Was I in the wrong? Neighbour issue?

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I created a private Facebook group for the 3 streets on the new build estate where I live.

Most of my neighbours are on it.

My next door neighbour who lives next to me has stopped speaking to me now as from what I gather her and her partner were annoyed that I didn’t invite them to join the group.

I did ask my other next door neighbour to join.

Yesterday we got back at the same time in our cars and I could tell they didn’t want to acknowledge me or say hello as they just sat in their car until I had gone in.

My neighbour would also take by bin and parcels but has stopped.

Is my next door neighbour right to be annoyed and AIBU?

That’s a shit excuse! Just ask them and stop thinking for other people

Were you expecting these neighbours to buy your DC a birthday present? You obviously don't like them as you deliberately excluded them from the Facebook group so they are now reciprocating that disklike. They have done you favours in the past like taking in your parcels and taking your bin out and you have rewarded them by not inviting them to join your Facebook group. You have only yourself to blame.

😂 You're obviously being unreasonable. Plus why would they buy your kids presents if they don't even make it into your neighborhood club 😂

So you’ve deliberately excluded someone that did you favours, bins/parcels and are now surprised that they are cross? Yes, YABU OP.

Is this a reverse? How can anyone be so monumentally entitled?

I'm so glad she's seen your true colours, bring in your own bloody bins!

And how dare you expect presents from her?

Right so you did invite your other neighbour because you speak to them more so you were creating a clique rather than a group for streets. You reap what you sow.

Ooofe. No. You don't assume stuff like this.

Put an apologetic note through.

Honestly OP this is reading like a long wind-up. Either that, or you're very unaware of basic manners and sensibilities, so going forward in life, remember, it's not up to you to decide how other people feel or think.

As for keeping themselves to themselves, you should know that people can be on Facebook to see what's going on locally, without having to participate. You could easily have said, not sure if it's your thing, but would you like to join, no offence if not.

You've excluded your neighbours and now they're doing the same you're offended. I'm not sure why you don't realise the offence you've caused.

You ignored her online - what do you expect? Why should she give a gift to the son of someone who excludes her from a Facebook group? Honestly, why can't you see that YOU created this situation? You don't sound like a very good neighbour.

I'm waiting for the OP to let us know the penny has dropped....

There is something wrong with you.YOU have created this drama and are now complaining? Yes of course you are in the wrong.

You were catty to not include them. Rude

Either it is for the three streets, in which case you should have invited everyone by leafletting through letterboxes and let them decide whether to join, or it is for your selective group of neighbours who you happen to deem friendly. Why would they even know it was your dc birthday if you barely acknowledge each other?

No one's this dim, has to be a reverse. Come on OP, own up.

Also OP look at the poll - 98% think you are completely unreasonable.

Please wake up, because I cannot believe that anyone is this naive - and that is putting it kindly.

I hope you have a decent coffee machine & snacks...

Yeah, you got this one wrong. My neighbours are quiet and not really on SM but very neighbourly (as yours were before) and I know they see things in the FB group which are useful, even if they don’t join in the chat about the phantom dog-poo leaver.

I would say sorry with a cake, and hopefully it’ll be back to normal.

So you deliberately excluded them and now wonder why they don't like you. Back to primary school with you.

Ooh can you upset me next please!?!?!

You should have asked and given the opportunity for refusal.
I think your behaviour was a bit rude, tbh.

Brownies or blondies?! My NDN are fab so I tend to make them brownies to say thank you every so often.

This ⬆️.
Cliques are horrible.

Well, now you know what it feels like to be left out.

Your neighbour is being childish, but you started (just to continue in the childish attitude!).

Why did you assume they wouldn't want to be part of the group? Just because they are quieter? They may be painfully shy, massive introverts and in which case, possibly engaging in a Facebook group may be much more comfortable and easier for them than face to face on the street.

You're all behaving like 12 year olds. Grow up and apologise, and hopefully they will follow suit.

(Edited as got Facebook/Whatsapp muddled up)

Your neighbour is being childish,

Not as I read it.