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To think the Manchester terrorist attack today shows the growing Anti-Semitism

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Longingdreamer · 02/10/2025 21:17

... and how Jews are not protected in this country.

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HavingYouTubeDoesntMakeYouAFilmmaker · 03/10/2025 09:59

clipboardz · 03/10/2025 09:35

Worshipers in Manchester are not to blame for the genocide and must not be conflated with it.

well that ships sailed...

No it hasn’t.

Many of us - including Jews - abhor the genocide without holding anyone other than the Israeli government accountable for it.

We also abhor the murderous horror of 7/10 and the continued kidnapping of Israelis, as well as all the other hideous crimes perpetuated by Hamas.

We are even intelligent enough to realise those things do not mean all Jews or Muslims are hateful people.

AlphonsaAlpaca · 03/10/2025 09:59

CleopatraSelene · 03/10/2025 09:45

Some Muslim schools talk about welcoming non Myslims though. I suspect many non Muslim parents would appeal also due to potential language issued if pupils might generally speak a language their child doesn't.

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=www.tighs.com/inclusion/welcoming-non-muslim-students/&ved=2ahUKEwi7vJKr0YeQAxWhVEEAHSTuLHkQFnoECBcQAQ&usg=AOvVaw1J2Co7w7BV5n_MmzWDgciK

What’s the relevance? Many Jewish schools accept non Jews.
The point made was that Jews “segregate themselves” into Jewish schools and Muslims don’t. This clearly isn’t the case. There are more Muslim schools.

My daughter attended a school in north London that was predominantly Muslim families with poor English, so although the school did brilliantly in supporting those children to learn English and achieve, it was to the detriment of the 5 or so mother tongue English kids in the class. We pulled our daughter out of it. She’s mixed race. We had no issues with her going to the school other than lack of support/challenge. It was not however a “Muslim school” despite being 80% Muslim, and I suspect there are many more similar.

Jujujudo · 03/10/2025 09:59

MidnightMusing5 · 03/10/2025 09:55

Genuine question:- how do the Jewish community try to integrate to all areas of society? Any out reach etc to break down stereotypes? I don’t mean just going and making a speech, but actually having friends and making friendships with those from all other communities? (I don’t live in a city where there is a large Jewish community, so I wouldn’t know) I would love to know anyone responding, how many friends you have of Muslim faith? What have you ever done to try and make friends?

I think it’s important to mix and make friendship’s from all communities to help break down these negative stereotypes. Do you post a card through your neighbours doors to wish them a happy Eid etc? (I post Diwali card and Christmas cards . I’m lucky to live in a mixed community. I don’t know anyone openly Jewish. If I did, I would do exactly the same. ) Do your faith leaders work with other faith leaders? I think it’s important ALL people of faith and none should make an effort to have friendships from all communities. It’s a small but significant step all of us could take.

As a Muslim myself, I was deeply saddened by what happened. It was unislamic and pointless. You don’t improve relationships by killing each other! He did no favours for our community either and I will now receive hate because of it (!)

I dont view all Jewish people as bad. Why? Because of an experience I had as a child. (I didn’t at the time realise how significant it was at the time, but as an adult I do and it has stuck with me)
when I was younger, there was a girl in our class from Israel named Dana. (I was 10 and my parents had never said anything horrible about Israel and Jews so , to me she was just another girl - with a lovely tan)
anyway, she had a sister called Noah (younger than her) her dad I think was over studying at the local uni. She played with us in the playgrounds, taught us how to play “five stone”. Showed us pictures of her family mango farm in Israel.
one day my mum forgot to pick me up (something happened at home)
I was alone in the playground (this was from a time when there were no school gates. And Dana parents waited with me until someone came to collect me. (I wore ethnic clothing I was the only girl in my class that was brown) No one else. Just Dana parents. That act has stuck with me for life and I refuse to hate all Jewish people for what is happening in the Middle East. This is what I mean by those small acts that we all can do in communities to break down stereotypes and build relationships.
Changing things at grass roots level.

Fucking hell mate! Are you taking the piss???????

nomas · 03/10/2025 10:00

RingoJuice · 03/10/2025 09:53

Yeah but it also works in reverse. I remember my very secular, professional Muslim colleague raised their entire life in the UK (we went out drinking a lot together lol) mentioning that the Charlie Hebdo staff deserved what they got. I think they felt emboldened to say it because it was a very Muslim-heavy group, sadly nobody pushed back.

…. I quietly ended the friendship.

Yes, there are knobs everywhere, they should be avoided.

It’s when people generalise about an entire group of people that it becomes problematic.

MyHeartyCoralSnail · 03/10/2025 10:01

Apparently the perpetrator was granted uk citizenship at 16 according to the BBC. Presumably, under Reforms plans, if he had lived he could have had his citizenship revoked and been deported?

We do need to take this conversation further though than just looking at new immigrants. Many second and third generation are the ones being radicalised on our own shores. We need a much broader conversation about how this is happening, how people can be better integrated by removing some of the barriers of integration. We need a conversation about multiculturalism and whether this is the best model in which people of different origins can co-exist. Whether the emphasis on multiculturalism rather than integration has resulted in a larger breakdown of society, the need for a common culture, dominant rites and traditions would actually be a much better model

CleopatraSelene · 03/10/2025 10:01

cordialzempy · 03/10/2025 09:59

As a second generation British Jew who has no link to Israel, I find your last paragraph here absolutely fucking terrifying. How am I meant to keep my children safe if this is true? And I believe you when you say it is. And that you are totally fine with it.

Sending a 🫂. We need to watch out for people like this poster irl & stamp on this radicalisation so that people like you do not need to feel afraid. It's horrible.

ThatCyanCat · 03/10/2025 10:01

MidnightMusing5 · 03/10/2025 09:55

Genuine question:- how do the Jewish community try to integrate to all areas of society? Any out reach etc to break down stereotypes? I don’t mean just going and making a speech, but actually having friends and making friendships with those from all other communities? (I don’t live in a city where there is a large Jewish community, so I wouldn’t know) I would love to know anyone responding, how many friends you have of Muslim faith? What have you ever done to try and make friends?

I think it’s important to mix and make friendship’s from all communities to help break down these negative stereotypes. Do you post a card through your neighbours doors to wish them a happy Eid etc? (I post Diwali card and Christmas cards . I’m lucky to live in a mixed community. I don’t know anyone openly Jewish. If I did, I would do exactly the same. ) Do your faith leaders work with other faith leaders? I think it’s important ALL people of faith and none should make an effort to have friendships from all communities. It’s a small but significant step all of us could take.

As a Muslim myself, I was deeply saddened by what happened. It was unislamic and pointless. You don’t improve relationships by killing each other! He did no favours for our community either and I will now receive hate because of it (!)

I dont view all Jewish people as bad. Why? Because of an experience I had as a child. (I didn’t at the time realise how significant it was at the time, but as an adult I do and it has stuck with me)
when I was younger, there was a girl in our class from Israel named Dana. (I was 10 and my parents had never said anything horrible about Israel and Jews so , to me she was just another girl - with a lovely tan)
anyway, she had a sister called Noah (younger than her) her dad I think was over studying at the local uni. She played with us in the playgrounds, taught us how to play “five stone”. Showed us pictures of her family mango farm in Israel.
one day my mum forgot to pick me up (something happened at home)
I was alone in the playground (this was from a time when there were no school gates. And Dana parents waited with me until someone came to collect me. (I wore ethnic clothing I was the only girl in my class that was brown) No one else. Just Dana parents. That act has stuck with me for life and I refuse to hate all Jewish people for what is happening in the Middle East. This is what I mean by those small acts that we all can do in communities to break down stereotypes and build relationships.
Changing things at grass roots level.

What? You don't think Jewish people make friends often with non Jews? You have to ask whether it happens much?

With a viewpoint like that, I'm not sure I trust anything you have to say about integration.

I dont view all Jewish people as bad.

How noble of you!

AlphonsaAlpaca · 03/10/2025 10:02

Jujujudo · 03/10/2025 09:59

Fucking hell mate! Are you taking the piss???????

I just saw this. Absolutely wild!

EasternStandard · 03/10/2025 10:03

cordialzempy · 03/10/2025 09:59

As a second generation British Jew who has no link to Israel, I find your last paragraph here absolutely fucking terrifying. How am I meant to keep my children safe if this is true? And I believe you when you say it is. And that you are totally fine with it.

I’m sorry. What that is poster is writing has no place here.

verybighouseinthecountry · 03/10/2025 10:03

Livelovebehappy · 03/10/2025 09:06

This is what’s happening now. People saying ‘yes, what has happened is abhorrent BUT…’. There is no ‘but’. We’re talking about the murders of people yesterday. Not about what’s happened in the world over the last decades. Want to address that, then start another thread. There are families waking up today faced with planning the burials of their loved ones.

And I don't agree with that at all. There should be no"....but...." I do however think it's really important to put out facts here. The Jews are not the only group facing these risks. I only mentioned this in response to a poster saying no other group gets told this. And people saying "getting a taxi is not not like getting murdered!" Well, of course it isn't, no one said it was equal. There is a risk to life and that is why they are being told to stay indoors/not congregate/get escorted to work.
Sending peace and love 💐

clipboardz · 03/10/2025 10:04

As a second generation British Jew who has no link to Israel, I find your last paragraph here absolutely fucking terrifying. How am I meant to keep my children safe if this is true? And I believe you when you say it is. And that you are totally fine with it.

It absolutely is terrifying

Jujujudo · 03/10/2025 10:04

cordialzempy · 03/10/2025 09:59

As a second generation British Jew who has no link to Israel, I find your last paragraph here absolutely fucking terrifying. How am I meant to keep my children safe if this is true? And I believe you when you say it is. And that you are totally fine with it.

This is the problem. Killing Jews is always somehow justified. From poisoning wells, using children’s blood in our food, for being rich, for being not white enough, for needing a country, for defending our children. Always there’s a reason or excuse. That’s antisemitism. Right here in black and white on this very forum. Bnei Zonot kulhem.

LizzieW1969 · 03/10/2025 10:04

The Gaza conflict might well be the reason given for this appalling act of terrorism. But it should never be given in such a way as to appear to justify it. It should be condemned completely, same as any other act of terrorism.

And this isn’t the day to be talking about the reasons behind the attacks, we should be standing with the Jewish community in this country as they come to terms with what’s happened.

CleopatraSelene · 03/10/2025 10:04

MyHeartyCoralSnail · 03/10/2025 10:01

Apparently the perpetrator was granted uk citizenship at 16 according to the BBC. Presumably, under Reforms plans, if he had lived he could have had his citizenship revoked and been deported?

We do need to take this conversation further though than just looking at new immigrants. Many second and third generation are the ones being radicalised on our own shores. We need a much broader conversation about how this is happening, how people can be better integrated by removing some of the barriers of integration. We need a conversation about multiculturalism and whether this is the best model in which people of different origins can co-exist. Whether the emphasis on multiculturalism rather than integration has resulted in a larger breakdown of society, the need for a common culture, dominant rites and traditions would actually be a much better model

I personally believe we should ban faith schools. I know in some areas faith schools are the best options academically so that's hard...that needs to change.

Buy otoh if we just banned Muslim schools that would be unfair.

The problem is that in places like Bradford teens are growing up with mainly Muslim schools, Muslim friends...how cam they integrate if all they know are other Muslims?

I suppose a compromise would be that Muslim schools by law have to take a quota of non Muslims. But how many would want their kids to go to a Muslim school?

I believe schools etc that enable parallel non integrated communities are a big part of the problem.

HavingYouTubeDoesntMakeYouAFilmmaker · 03/10/2025 10:05

clipboardz · 03/10/2025 09:45

@HavingYouTubeDoesntMakeYouAFilmmaker so you are ignoring my questions?

You clearly have misunderstood my original point

What questions? I don’t think I’ve ignored anything but feel free to ask again.

Pissedoffandneedtovent · 03/10/2025 10:06

CleopatraSelene · 03/10/2025 10:04

I personally believe we should ban faith schools. I know in some areas faith schools are the best options academically so that's hard...that needs to change.

Buy otoh if we just banned Muslim schools that would be unfair.

The problem is that in places like Bradford teens are growing up with mainly Muslim schools, Muslim friends...how cam they integrate if all they know are other Muslims?

I suppose a compromise would be that Muslim schools by law have to take a quota of non Muslims. But how many would want their kids to go to a Muslim school?

I believe schools etc that enable parallel non integrated communities are a big part of the problem.

If people wanted to integrate, they would 🤷‍♀️ it’s entirely natural for people to want to live among people they feel are likeminded and share their way of life, it’s just it’s only racist when it’s white Brits saying this (and by ‘likeminded’ they don’t even mean white - just peaceful, law abiding and not trying to force dogmatic religion at everyone all the time).

CleopatraSelene · 03/10/2025 10:07

ThatCyanCat · 03/10/2025 10:01

What? You don't think Jewish people make friends often with non Jews? You have to ask whether it happens much?

With a viewpoint like that, I'm not sure I trust anything you have to say about integration.

I dont view all Jewish people as bad.

How noble of you!

I'm thinking that pp probably is thinking of very practicing Jews like the Haredi who keep more to themselves often.

Most Jews are secular here so it seems an odd comment unless she meant Ultra Orthodox ones

SpaceRaccoon · 03/10/2025 10:07

War doesn't target civilians.

Bombing of Dresden?

clipboardz · 03/10/2025 10:08

Many of us - including Jews - abhor the genocide without holding anyone other than the Israeli government accountable for it.

You can't really be unaware that many people are blaming jewish people for the Isreal governments actions.

caringcarer · 03/10/2025 10:08

HermioneWeasley · 02/10/2025 21:28

YANBU

the men who drove around north London calling for the death and rape of Jews several years ago were never charged which tells you all you need to know about how seriously this country takes threats against its Jewish population.

spontaneous “pro Palestine” protests have been permitted across the UK this evening. Why do they feel the need to do it today? It can only be further intimidation of Jewish communities.

it’s an absolute disgrace

I agree with this and KS should never have sided with Hamas by recognising Palestine as a state whilst they were in charge. I think these murders are partly on him. He was warned something like this could happen but chose to go ahead anyway. His wife is Jewish and I don't know how she can bare to be married to him, especially after this.

ThatCyanCat · 03/10/2025 10:09

CleopatraSelene · 03/10/2025 10:07

I'm thinking that pp probably is thinking of very practicing Jews like the Haredi who keep more to themselves often.

Most Jews are secular here so it seems an odd comment unless she meant Ultra Orthodox ones

The fact that she didn't know they are only one part of the British Jewish community again suggests that she is not in a position to lecture about integration.

I'm not aware of any social or societal problems the Haredi cause anyway.

Bloozie · 03/10/2025 10:09

HavingYouTubeDoesntMakeYouAFilmmaker · 03/10/2025 09:59

No it hasn’t.

Many of us - including Jews - abhor the genocide without holding anyone other than the Israeli government accountable for it.

We also abhor the murderous horror of 7/10 and the continued kidnapping of Israelis, as well as all the other hideous crimes perpetuated by Hamas.

We are even intelligent enough to realise those things do not mean all Jews or Muslims are hateful people.

THIS

MidnightMusing5 · 03/10/2025 10:09

ThatCyanCat · 03/10/2025 10:01

What? You don't think Jewish people make friends often with non Jews? You have to ask whether it happens much?

With a viewpoint like that, I'm not sure I trust anything you have to say about integration.

I dont view all Jewish people as bad.

How noble of you!

@ThatCyanCat ”don’t view all Jewish as bad” I was hoping the readers could infer. Knowing I’m muslim, one would assume we all hate Jewish people. I was highlighting me don’t!
I was asking about Jewish people making friends specifically with Muslims or even if not that, how on a grass root level you tried? Eg I have a neighbour which (I assumed was a bit right wing) I say hello and I post a Xmas card through his door once a year. It’s my way of reaching out .

like I said, I live in a city where there is no large Jewish community. I’ve HEARD certain things so my way of reaching out is asking the community on here, what do you do?

CleopatraSelene · 03/10/2025 10:10

Pissedoffandneedtovent · 03/10/2025 10:06

If people wanted to integrate, they would 🤷‍♀️ it’s entirely natural for people to want to live among people they feel are likeminded and share their way of life, it’s just it’s only racist when it’s white Brits saying this (and by ‘likeminded’ they don’t even mean white - just peaceful, law abiding and not trying to force dogmatic religion at everyone all the time).

You're missing the point. The younger generation's views are shaped in childhood & adolescence. If all they know are fundamentalist Muslims, how will they integrate? If parents are discouraging their kids from integrating we need to take steps to promote it

We can't just say if they want to they will, that's abdicating responsibility to prevent the cycle continuing.

HavingYouTubeDoesntMakeYouAFilmmaker · 03/10/2025 10:10

Strangerthanfictions · 03/10/2025 09:54

How do you think the world would be if we all tried to return to land that was occupied by groups 100s of years ago?? You can't just do that?? The Romans can reclaim England? Behave yourself it's utter nonsense

Don’t tell me to behave myself, I’m not your child.

I was pointing out the logical fallacy of suggesting Israel’s actions are in some way justified because the Jews were kicked off the land.

I was making the same point you were to the previous poster. If you’re going to be patronising, at least make sure your comprehension is on point.

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