Page 8 | Was I in the wrong? Neighbour issue?

hallogalorrr · 2025-09-29T09:05:20+00:00

I created a private Facebook group for the 3 streets on the new build estate where I live. Most of my neighbours are on it. My next door neighbour who lives next to me has stopped speaking to me now as from what I gather her and her partner were annoyed that I didn’t invite them to join the group. I did ask my other next door neighbour to join. Yesterday we got back at the same time in our cars and I could tell they didn’t want to acknowledge me or say hello as they just sat in their car until I had gone in. My neighbour would also take by bin and parcels but has stopped. Is my next door neighbour right to be annoyed and AIBU?

TheDenimPoet · 29/09/2025 16:41

hallogalorrr · 29/09/2025 11:02

I didn’t think that she would want to join as I think her and her OH like to keep themselves to themselves.

She does make it fairly obvious now that she dosent want to engage in convo (she used to chat before) and just walks off when she see’s me.

They should have been invited. You've excluded them, it's like petty playground behaviour. I'm not surprised they're annoyed at you now.

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 29/09/2025 16:45

"I deliberately excluded my neighbour because I couldn't let her make up her own mind and now she's annoyed at me. AIBU?"

Yes OP, you made her feel like you didn't want her around and she was hurt by it

HeartandSeoul · 29/09/2025 16:48

OriginalSkang · 29/09/2025 10:23

This is a reverse

My thoughts exactly.

LBFseBrom · 29/09/2025 16:51

You should have asked them to join the group, left it up to them whether or not they took you up on it. It should have been a general invitation to all in those streets.

You could bite the bullet and tell them it was merely an oversight on your part - though we know it wasn't, you assumed they would not be interested.

It all sounds quite horrible and cliquely.

IsItSnowing · 29/09/2025 16:52

hallogalorrr · 29/09/2025 11:50

Another neighbour down the road she is friendly with her mentioned it to her from what I understand.

I do tend to speak and see my other neighbour more.

It was my daughters birthday and her other neighbours son birthday over the weekend as she went round with a card and gift for them but ignored my DC’s.

You’ll have to get used to that treatment now I expect. You started it after all.
You were very rude. Don’t be surprised if other neighbours find out and also decide you’re not worth bothering with.

Cherryicecreamx · 29/09/2025 16:59

Considering you invited the other neighbour, you should have invited them too. They probably think you have a problem with them and feel singled out.

MyCrushWithEyeliner · 29/09/2025 17:00

98% 😎

I’d ignore you too

ParmaVioletTea · 29/09/2025 17:11

hallogalorrr · 29/09/2025 11:50

Another neighbour down the road she is friendly with her mentioned it to her from what I understand.

I do tend to speak and see my other neighbour more.

It was my daughters birthday and her other neighbours son birthday over the weekend as she went round with a card and gift for them but ignored my DC’s.

Why are you surprised. You deliberately left her out of a neighbourhood group. That was an aggressively rude thing to do.

Yet you still sound aggrieved & perplexed. Weird.

AOIFEmissingUalways · 29/09/2025 17:15

Ohhhthedrama · 29/09/2025 15:20

It's all the drama mick, I just love it.

😆😆

OhTheProblemIsDefinitelyMe · 29/09/2025 17:23

I’d love to know why 2% actually think op wasn’t BUR.
Baffling!

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hallogalorrr · 29/09/2025 17:27

I tried to talk to her earlier when she got back from the school run.

In other words she said they wouldn’t want to join a neighbourhood chat as they don’t really find the people friendly apart from XYZ (neighbour across the street who she is friendly with) and she said they didn’t intend on sticking round here long and made a joke of saying “Let’s hope your new neighbours aren’t too nosy or noisy like most folk around here” and tuned her back to me before walking off.

I think she is referring my Ringdoor capturing some of her property ( I asked her once if that was her sister visiting when it pinged on my Ring).

She also has had an issue with my next door neighbour’s kids trespassing on her drive which I know she hated as it would wake her kids up.

I think they just hate living round here

I will pop round with some chocolate or something as I can see why they feel ostracised.

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Chiaseedling · 29/09/2025 17:27

Sounds ridiculous. On our development, anyone can be on the WhatsApp group.

nosleepforme · 29/09/2025 17:29

hallogalorrr · 29/09/2025 17:27

I tried to talk to her earlier when she got back from the school run.

In other words she said they wouldn’t want to join a neighbourhood chat as they don’t really find the people friendly apart from XYZ (neighbour across the street who she is friendly with) and she said they didn’t intend on sticking round here long and made a joke of saying “Let’s hope your new neighbours aren’t too nosy or noisy like most folk around here” and tuned her back to me before walking off.

I think she is referring my Ringdoor capturing some of her property ( I asked her once if that was her sister visiting when it pinged on my Ring).

She also has had an issue with my next door neighbour’s kids trespassing on her drive which I know she hated as it would wake her kids up.

I think they just hate living round here

I will pop round with some chocolate or something as I can see why they feel ostracised.

You capture her visitors on your camera and then question her about it? Oh my…

Arlanymor · 29/09/2025 17:33

You ask her about her visitors who are not on your property?

Blushingm · 29/09/2025 17:34

hallogalorrr · 29/09/2025 11:02

I didn’t think that she would want to join as I think her and her OH like to keep themselves to themselves.

She does make it fairly obvious now that she dosent want to engage in convo (she used to chat before) and just walks off when she see’s me.

You assumed the ?

if they didn’t want join they could have declined/ignored the invite

As it stands you purposely excluded them - no wonder they’re pissed off

Coconutter24 · 29/09/2025 17:34

I think she is referring my Ringdoor capturing some of her property ( I asked her once if that was her sister visiting when it pinged on my Ring).
She also has had an issue with my next door neighbour’s kids trespassing on her drive which I know she hated as it would wake her kids up.

Just from reading this I can’t tell YABU. Both things above I’d be annoyed about, your camera filming my property is one thing but to be asking who people are when they visit? That’s batshit crazy.
You created a group that included 3 streets yet you didn’t include your neighbour, of course they’d not want to talk to you after you excluded them

ItstheHRTpat · 29/09/2025 17:35

Sounds like a really lovely place to live...

AOIFEmissingUalways · 29/09/2025 17:36

Ah c'mon! You're taking us for fools now @hallogalorrr

Ring doorbell capturing some of her property - illegal!
I asked her once if that was her sister visiting when it pinged on my Ring - fucking hell! The cheek of you!

had an issue with my next door neighbour’s kids trespassing on her drive - and? Of course that's a problem!

Christ Almighty, no wonder she wants to move.

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 29/09/2025 17:44

Can't imagine why she finds the people rude when you deliberately exclude her from the FB group and question her over her visitors!

HurdyGurdy19 · 29/09/2025 17:45

hallogalorrr · 29/09/2025 17:27

I tried to talk to her earlier when she got back from the school run.

In other words she said they wouldn’t want to join a neighbourhood chat as they don’t really find the people friendly apart from XYZ (neighbour across the street who she is friendly with) and she said they didn’t intend on sticking round here long and made a joke of saying “Let’s hope your new neighbours aren’t too nosy or noisy like most folk around here” and tuned her back to me before walking off.

I think she is referring my Ringdoor capturing some of her property ( I asked her once if that was her sister visiting when it pinged on my Ring).

She also has had an issue with my next door neighbour’s kids trespassing on her drive which I know she hated as it would wake her kids up.

I think they just hate living round here

I will pop round with some chocolate or something as I can see why they feel ostracised.

I was rolling my eyes at your first couple of posts, as you came across as a typical playground mean girl, deciding who could join your "gang", and who was to be ostracised and bitched about behind their back..

But having read this latest pile of tripe, I don't believe a word of it, and I think it is a made up, goady post.

AOIFEmissingUalways · 29/09/2025 17:47

HurdyGurdy19 · 29/09/2025 17:45

I was rolling my eyes at your first couple of posts, as you came across as a typical playground mean girl, deciding who could join your "gang", and who was to be ostracised and bitched about behind their back..

But having read this latest pile of tripe, I don't believe a word of it, and I think it is a made up, goady post.

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+1 Hurdy.

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hallogalorrr · 29/09/2025 18:07

No it’s a genuine thread.

My other neighbours Ringdoor captures some of my drive as these are terraced houses with an odd set up.

My other neighbours front door is outside my drive, these are new builds hence the strange set up.

I will definitely buy her a small gift as I really am not a mean girl and don’t want her to feel the way she does.

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Nanny0gg · 29/09/2025 18:16

hallogalorrr · 29/09/2025 18:07

No it’s a genuine thread.

My other neighbours Ringdoor captures some of my drive as these are terraced houses with an odd set up.

My other neighbours front door is outside my drive, these are new builds hence the strange set up.

I will definitely buy her a small gift as I really am not a mean girl and don’t want her to feel the way she does.

And MYOB. Pretend you haven't seen anyone at her door unless their wearing stripes and carrying a bag with SWAG written on it

LorrieTosh · 29/09/2025 18:17

hallogalorrr · 29/09/2025 18:07

No it’s a genuine thread.

My other neighbours Ringdoor captures some of my drive as these are terraced houses with an odd set up.

My other neighbours front door is outside my drive, these are new builds hence the strange set up.

I will definitely buy her a small gift as I really am not a mean girl and don’t want her to feel the way she does.

But in what world is it normal to ask your neighbour who the visitors you recorded on your doorbell are? I share a path with my neighbours and wouldn’t dream of mentioning anybody or anything my doorbell picked up - it’s so intrusive and weird!

3456DDF · 29/09/2025 18:20

Yeah, a box of chocolates is really going to make her feel included 😂

Too little, too late @hallogalorrr