrown out for lack of evidence (and excessive whining).

ThatRubyRaven · 05/10/2025 22:31

RhaenysRocks · 05/10/2025 22:10

Thank you. I teach philosophy and also know that "very very" is not a tautology but decided not to pounce. I was more annoyed by the idea that we shouldnt comment unless we were "there".. would pretty much make every thread impossible. 😂

Having this one’s backing isn’t the flex you think it is - they’ve nitpicked everyone who’s ever disagreed with them. Here’s a bit of philosophy for you: swearing (as in your last post) is what’s left when articulation fails.

pineapplesundae · 05/10/2025 22:33

Door #2!

Megifer · 05/10/2025 22:33

Please.....someone make it stop 😩

RhaenysRocks · 05/10/2025 22:45

ThatRubyRaven · 05/10/2025 22:31

Having this one’s backing isn’t the flex you think it is - they’ve nitpicked everyone who’s ever disagreed with them. Here’s a bit of philosophy for you: swearing (as in your last post) is what’s left when articulation fails.

No idea what your issue is but I'm off to bed. Night night.

trainkeepsgoing · 05/10/2025 23:00

And how is it? Does it work wonders on your hair?

Gcsunnyside23 · 05/10/2025 23:39

ThatRubyRaven · 05/10/2025 20:49

Actually, tautology does include rhetorical repetition — that’s well established in both classical and modern rhetoric. I’ve a master’s in the field, before you tread further down this undulated path of yours. In hindsight, I probably could’ve just said that the other poster’s lack of suitable vocabulary, and what was essentially just their opinion, being stated as fact, was what was truly offensive. I did think that rude though. Still, it’s always oddly entertaining to see someone so eager to play the resident pick-me pedant. By all means do continue if it pleases you.

Concerned that you might have a masters 'in the field' and can't recognise that you were wrong and it's not tautology but I don't need a degree 'in the field' to know that

Gcsunnyside23 · 05/10/2025 23:40

RhaenysRocks · 05/10/2025 22:10

Thank you. I teach philosophy and also know that "very very" is not a tautology but decided not to pounce. I was more annoyed by the idea that we shouldnt comment unless we were "there".. would pretty much make every thread impossible. 😂

I know I really shouldn't have but but couldn't help it when the poster was being so rude

likeacircleinaspirallikeawheelwithinawheel · 06/10/2025 01:06

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rosyvalentine · 06/10/2025 02:34

The original Air Wrap is still available from Dyson online for £300, so maybe he bought it there? In which case it should be easy to exchange for the latest model.

PyongyangKipperbang · 06/10/2025 02:35

rosyvalentine · 06/10/2025 02:34

The original Air Wrap is still available from Dyson online for £300, so maybe he bought it there? In which case it should be easy to exchange for the latest model.

Cant be arsed to go through it, but read the whole thread, or atleast the OPs updates

likeacircleinaspirallikeawheelwithinawheel · 06/10/2025 02:37

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rosyvalentine · 06/10/2025 02:37

Oops sorry. Hadn't read the latest posts. Enjoy your new Airwrap OP!

ThatRubyRaven · 06/10/2025 06:39

Gcsunnyside23 · 05/10/2025 23:39

Concerned that you might have a masters 'in the field' and can't recognise that you were wrong and it's not tautology but I don't need a degree 'in the field' to know that

Are you okay?

HedgehogCrisps · 06/10/2025 07:23

Gruffporcupine · 04/10/2025 20:40

Out of interest, I have really long and heavy hair. If I got one would it be really quick and easy for me to make it look nice and styled in the mornings? I've never used one and been umming and ahhing about getting one

@Gruffporcupine

It isn't really any quicker but it is far kinder to my hair than the hairdryer and straightener method. I have a head full of long, wavy hair and have lost a lot through peri. It has given me far more volume and the condition has really improved.

I get a lot of compliments too so it must be noticeable.

Glad you sorted yourself out OP. Can you report back with a review?!

LilacReader · 06/10/2025 10:10

i don't think I've missed any update on this - but did he buy you any present in the end for your Birthday? Or is he just going to get his money back for his present and you end up with nothing from him?

Joloman74 · 06/10/2025 11:15

PrincessOfPreschool · 04/10/2025 17:49

Good question. Also, if it's secondhand, can you even return it? If you can, I would ask him if you can have however much he spent on it and then add that to what you already have.

It isn't second hand, she said in the post he was getting it from dysin and using the student discount!

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 06/10/2025 11:16

Joloman74 · 06/10/2025 11:15

It isn't second hand, she said in the post he was getting it from dysin and using the student discount!

No, that's what she told him to do.

What he actually did was buy an old model secondhand from Facebook.

Bobiverse · 06/10/2025 11:17

Joloman74 · 06/10/2025 11:15

It isn't second hand, she said in the post he was getting it from dysin and using the student discount!

The whole thread is about the fact that he didn’t do that!

He bought an old model second hand from Facebook. That’s the entire point of the thread. How do you not know that?

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