DP got me the wrong present.

[PresentBlunder]

I really wanted the brand new Dyson air wrap for my birthday, it’s almost £600 - I know, ridiculous.

I’ve been squirrelling money away for a couple of months. DP asked me what I’d like for my birthday and I said the air wrap, but it’s a lot of money, so perhaps a contribution towards it. He said he’d buy it for me as it’s a big birthday and he’s getting his bonus from work soon.

My DP is very good at shopping around, getting a discount, we often buy second hand from Facebook and eBay. However, I explained to him that because it’s brand new out (1 month), he likely won’t find it as a bargain anywhere and he’s best off buying it direct from Dyson with our daughters student discount. He agreed and I sent the link.

Come today, I’ve opened my present from him and it’s the Dyson air wrap from quite a few years ago. A much older model without the latest tech or attachments. He was ridiculously pleased with himself and told me he’d got it for much cheaper than the advertised price.

Would you just be honest with him? I don’t want to crush him, he was grinning like a Cheshire Cat, but it’s not what I wanted and I’d rather return it and put the money towards the one I actually wanted. I also don’t want to see ungrateful as it was a lovely gesture.

Or I could just return it and buy the one I want and he’ll likely never know?

Just thinking if a way she can communicate her needs to him and still get the Dyson she wants

I come from 20 years of being a doormat to a narcissist, so I suppose I tend to appease rather than say how I really feel. I’m learning!

Get the receipt to “ register the guarantee “ then change it. He’ll probably never know unless he’s like my DH who is obsessed with vacuuming.

Wanker - this is s**t. I had this with my EX

Wow I can’t believe the responses to this post.. you’re all acting like this man is the worst husband to ever exist. He tried to get a deal and made a fool of himself, yes, but the grown up thing for OP to do would simply be to say ‘sorry this isn’t quite what I wanted- I get you’re proud of the discount but the more expensive one is what I need’ and then ask if it could be returned and have an adult discussion about it. Honestly what these responses prove is that MN is full of entitled privileged people who expect to be brought everything they want with no questions. Completely ridiculous

Some of y’all are really making some assumptions about OP’s DH; personality, ego, motive. OP already stated that shopping around and buying second hand or refurbed is a lifestyle choice for them in general. This seems like an honest mistake and maybe DH was grinning like a Cheshire Cat because he thought it meant OP could keep her savings for something else.

Anyway, I’d gently tell him — he sounds like a great guy who just wants to make you happy and was operating within what he thought were your usual joint parameters for purchases. He’d rather know. And it can be a gentle lesson rather than a scathing one. Happy Birthday!

That's lovely, thank you so much. Didn't they have the new model that I sent you a link for in stock?

But she was very very clear to him. She specifically addressed the fact that there are others, cheaper, older ones out there but the one she sent him the link for is what she wants. It wasn't an honest mistake, it was him not listening and thinking his own plan was better.

Just change it and don't tell him. He won't notice.

Have you RTFT?

She can't because the stupid twat actually bought a secondhand one from a complete stranger on Facebook.

The op said her dh told her HE didnt think there would be that much difference in the models. He knew he wasn't buying the right one. He went for the cheap one that wasnt right because it was more important that it was cheap rather than what op asked for. He knows.

and there are many more posts after where you seemingly gave up reading.

You can ask for anything you want for your birthday. That is up to you.

But why not something for you rather than a household item?

YANBU. You did as much as was humanely possible to help your DH make the purchase you specifically asked for.

Men think differently. I learned this lesson quite early on in our relationship when DH, then boyfriend, bought me a toaster. I was speechless as was dropping hints about perfume. Anyway, turns out it was because I'd been burgled a week previous and a toaster was one of the items stolen. He is very practical, you see. At Christmas he bought me a watch because I would ask him the time (before mobiles). I actually dislike wearing anything on my arm which is why I don't wear a watch. Anyway that was decades ago and we are still together. Nowadays we buy each other special weekend away and tickets for shows we know each other would like.

How is a dyson air wrap a household item?

are people classing them as household items?!

people, read OPs posts. She can't return it or exchange it or get any guarantees registered, it was a second hand item from Facebook.

Return it. No question. You were very clear on what you wanted and you were prepared to get it for yourself and had already figured out a discount.

I would just be very straight. It's annoying and time wasting.

Just seen the update. He needs to figure it out. He can resell and recoup the money. What an absolute ball ache.

M

This!

Ouch…

that is a tough one.

I would say nothing because he tried and did really good. If possible?

just read updates so my post was pointless lol x

In which way exactly did he do really good, when he bought an old, used model when he had been specifically told that this is not what op wants?

Exactly! He completely messed up.